Hitting?

MauiBride2008

Has your LO developed a need for hitting other kids?

Whenever we go out for a playgroup or just visit with our friends kids, DS seems to hit the other children.  After he hits, I gently take his hand and firmly say "no", but I'm wondering that he is too young to understand this yet.

If your LO has developed a hitting habit, how do you let your child know this is not ok and have you seen the problem ease up a bit after you have done that?  

Twirple

Chase doesn't hit, luckily, but he has taken to biting us.  Saying "no" didn't help, nor did distraction.  I've started saying "Ow!  Don't bite, that hurts!"  Then setting him down  and walking away.  I realize he's too young for a traditional "time out", but, he loves to be with us, and he seems to have figured out that if he bites, he gets put down away from us.  This might seem like a leap, but he's not biting as often so I think it's working.

AnjaO

Twirple:

Chase doesn't hit, luckily, but he has taken to biting us.  Saying "no" didn't help, nor did distraction.  I've started saying "Ow!  Don't bite, that hurts!"  Then setting him down  and walking away.  I realize he's too young for a traditional "time out", but, he loves to be with us, and he seems to have figured out that if he bites, he gets put down away from us.  This might seem like a leap, but he's not biting as often so I think it's working.

DS does the same, but he thinks it's hilarious when we say "ow."  I try to not say it now, but the kid bites hard! Putting him down doesn't seem to have kept him from doing it. I hope he outgrows it soon.   

Erin2903

Yes we are having an issue with hitting. He doesn't do it to other kids (yet thank goodness) but to myself and my husband.

He seems to be doing it out of frustration when I redirect him from doing something he's not suppose to. But he laughs and thinks it's funny. We gently take his hand, look him in the eyes and say 'no hitting.' It hasn't stopped him from doing it though so I'm not sure what else to do.  

MauiBride2008

Scout2005:

She's too young to  really "get it" I think, but it's not bad to start the habit.  And I've noticed lately she is much more gentle after we correct.

I couldn't agree more.  After we try to correct him we say "gentle" and try to stroke the face real light to show "gentle".  He remembers it at first and then forgets ;0) 

I guess repetition is key here and hopefully he will end up getting it.  Thanks ladies for all your input on this.  Glad my LO isn't the only one ;0)

 

 

MauiBride2008

Twirple:

Chase doesn't hit, luckily, but he has taken to biting us.  Saying "no" didn't help, nor did distraction.  I've started saying "Ow!  Don't bite, that hurts!"  Then setting him down  and walking away.  I realize he's too young for a traditional "time out", but, he loves to be with us, and he seems to have figured out that if he bites, he gets put down away from us.  This might seem like a leap, but he's not biting as often so I think it's working.

DS bit for the first time last night after we tried to correct him from deliberately throwing food on the floor while looking at us.  After we said "no" he grabbed my hand and bit it   Not sure how this is all starting right now.  

biblionerd

DS has both bitten and hit us in the face out of frustration. He gets excited and hits/waves his arms around, but this is different. If he gets mad about something (like us taking the remote and giving him a different toy) he started making this awful growling noise and either hitting us or biting. The other day he grabbed my arm as I was reaching in front of him and bit me when he was mad so hard he left teeth marks. He's also very sensitive though, so a firm "no" sends him into tears...  We started saying no to hopefully just get him in the habit of learning what it means and weren't sure how it would work, but I think he's understanding. The biting and hitting has lessened.