When does it get better?

April!

It has now been 6 weeks since my miscarriage. I'm still so sad. I can go to work and fake it, but I still cry almost every night. My husband lives out of town for work, so I'm by myself most of the time. At least I have our cats! When is it going to get better? I feel like I'm not going to be happy until I get pregnant again, but what if something happens next time?

I also have been having cramps. I have had one period since my MC, and should be getting ready to O soon. Is that normal? Has anyone else had cramps this late after their MC? 

kim2lucky

I had my miscarriage in January of last year and I still cry about our loss.  We currently have a 6 week old baby girl, but the pain of losing a baby never goes away.  It does get easier with time.  I waited 3 months to try and get pregnant again (after my miscarriage).  I wasn't mentally ready before then.  When we read the positive pregnancy stick, I began to cry hystarically.  The thoughts of another loss ran through my mind.  I contacted my dr and insisted I had a sonogram at 6 weeks and then again at 9 weeks.  It put my mind at ease.  Unfortunatley, during my entire pregnancy, everytime I had a cramp I thought something was wrong.  But as you have more and more great dr visits your mind stops racing. 

Also, I cramped and bled for 2 months.  It is totally normal! 

Hope this helps! You are not alone!

katharine25

It gets better with time. Somedays are worse than others, but at some point it starts getting easier to take. After my first loss, it took me 2-1/2 months to get rid of the dead weight of sadness that pitted in my stomach. It gpt worse too before it got better. It still comes back on days, but it doesn't weigh me down as much as it did. 

Im so sorry for your loss. These are really dark and sad days. It is ok to cry, but do try and get back to a "normal" life - at some point you won't feel like your faking it anymore.

April!

Thanks so much to both of you for sharing. It helps to know it's "normal" to still feel sad.

I think I should probably wait a little bit longer to try again, since the thought of losing another baby is unbearable.