Super Clingy 2 1/2 year old

2009greekwedding

Hi - any advice on how to handle my DD.  She is super sensitive and wants me holding her all the time when we are home.  I love the affection but have problems getting anything done when I get home from work. She has always been sensitive and a mommy's girl but I am beginning to wonder if it is still the 2's and she will grow out of it??  Thanks!

Kpsbabyzoe

Our DD is going through this right now.  It's not every day, but when she does it, it will be ALL day.  Her thing is she wants me to be standing, holding here which is super hard.  I don't mind sitting down and playing if she needs attention but wow! It's hard when she's over 30lbs now. So I get this, it's a struggle.

So, my advice is to just try and not let it get to that point.  I find that if I pay attention to when she's getting a little needy/fussy and ask her "Do you need a hug", or take a few minutes to play with her instead of just asking her to help me with what I'm doing..then we avoid the big-needy scene.  But, I also think it's a phase and she'll grow out of it.  Some day you'll be begging her to hug you!  Try to remember that when your back is aching and you can't get any cooking done

LoveEeyore

My DS is right there.  I mean, right here.  All the time.  At preschool when I'm not there or co-oping in DD#1's class he is fine.  When I co-op in his class, he is all over me.  Won't do his favorite things if he's not on my lap. 

My thinking is it is a phase.  I have acually busted out my Ergo again and if he needs to be on me, I put him on my back but don't give much attention to him and focus on lots of physical and verbal affection when he is fine and doing his own thing.  But I never pick him up if he is demanding or just outright sobbing until I get him to calm down and ask nicely. 

superaunt

of course she'll grow out of it. i think it's best (at least for me), to always remember that- that she WILL grow out of it, that there will be a time when she wants nothing to do with me, that there will be a time when i would kill to have today back. cherish this time with her now before it's gone. because it will be gone one day- and probably a lot sooner than you think.

i tidy up and clean whatever room we're in when we're in it. so when she's eating dinner (i eat after she's in bed with my husband), i do the kitchen. when she's in the bath, i do the bathroom. etc. stuff gets done but it's never spotless, there's always soemthing to do, but ... oh well. my girl needs me and that's more important than the dishes.

aglenn

redwood807:

Totally just read this yesterday.

https://planningwithkids.com/2009/02/10/characteristics-of-two-and-a-half-year-old-behavior/

Thanks for this!  Totally describes my DD.