MIL Monday anyone?

jodywelsh

The Feb 2012 board started MIL Mondays which sounds awesome to me since I love the MIL posts!

 I will start.... Fortunately I haven't seen my crazy MIL for a couple weeks so this one goes back to Easter. She got each of the grandkids a little giftbag which was really nice of her. In my DS's bag was a stuffed dog, a ring pop and one of those giant suckers. DH opened it and said "awesome I  love ringpops, thanks!" She then got really mad because she figured out that we weren't going to let our 2 1/2 month old son have the suckers! She even argued with me that it wouldn't hurt him and we should let him have it just because she gave it to him. Of course this is the woman who rolled her eyes when I told her he didn't get water, milk is all he needs and she wanted to put cereal in his milk when he was two days old. I am lucky to have a wonderful DH who understands that she isn't physically or mentally capable of watching our son so he shuts down those requests pretty fast. Her heart is in the right place but she just isn't able.

 Anyone else have a MIL you want to brag or vent about???

megaloo27

My Mil just told us she wants to help us buy a house when we are ready! We are missionaries so we still move around a lot and don't have a place to settle yet, but I'm excited! 

eklanger

MIL's side of the family asked about baptizing yesterday.  We had already decided it wasn't for us because neither of us is religious and we don't plan to raise our children with a religion.  Everyone was really great about respecting our decision (DH comes from a catholic family so I wasn't sure how everyone would take it)... except MIL she was visibly upset and said we should so that "when she wants to get married and the man asks if she has done her sacraments she can say she has"...

.... right... that's not a good enough reason for me. She always makes a point of saying she isn't judging me, but it comes across in little ways.  At least DH was the one to tell her and he feels more strongly about it than I do so I didn't have to be the one to defend our decision.

neener3

After my mother-in-law buying me "much bigger clothes, because you're going to need them!" for Christmas, and then calling my mom to commiserate about us not letting anyone come to the hospital (which backfired, and my mom told her off), DH now has MIL come over when I'm not around.  

 

So she came over Saturday while I was at a photography class.  This is her status: Hanging out with Henry. WOW what a difference a couple of weeks make at this age!! 

Read: I'm going to put on facebook how you never let me see my grandson.

 

Now lets talk about the night DH and I went to our first movie.  I don't trust her to watch DS, so we had DH's stepmom and dad watch him.  DH's mom and dad have spoken once in 20 years - on our wedding trip.  DH posted on fb that we were having a "big night out" and where DS was.  When we came back to pick up DS, MIL was THERE.  No joke.  She showed up.  At her ex-husband's house. Who she hates.  She has since shown up in three different places that we've posted about on FB.  We no longer post anything about where we'll be.  Stalker. 

namara5532

My MIL is insisting that she take DS from us in a couple weeks.  Originally, she was saying we could use that opportunity to go on our belated honeymoon (I was pregnant when we got married) without asking if she think I'll be comfortable enough pumping by that point.  Well a couple weeks out and I haven't gotten the hang of pumping yet.  Luckily I have enough milk frozen for a few hours, so we're going to go out for dinner instead and hold off on the honeymoon until he's weaned.  I'm excited actually to let MIL finally get to meet DS, but I hope she isn't put off by the change in plans.

namara5532

FarmBoysWife:

Im looking for the perfect ticker to count the days till my vacation with mil.. this is going to probably be daily rants about her again because she was crushed when dh told her he couldn't hold ds 24/7 and that i dont get much time with ds. I hope i get the plague and cant go down. And someone tell me.. why cant she come up here? weve spent the money and gone down Three to four times for her once.. ***.

You could title it "Countdown to Hell Week."  Or how about "Days to get the plague"?

lp0

I love this post! My MIL is my primary source of stress and aggravation so any opportunity to vent is fine with me. I have successfully avoided my mil since Easter. The other day she calls and gives me a hard time because I was going over my friend's house with ds. The day before I was at my parents because they just got back from 2 weeks away on vacation. The day before that I was at my brother's house because we went together to go get my parents from the airport. Well she basically snaps at me that I'm rubbing it in that everyone else is enjoying him but her. Excuse me?! I didn't offer up where I was the last three days, she was grilling me on my every waking breath as usual. AND if she wasnt such a disgusting hoarder who lives in filth, maybe ds and I could come for a visit. I'd rather go to her house so I could leave when I wanted instead of having her come and park herself at our house for 10 of the longest hours of my life!

Huahine

neener3:

After my mother-in-law buying me "much bigger clothes, because you're going to need them!" for Christmas, and then calling my mom to commiserate about us not letting anyone come to the hospital (which backfired, and my mom told her off), DH now has MIL come over when I'm not around.  

 

So she came over Saturday while I was at a photography class.  This is her status: Hanging out with Henry. WOW what a difference a couple of weeks make at this age!! 

Read: I'm going to put on facebook how you never let me see my grandson.

 

Now lets talk about the night DH and I went to our first movie.  I don't trust her to watch DS, so we had DH's stepmom and dad watch him.  DH's mom and dad have spoken once in 20 years - on our wedding trip.  DH posted on fb that we were having a "big night out" and where DS was.  When we came back to pick up DS, MIL was THERE.  No joke.  She showed up.  At her ex-husband's house. Who she hates.  She has since shown up in three different places that we've posted about on FB.  We no longer post anything about where we'll be.  Stalker. 

Okay, that's nuts.  Have you considered installing a homing device somewhere on your LO in anticipation of the day that your MIL takes off with him?   

MrsAMB07

Huahine:

neener3:

After my mother-in-law buying me "much bigger clothes, because you're going to need them!" for Christmas, and then calling my mom to commiserate about us not letting anyone come to the hospital (which backfired, and my mom told her off), DH now has MIL come over when I'm not around.  

 

So she came over Saturday while I was at a photography class.  This is her status: Hanging out with Henry. WOW what a difference a couple of weeks make at this age!! 

Read: I'm going to put on facebook how you never let me see my grandson.

 

Now lets talk about the night DH and I went to our first movie.  I don't trust her to watch DS, so we had DH's stepmom and dad watch him.  DH's mom and dad have spoken once in 20 years - on our wedding trip.  DH posted on fb that we were having a "big night out" and where DS was.  When we came back to pick up DS, MIL was THERE.  No joke.  She showed up.  At her ex-husband's house. Who she hates.  She has since shown up in three different places that we've posted about on FB.  We no longer post anything about where we'll be.  Stalker. 

Okay, that's nuts.  Have you considered installing a homing device somewhere on your LO in anticipation of the day that your MIL takes off with him?   

You should totally send her to the wrong places. That would get the point across! 

raefre

FarmBoysWife:

Im looking for the perfect ticker to count the days till my vacation with mil.. this is going to probably be daily rants about her again because she was crushed when dh told her he couldn't hold ds 24/7 and that i dont get much time with ds. I hope i get the plague and cant go down. And someone tell me.. why cant she come up here? weve spent the money and gone down Three to four times for her once.. ***.

 This was my mother's issue with my dad's parents.  They were an 8 hour drive away and always expected us to (a family with 2 young kids at the time) to make the drive for a weekend.  As a result, my mother makes a conscious effort to make the 3 hour drive to see us. 

I really don't have any *complaints* about MIL that I haven't already posted about. I will say that she has seemed to be more sensitive to what I need. Instead of just doing something, she now asks.  I think SIL2 talked to her about some of it.  I also think my hormones aren't as raging as they were in pregnancy so some things I tolerate better.