Working moms with 2U2....any regrets?

Jansheski

Hi I am new here and my husband and I are talking about having out 2 LO close in age. I would love to have them around 15 months apart because that's what I had when I was growing up and I loved having my sister so close in age to me. When I mentioned this to my mom she thought I was crazy and that I wouldn't enjoy my DS if I had another right away. I pointed out that she did the same thing but she said it was different because she didn't work. So my question is for those of you that are working moms do u have any regrets having ur 2 so close together?

ctbride08

nope

zestyfrog7

Not even for a moment...and crazily enough I do have to talk myself out of having another right away!!!  Mostly because I know it is just hormones talking and that I really do want to wait a bit before the next one.

I love that my girls will be so close in age and be able to really relate to each other, the are 17 months apart.  

kle0113

No!  I don't have any regrets.  I actually think I'm a better mom because I work! 

ETA: My two are 16 months apart - were to be 18, but my second had other plans and I do think about having one more close in age.  MH on the other hand wants to wait a little longer. 

alliejo725

I'm just a lurker (though I am going to have 2u2). I also won't be working when we have LO#2, even though I'm currently working part-time with DD.

Anyway, I just wanted to point out---no one regrets their children. I wish I didn't have to work right now, but that doesn't mean I regret having DD in the first place. Nobody feels that way. (At least no sane, loving parent does.)

If you have another right away, you're not going to regret anything. You're going to work it out because that's what we do. It doesn't matter if you're working full time, part-time, or staying at home---we all have to work it out when our families grow.

laura1

I work part time nights, so not full time, but honestly I feel like having them close together was actually easier on us...at least at this stage of the game.  They are pretty similar and do similar things - they both go to "school" 2 days a week (so I can sleep after my night shift), and rely on each other a lot.  Next year, I am sending them both 3 days a week, even though DD will only be 2 because I think that she would hate to feel left out and I am sending DS 3 days for his pre-school.  

At the beginning, they are both babies so you are just in the diaper changing, lack of sleep mode.  There was no going backwards having to remember what it was like.  And, if you have never had kids farther apart, then you have no idea what it is like any other way.  

My kids are 15 months apart, and best friends.  They keep each other entertained while I make dinner, and are so excited to see each other in the morning and after naps when they wake up.  I wouldn't change a thing. 

Daisy22

My boys are 15months apart and I love it now since they play together and are bffs now. But that first year was hard and I had a lot of guilt that while I was pg with ds2 I couldn't do a lot of the things I wanted to with ds1. I do feel like I missed out on ds1's 6mths to 15 mths b/c I was so exhausted and miserable with the pg. If I had good easy pg I might feel differently but I'm not a good pg person.

With all that, you do figure it out and find what works best for you and your family. We actually only send them 3 days a week now and I work 10 hour days on those 3 days then do the rest of my hours during naps/night time. It works for us and gives me 2 days with them and to do appts for them, errands etc.

Cilley

No way! Wouldn't have it any other way!

Jansheski

Thank you girls I appreciate the input. I know it isn't easy having 2 LO's close in age but I can see why you all love it so much. This has really put me @ ease hopefully I will be joining you for real in a couple months!

MammaBear81

No regrets for having 2 under 2 and working, I wouldn't change the spacing of my kids for anything.  I'd prefer to work part time, or SAH, but that would be the same if I had 1 kid or a dozen, it's just not possible right now.

itsmevkb

I'm not clear on why working would factor into this.  One of the things I enjoy most about my kids is how they interact together so no, I have no regrets about the spacing of my children, although mine are all about two and a half years apart I would have had 2 under 2 except for my miscarriages.  My youngest will be around 18 months when this baby is born and I think it won't be hugely different from my others, except Sully won't be able to go get me diapers and wipes like my older ones do now!