Oh DH.

ta78

I apologize in advance, I don't know how to separate paragraphs on my iPad. I have said before that we aren't TTC, but also not preventing. DH has said he wants to wait until this summer to start trying. We were at a family BBQ this weekend and were asked when #2 was coming, I said "i would love to be pregnant by now, but DH wants to wait a few more months." He then said, "I don't care when." That's it. We literally talked about it a week ago and he said June/Julyish. For whatever reason. He doesn't understand how hard it's been for me to wait, I have wanted another baby for the past 9 months. So I guess that we can officially start trying.. Honestly we just don't have sex all that often which is why we dont prevent. Anyways.. I have recently started charting but not temping, mostly to track my cycles because they are about 33 days and I lose track. I would be in the 2ww right now, but there is a very slim chance I am pregnant right now. Just wanted to share with someone. I'm frustrated w our lack of communication, but excited at the same time.

littlemermaid

Sometimes there's nothing better than having someone else to put them on the spot.

mgarza1231

Good luck TTC!

ta78

It was just my aunt that asked us.. unless you are talking about here on the board?

Our schedule is always packed and DH works long hours, so I am excited to start trying.

J&A2008

Babies are great at elevating stress levels in people and marriages.  Are you a little concerned about your lack of communication?  I don't know that I'd be TTC under the conditions you mentioned.  I'd want my H fully onboard and excited about the prospect of another. 

If you're already pg, then there's not much more to discuss, but if you're not, why not wait until you guys are able to talk things through better.  Are you both okay with not having sex very often?  Is he certain he wants more than one?

EveryNameIWantIsTaken

J&A2008:

Babies are great at elevating stress levels in people and marriages.  Are you a little concerned about your lack of communication?  I don't know that I'd be TTC under the conditions you mentioned.  I'd want my H fully onboard and excited about the prospect of another. 

If you're already pg, then there's not much more to discuss, but if you're not, why not wait until you guys are able to talk things through better.  Are you both okay with not having sex very often?  Is he certain he wants more than one?

Maybe some guys just don't get all giddy and excited.  When we've decided to ttc both times dh has always just gone along, and he's a great, happy father in a loving marriage with great communication.  He's never been the planner, never will be.

ta78

J&A2008:

Babies are great at elevating stress levels in people and marriages.  Are you a little concerned about your lack of communication?  I don't know that I'd be TTC under the conditions you mentioned.  I'd want my H fully onboard and excited about the prospect of another. 

If you're already pg, then there's not much more to discuss, but if you're not, why not wait until you guys are able to talk things through better.  Are you both okay with not having sex very often?  Is he certain he wants more than one?

Under the conditions I mentioned? I didn't mean for it to sound like DH and I don't discuss anything, just a little miscommunication. He wanted to wait until this summer, for numerous reasons, and although I have been baby crazy for awhile, I was understanding and fine with waiting to TTC in June. I think he realized this weekend that it's only a couple months away now so we don't need to really worry about waiting any longer. He 100% wants more children and will be excited when we do have one, he is less excited about making a big deal of trying to have one.

 As far as how often we have sex.. yes, we are both fine with it and have talked in length about it. He has been working 12 hour shifts, on top of everything else we have going on and we find time when we can or need to.

The point of my post was to say, we are going to start TTC by making a point to do it during my most fertile days. He is ready now that summer is around the corner, not that our marriage is failing.

ta78

J&A2008:

Babies are great at elevating stress levels in people and marriages.  Are you a little concerned about your lack of communication?  I don't know that I'd be TTC under the conditions you mentioned.  I'd want my H fully onboard and excited about the prospect of another. 

If you're already pg, then there's not much more to discuss, but if you're not, why not wait until you guys are able to talk things through better.  Are you both okay with not having sex very often?  Is he certain he wants more than one?

Under the conditions I mentioned? I didn't mean for it to sound like DH and I don't discuss anything, just a little miscommunication. He wanted to wait until this summer, for numerous reasons, and although I have been baby crazy for awhile, I was understanding and fine with waiting to TTC in June. I think he realized this weekend that it's only a couple months away now so we don't need to really worry about waiting any longer. He 100% wants more children and will be excited when we do have one, he is less excited about making a big deal of trying to have one.

 As far as how often we have sex.. yes, we are both fine with it and have talked in length about it. He has been working 12 hour shifts, on top of everything else we have going on and we find time when we can or need to.

The point of my post was to say, we are going to start TTC by making a point to do it during my most fertile days. He is ready now that summer is around the corner, not that our marriage is failing.

kcisthebombdotcom

Kimbus22:

Is it possible he just said he didn't care to avoid the family trying to cajole him into it?  That's what my DH would do.

Good luck TTC!

This for sure. I would talk about it one last time just the two of you. I'm sure he meant it because there's not a huge difference between a 5-6 weeks--it's nearly May.

ta78

No, we talked about it again and the reality is it is basically May which is only an extra month from what we had originally talked about.

J&A2008

ta78:

J&A2008:

Babies are great at elevating stress levels in people and marriages.  Are you a little concerned about your lack of communication?  I don't know that I'd be TTC under the conditions you mentioned.  I'd want my H fully onboard and excited about the prospect of another. 

If you're already pg, then there's not much more to discuss, but if you're not, why not wait until you guys are able to talk things through better.  Are you both okay with not having sex very often?  Is he certain he wants more than one?

Under the conditions I mentioned? I didn't mean for it to sound like DH and I don't discuss anything, just a little miscommunication. He wanted to wait until this summer, for numerous reasons, and although I have been baby crazy for awhile, I was understanding and fine with waiting to TTC in June. I think he realized this weekend that it's only a couple months away now so we don't need to really worry about waiting any longer. He 100% wants more children and will be excited when we do have one, he is less excited about making a big deal of trying to have one.

 As far as how often we have sex.. yes, we are both fine with it and have talked in length about it. He has been working 12 hour shifts, on top of everything else we have going on and we find time when we can or need to.

The point of my post was to say, we are going to start TTC by making a point to do it during my most fertile days. He is ready now that summer is around the corner, not that our marriage is failing.

Oh, good!  I'm glad you clarified.  Sorry for misreading the tone of your post. 

BritClen

Going from 1 to 2 is hard, mainly when your first is still going through baby stuff, I felt horrible trying to potty train DD#1 while having a new born on top of getting her to sleep in a big kid bed....

if i could do it again I would have waited till DD#1 was 2 1/2-3