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Cmartin6706Cmartin6706 member
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Hey Ladies...

It's been several months and I'm not sure how many people who remember me are still on this board (although I do see some people I remember) and I know that a few of my closer bumpies have graduated! (Woohoo!!)

I wanted to do a quick update for everyone following our story...

 After 3 failed IUIs, 10 failed embryos and news that while it's likely Nicole's eggs it's possible that the issues might be related to her uterus as well Nicole and I have decided to bump up an option we never thought we'd get to: my best friend and Groomslady in our wedding is going to be our surrogate. Of course, this is more like a planned adoption as neither my wife nor I will be genetically related to the child (or children) but at this point we don't care. We are going to use our DS for a medicated IUI. She is very fertile at least she was. Both of her kids were oops babies and at least one was when she was switching to a different b/c. Of course that was 10 years ago. She is 37, but woman that age get pregnant all the time....and at this point she has a better chance than Nicole. 

We've talked to an attorney and based on the state the baby will be born in I can be listed on the birth cert bc I am the intended father. The only issue with this is that if she changes her mind right after then I might be on the hook for child support, but I'm confident that a DNA test will clear that right up! We totally trust our friend and she has told us several times that the baby will be ours no problem, that she doesn't want any more kids and she is only going to do this is we take the baby. We, of course, can't wait to have a baby!

I'm really hoping that we get pregnant soon and I can move officially to a pregnancy board. For now, I feel like I don't really fit anywhere, but if I'm posting I will likely do it in adoption until we are officially pregnant (through the surrogate).

As far as our foster care journey:

We are in our 6th of 10 weeks of classes. We have already passed our background clearances and our interview! We have finger printing scheduled for next Saturday and then still need a TB test and a home safety inspection. It's very realistic that we could have kids in here by the need of May!

 I wish you ladies all the best!!  Know that I am still thinking about your journeys!!

Chris 

***Loss and success mentioned***
Me:34, Wife: 32
IF reasoning = MFI: Zero Sperm Count using FairFax donor bank
IUI #1 - #3: 2011 = BFN
IVF: 2011 = BFN, lost all 10 embryos (with C/Ps)
Jan 2014 - OBGYN (not RE) found and removed wife's "field of" uterine polyps after failed IVF

Moving on to surrogacy (actually a planned adoption)
Surrogate IUI#1: 7.17.12 = BFP!! 15dpiui = 256, 17dpiui = 346
Oliver Zane born - 3/29/2013 on Good Friday!

IUI #4 - #6: 2014-2015 = BFN (with C/Ps)
Switch sperm donors, start ketosis diet to reduce inflammation late 2015
IVF 2: Jan and Feb 2016, 3 great looking, 8 cell 3 day embryos. Two ET, one frozen
2.18.2016 (8dp3dt) = BFFP!
2.22.2016 (12dp3dt) = 649!!

Started foster care experience in 2012. Now waiting to adopt our foster daughter, 7, who has lived with us for 3 years. 


"Wait for your God, and don't give up on Him - ever!" Hosea 12:6 (msg)

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Re: 0 Embryos left - Journey to Parenthood? Please take left turn

  • Blueyed228Blueyed228 member
    Welcome back and best of luck to you on your new journey :)
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    DX: PCOS/Recurrent losses/MTHFR mutation (compound hetero)
    5 hysteroscopies/2 surgical
    3 Inject IUIs = 2 m/c's and 1 BFN
    IVF #1= BFP. m/c at 7w6d. Needed 2 D&C's and scar tissue removal. Mild OHSS
    IVF #2 = BFP. Severe OHSS. 4 Drainings. TWINS!
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  • katib77katib77 member
    Hey Chris, Been wondering how you and your wife are doing recently.  Glad to hear you have such a giving friend!  That's an amazing gift.  And I'm so happy you guys are moving ahead with foster care as well.  You and Nicole will be great parents to any and all children that pass through your doors. Oh, and welcome back.

    TTC since July 2009. Dx MFI & LPD. 
    IUI#1&2&3 (2011 & 2012) BFN
    IUI#4 1/23/13 on 75iu x9 Follistim = BFP then chem preg m/c (Feb 2013)
    IUI#5 BFN (April 2013)
    IVF w/ICSI Oct. 2, 2012 - 13R, 11M, 7F, 1 frozen blast 4BB grade - - - FET Nov 15, 2013
    BFP! Beta 1:104 @ 10dp6dt, Beta 2:178 @ 12dp6dt,  beta 3:366 @ 14dp6dt
    Saw heartbeat twice before missed M/C at 8w3d on 12/27/13, missing my little angel boy
    JUNE 2014 IVF#2;  5R, 2M, 1F Three day transfer 6/7.  Beta 6/18 - BFN
    Child Free Now?
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  • lisagab26lisagab26 member
    I was just wondering about you guys recently.  It's been a long road for you, but it sounds like you have a great plan.  Best of luck moving forward!
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  • pinkmickey24pinkmickey24 member

    Hey Chris! Wishing you the best of luck as continue through this journey.

