Non Compliant Grandparents

KellyD01

I personally think you're being a little too controlling. I'm assuming that you aren't paying them to care for your child so basically you have to decide on what things are absolutely not ok and go from there.With everything you listed there are a lot of things I would have freaked over when it came to DS (my first) and others that wouldn't have phased me. From your list the only thing that would phase me now is the marbles. and I can tell you everyone claims I'm the most overprotective anal parent they know.

The milk thing is not a big deal, but if you want her drinking that milk then you need to provide it if it's not the milk they drink.

Grandpa falling asleep... depending on how heavy a sleeper he is and how childproof the house is would alter my feelings on that, but I've been known to fall asleep w/o intending w/ all 3 kids playing at my feet. Now if he was the only one home and intentionally took a nap then that's a problem. Or if he falls asleep frequently w/o meaning to.

Sleeping Schedule... I'd think it odd if they stuck to your routine, grandparents spoil, it's what they do. So they want to spend as much time awake w/ their granddaughter as they can. I don't think that's odd. 

I can't blame them for not buying a crib either... you want them to keep her over night in a crib you need to provide it. they shouldn't have to spend $150 or more  for something she's not going to use much longer.

Cleaning bathrooms not something I'd like but my kids have snuck up on me before and for the once a week this might happen I wouldn't like it but it's not a reason for me to freak out. 

 Now... the marbles that would be something I'd ask them WTF they were thinking! Although that's IF they allowed her to play with them. If they found her playing w/ them and took them away that's a slightly different story.