need to get out of this funk... ideas?

kjohn091

So I've been in this depressed funk since breaking up a few weeks ago. I have tried going out with friends to dinner or for drinks ... I'm the only single one, everybody tries to talk about how I'm better off, to enjoy being single and lets just say every time I've tried going out ti have "fun" I end up in tears by the end.if the night. so what do ya'll do for fun. I do yoga sometimes which I really enjoy but I have a really hard time finding someone to watch E. and now that I'm alone I imagine it will be even harder. I also like to run n which we do together but I've had no motivation to do anything. I know it will get better, I just want to be able to havefun again. I hope once I'm established and have a place and feel settled I will start to feel better. ( we r all still living together until I find a place for me and her ) so I kinda feel like this limbo is making it harder too. anyway, thanks and if ya'll have any ideas of fun things or just stress relievers for u ur live to hear em! ** sorry no spaces, bumping from my phone

achase123

-bubble bath after LO goes to sleep

-getting together for wine and appetizers with the girls

-comedies

-running w/ LO in the stroller-make yourself do it, you WILL feel better eventually

-30 DS is a great workout DVD you can do in 22 minutes in the morning or at night when LO is in bed

-yoga dvds are good too

-if you can afford it and get a sitter: mani/pedi or a massage at a spa

Sounds like you're not quite ready to go out and look for guys and that's fine.  Don't push yourself to do something like this because you'll end up feeling sad and it can cause setbacks.

kjohn091

Thank u. I know I need to get my butt up and active again. I'm running a race in a week so I'm hoping that will get me going and remind me that I really enjoy it. and like u said, I'm definitely not ready to date . my ex and I were together 12 years and are still living together . so I guess my friends mean well but maybe I just need to do some fun activities alone. I just really hope this overwhelming feeling I have of failure/defeat that I feel everyday goes away soon. Bc right now everyday is a struggle and I am normally a very active, happy,, outgoing person. thanks for the suggestions! I will definitely be making myself do some of those