    ~TTC since July 2010~
    CD3 Bloodwork:Normal 
    HSG-Clear 
    SA:Low Morph 
    IVF with ICSI #1: ER 12/16 (4 ER/3 Mature/0 Fertilized) 
    IVF with ICSI #2: ER 5/17 (4 ER/4 Mature/3 Fertilized)/ET 5/20 (2 embryos transferred)-BFN 
    IVF with PICSI #3: ER 9/8 (11 ER/8 Mature/7 Fertilized)/ET 9/13 (2 AA blastocysts transferred) 
    Beta#1, 9/26/12: 719 Beta#2, 9/28/12: 1,436 Beta#3, 10/1/12: 3,446
    1st u/s on 10/10/12: It's Twins! We found out on 12/16/12 that we were having two BOYS!
    C & D were born on 5/16/13 at 10:46 am and 10:47 am


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  • d3esikad3esika member
    I was just thinking about another upstate/western NY GTG and was wondering about you guys.Congrats on this step!
    Dx: LPD, late ovulation;
     July 2012:IUI #6 on 7/28, BFP on 8/9,beta 97, 8/11 189, 8/13 400!!   DS born 4/18!
    9/30/13 - Miracle BFP, released from RE 10/21, EDD 6/6/14, DD born 5/27!
    6/19/16 - Miracle BFP, EDD 2/25/17

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  • pulga131pulga131
    Welcome back! I've been wondering about you. It is good news to hear that you have such an incredible friend- that is an amazing gift!  GL on your new tttc journey
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  • btaylor19btaylor19 member
    Welcome back!  I'm glad to hear you have a new plan that sounds pretty darn promising.  I can't wait for you to get some good news

    TTC since 2010

    lots of IUIs and 1 IVF all BFNs

    FET currently on hold

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  • machole513machole513
    Welcome back, as pp said I've been wondering how you and your wife have been doing. I hope everything works out for you guys!
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  • GregermisGregermis member
    Best of luck!
    TTC #1 Since 4/2010, Cycle 30
    Positive for HLA-B27, I'm a mutant :p
    Testing - Me ok, gluten issue? DH - borderline count, low motility
    4/28/11 IUI#1 = BFP!(5/25), EDD 2/2/12 - m/c 5w3d
    7/3, 7/31, 9/25 - IUI#2-4=BFN
    IVF#1 - 1 blast = BFP!! (12/30), EDD 9/9/12, confirmed c/p 4w2d
    FET#1 3/2/12 - 2 blasts =BFP!! EDD 11/18/12, us#1 = twins! Confirmed m/c 5w6d
    4/20-surprise BFP and another c/p 4w2d
    FET#2 7/16/12 - 2 blasts = BFN
    FET#3 8/20/12 - 1 blast - BFP!! Beta #1-2=177, 354
    1st u/s 5w6d, one beautiful little HB :), 2nd u/s 146bpm
    baby girl born 5/10/13

    TTC#2 since 12/17/2014, Cycle 8
    Repeat Testing...FSH=12, AMH=3.8, AFC=28. 
    IUI#5 5/10/15- c/p?
    IVF#2 8/19/15 - cancelled due to cysts
    IVF#2 take two 10/2015 - 5 blasts frozen
    FET#4 12/11/2015 - BFN - 4 blasts remaining
    FET#5 2/18/16 - BFP!!!  Beta1-3, 126, 250, 745!!

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  • racheyt0227racheyt0227 member
    Sounds like a really good plan! GL to you =)  I've been following some of your journey on FB, but the surrogacy I def did not know about!


    04/07/11- PCOS Diagnosis w/GYN. Put on Metformin (1500 mgs)
    04/25/11- 1st consultation with RE (Confirmed PCOS & Anovulation)
    05/09/11-HSG-All clear! 05/13/11-SA-Normal. Found out on 2/14/12, low Morph (1%).
    06/17/11-10 days of Clomid (100, 150) No response.
    07/10/11-03/20/12- 5 Injectable (Follistim) IUI cycles; 4 BFN, 1 C/P. (stims ranged from 11 days to 25 days)
    05/28/12-Diagnosed with Hypothyroidism. 75 mcg Synthroid.

