Harrasment. . . WWYD??

princesa2423

Lurker with yet another q . . . 

 So currently going through the divorce process (ugh . . .), and only allowing STBXH to have supervised visits with DD for now because she isn't very familiar with him and is going through that separation anxiety, and because he has been very unstable (anger outbursts, history of domestic violence, etc). The judge is sending us to mediation so we can work out custody and visitation issues. However, now STBXH's g/f is harassing me via e-mail. She's sent me two VERY insulting e-mails (from his e-mail address) about how I never knew how to be a wife, am a bad mother, self-centered (none of which are true, my DD comes first in EVERYTHING). They have both proved to be very unreasonable and unyielding, so I haven't responded because I'm not looking for arguments, or that back and forth stuff, I have better things to do with my time and life. I'm just curious, what would you all do in this situation?

scout426

I went to court for harrassment.  Two emails won't get you a foot in the door.  I had 15-20 phone calls a day plus text plus emails and all I got was a stern lecture from the judge towards Stbxh warning him about being charged in the future with harrassment.  I can't do anything more until he is out of control again. So far he has stayed in the guidelines of no more than 3 calls,texts, or emails a day.  Just keep ignoring them.   good luck 

SemperFiPurpleHeart

Contact your attorney! They will contact his who will talk to him to tell his g/f to cut it out. Or tell her you will call the police and file a complaint against her.

PrettyInPearls23

It's only two emails. Ignore them (as you've been doing) and she'll eventually give up. However, if the tone of the emails turns into something more threatening, I wouldn't ignore that. Have your attorney contact her personally with a warning. That might work.

dmndsr4eva

PrettyInPearls23:

It's only two emails. Ignore them (as you've been doing) and she'll eventually give up. However, if the tone of the emails turns into something more threatening, I wouldn't ignore that. Have your attorney contact her personally with a warning. That might work.

Aww, I love your new siggy pic.  Very cute!

PrettyInPearls23

tifanico:

It depends on what the emails said. Judging by what you are saying here, they are more insulting than threatening. 

I think you are doing right by ignoring them. Submit them to your lawyer and make sure they are included as evidence in court. That will speak volumes of his character and willingness to maintain an amicable co parenting relationship, which is one of the many criteria used to determine custody.  

Yes, this, especially since it's coming from HIS emaill account.

ashleyann331

First off, you need to ignore them. Which I'm sure you planned on doing it. Also, don't bring it up to ex husband unless your lawyer or a judge or other authoritative figure is present, bringing it up any other way will only start a fight

Then get a copy of the emails to your lawyer, and print off a copy for you as well. Keep those for mediation and/or court. While it doesn't qualify as harassment by law it does count as inappropriate and needs to be addressed by the judge. 

If the tone turns to threatening then contact your lawyer right away and depending on the laws where you live they can put a protective order against her.