An Angry Day

ashleymarie2390

I am just over all angry with the world today and I know that's completely unhealthy, but that's what today has brought. I went from finally getting my BFP to BFN all in a week and it has taken a toll on me. How do you ladies cope with all the emotions and how long are you waiting to try again?

ashleymarie2390

Thanks. The past few days I've just wanted to be left alone, but I am trying as best as I can to have life go on. My DH just deals with it so much better it seems on the outside, I am not sure how he actually feels because he judt doesn't want to discuss it. I think my biggest fear is not being able to concieve again and if I do the same thing will happen.

jswenny

It is very hard and emotional to experience that all in one week.  I miscarried 3 weeks ago so I only knew I was pregnant for 3 weeks total.  Is is very overwhelming, but I think the girl who responded and said to keep busy and avoid surrounding yourself with things that make you sad is a good idea.  You can try to meditate or exercise.  Some people do keep a journal, but I'm not really into that.  You could see a therapist or try praying.  Sometimes it's just finding whatever workds for you.  It might take some time, but it's worth a try.  Sorry for your loss.

krisztina33

I think your anger is completely normal.  It comes with grief. 

I experienced it all within a week too--BFP--first blood test looked great, two days later--imminent miscarriage.  It's a LOT to take in and I think as far as dealing with the emotions, I am just rolling with them as they come.  I didn't take time off work--needed the distraction, but I also am not "hiding my feelings".  If I burst into tears, so be it.  I think the more you allow yourself to feel all those feelings, the quicker healing will come.

As far as how long to wait, check with your doctor.  Every MC and every woman is different.  Mine has asked me to wait a full cycle, but some women need to wait shorter or longer, so check with your OBGYN.

And the fear that a PP mentioned--I am TERRIFIED of trying again.  I want to so badly, but I am so scared of another MC.  I guess that is normal.

Sorry for your loss!  <<hugs>>

kelly321

Anger is totally normal. I was stuck in the "anger" stage of grief for about a week and was pretty snippy with DH and my family, but have started to get past it now. I'm very sorry for your loss.

Rachaeleigh

Similar to what others have said: I have angry days. I've mentioned this on a previous post but the best advice I've received is to let myself be inconsistent. It's ok if I'm laughing or happy for Two days but then crying the next. All normal. I deal by exercising, staying busy w school/work, and being around other people, even though I don't feel like it. That's just me though. For this first month post d&c we're TTA, mostly bc Dr said "nothing in the vagina for 4 weeks." Yes, 4 weeks!! *sigh* She might also be doing some further testing since this is my 3rd loss but DH and I are just going to keep plugging along when we're given the ok. Hugs