- Pregnancy
- Baby & Toddler
- Parents
- Getting Pregnant
- Baby Names
- Product Reviews
-
Registry
- Community
-
More
Want a personalized experience?
Download the free app
Infertility
Bfn
IF is a strange little thing. I finally was able to do ivf and I foolishly thought that it would work....the first time. I convinced myself and my husband that I would do this crazy thing only once and then I would be at peace regardless of how it turned out. We really couldn't afford the procedure but took out loans anyways knowing this would be our one and only shot. Then somewhere around the 2ww I began thinking about doing it all over again. I told myself that I could put us on a tight budget..I would take out more loans ...I would totally give this ivf process another shot. And then today I got my BFfN and the thought of doing this all over again makesme sick and shelling out another 15000 just seems insane. How do you begin to make sense of all this???
This discussion has been closed.
Re: Bfn
Sorry to hear that. IF is such a difficult process and there are some many ups and downs - it makes for one crazy ride. On top of all the emotions there is that financial burden that is just outrageous.
Were you able to freeze any embryos? It's a difficult decision either way you slice it...are you okay with adoption? For me, I want to carry my baby and I really want to experience the whole process - so I would try again. But that is just me. It is a decision that you and your husband will have to make together. I'm sorry you have to go through this.
Married 09.9.11 (Me:31 and DH:31)
TWIN BOYS<br>
Left Tubal Ligation in 2004
1.2.12 BFP
1.16.12 LAP due to Ectopic @ 7w, Right Tubal Ligation
3.19.12 IVF #1 - Stims (Lupron + Gonal F + Luveris)
3.29 ER - 6 snowbabies (ET postponed due to OHSS)
FET 6/6 - transferred two 4AB snowbabies
Beta #1 6/16 = 683, Beta #2 6/18 = 1703, Beta #3 6/20 = 4073, u/s #1 @ 5wks = TWINS!!, 7w u/s two heartbeats
***SAIFW & PAIFW***
TTC since 2005
missed miscarriage nov 2006- 4 failed clomid cycles-
3 failed femara iui cycles-
moving on to IVF oct 2011
ER nov. 7th
tansfered 2 blasts on 11/10
lots of +hpt!!
beta #1 on 11/21= 50.4
beta #2 on11/23= 90.8
another miscarriage 12/23
moving on to Round 2 of IVF with an auto immune dx
ER 4/23-retrieved 12 eggs
ET 4/28 3 transfered
Beta #1- 356
Beta #2- 870
PAIFW/SAIFW
DS1 born July 2002 (previous marriage).
TTC since Oct 08. DH Dx w/testicular cancer March 09.
MFI due to retrograde ejaculation/azoospermia.
5/2 IVF #1 cancelled due to large follie.
6/14 start Lupron for IVF #1.2. 6/22 start stims.
7/4 ER and Biopsy.
7/9 Transferred 2 (1-4BB and 1-3BB) embryos. 4 frosties.
7/15 +HPT 6dp5dt. 7/18 Beta #1: 193. 7/20 Beta #2: 415.
8/10 1st u/s - It's triplets!
Thank you all for your kind words. I don't get to post here often, but I appreciate the support I have received here on my short stay. I pray and give you all my best wishes for your journeys. IF is cruel joke that life plays on all of us. The best advice I can give is that everyone finds acceptance in this journey we call life. Best of luck to you all
You are all strong women who have embraced this difficult life journey!
I am so sorry about this. I think we all hope that the 1st IVF will work for us. Unfortunately, there are more people that it doesnt work for than it does..Yet somehow when we make the investment and commitment to doing it, we have so much hope...there is a fine line between being optimistic and being realistic and I still havent figured that one out yet.
IF is so cruel and its just not fair. Allow yourself time to process and re-evaluate. Also, if finances are the issue, check out the Cade Foundation...They provide grants to couples who are struggling and have helps so many people achieve their dreams of becoming parents.
Good luck!