    IVF with ICSI in June/July 2013 = BFP!. Beta # 1 = 123. Beta # 2 = 252. Due March 25th. Baby boy arrived March 27, 2013!

    FET #1 - 10/4/14 = BFP!! Beta #1 = 179. Beta # 2 = 499. Due June 22nd.

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  • Durham1008Durham1008 member

    That sounds great! Good luck with everything! Nice to see you again.

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  • hootie123hootie123 member

    Nice to hear from you Chris!  There are definitely some of us still here for the long haul. 

    Best of luck to you and Nicole in your adoption/surrogacy journey!  Keep us updated too!  

     TTC #1 since 6/09
    Dx: PCOS and MFI
    3 IUIs, 4 IVFs = BFFN
      3rd RE: IVF #5/FET = BFP
    14dp5dt=1170 16dp5dt=2573
    1st u/s=    TWINS!
    It's a Boy and a Girl!

    Born at 34w3d! 
     

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  • MsGMChickMsGMChick member
    Good luck, Chris!!
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  • Ms H13Ms H13 member
    Chris, what a wonderful friend, and a wonderful gift for you and Nicole - I can't think of anyone who deserves it more.  Best of luck on your 'left turn', and also congrats and best of luck with fostering - you guys will be great at all!  Many hugs to you both.
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  • brachatziporabrachatzipora member
    I remember you from when I joined here (though you might not remember me!).  Best of luck on your new journey!
    Baking Blog | TTC Blog | Pinterest
    TTC #1 since October 2010 | Began Testing in January 2012
    DH SA - low motility with 0% morph; varicocele (repaired); low T (on Clomid)
    IVF w/ICSI (long Lupron w/ Repronex and Follistim) in September 2012

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  • maggie2324maggie2324 member
    Thanks for the update! It has been quite some time. I hope surrogacy brings your take home baby!
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  • tombomb84tombomb84
    Hey!  I have been wondering about you over the past couple of months.  Sounds like you have a wonderful plan in place.  Keep us posted!
    DX: Anovulation
    TX: IUI #1-4 = BFN + 1 c/p
    IUI #5: Clomid 100mg + Bravelle + Trigger + B2B IUIs + 800mg Progesterone = BFP!
    Beta #1 (14dpiui): 460 Beta #2 (16dpiui): 998 Beta #3 (23dpiui): 21,832 Beta #4 (29dpiui): 129,771

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  • dimples128dimples128 member
    Welcome back and best of luck with everything!
    Brandon Le born 9/9/13 as a result of IVF#1


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  • RequiresExaltedRequiresExalted member

    I'm really new here, but I wanted to say: welcome back!  And it sounds like you've got a great plan in place!  That's wonderful that you have such a great friend who is willing to help you on your journey.

    Best of luck :) 

    TTC #1 ♥ since 1/11 
    BFP #1 8/21/11 - EDD 5/1/12 - M/C 9/25/11 ♥ BFP #2 11/17/11 - EDD 8/1/12 - C/P 11/20/11
    DH (37) SA = mediocre ♥ Me (31) Low AMH/DOR, Septate Uterus (repaired via Hysteroscopy)
    IUI 1-3 = 3 BFNs ♥ IVF 11/12 = BFFN :( ♥ IUI 4 + Injects 1/13 = BFN :( ♥ IUI 5 + Injects = cancelled due to cyst
    BFP #3 - 3/9/13 ♥ EDD 11/21/13 ♥ Break cycle miracle! ♥ Stick baby, stick!! ♥ IT'S A GIRL!
    Caitlyn Emma born 11-6-13, 5lb 7.5oz, 18.5in

    ♥ Congrats BFPB HuskyMomma94, David arrived 4/26/12!  And #2 due 3/10/14! ♥
    ♥ Luck and love BFPB siple1am!! ♥

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  • whoberrywhoberry member
    Best of luck to you guys!

     

    IF, 5 losses, 1 son, 1 on the way.
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  • Jezebell26Jezebell26 member
    Hey Chris! Thanks for the update I was wondering how things were going. I am sorry that you are out of embies and still have no take home baby. But I am so thrilled for you and Nicole to be moving forward with a surrogate! Congrats on making that decision and please keep us updated!
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  • Rvnsgrl81Rvnsgrl81
    Welcome back and best of luck on your new journey!!!
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