Dealing with a "bad report" from DC

mrsjengle · April 2012

Lately I've been getting comments on DD's papers from DC about her behavior. This week she's been put on the naughty rug 2-3 times and had to go to the director's office and be put on the naughty rug there. Normally I'm the one who drops her off and picks her up from daycare, but for the past month or so DH has been doing it since I've been taken off of work. Today on her paper it said that she is "having trouble listening." I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do with these comments. I do talk to her about listening to the teachers and following directions, but by the time she gets home, it's kind of hard for me to address any issues. I'm not sure if I should be doing something or even what I could do. Because DH drops her off now, she's getting there a 1/2 hr early and leaving a 1/2 hr late. So instead of getting to see her normal teachers, she's in with another class until her teachers arrive, so he can't really talk to them about it either. What are the expectations here?

NewMrs07 · April 2012

How old is she? My LO will be 3 in August so he sometimes gets "bad" reports from DC too. Usually it's the same thing as you "did not listen well today", or "was very aggressive", etc. He's gotten a lot better now since I'm trying to discourage biting and hitting, which is what gets him in trouble. We've been doing time-outs and they work well. The DC also uses time-outs when needed but they don't overdo it. He's much better behaved at DC than with us, go figure. There are 2 teachers for 8-10 kids or so, so the ratio is good. Maybe when there are too many kids per teacher it gets out of hand, do you think that's the case with your DC?

I wouldn't stress too much about it. Just ask the DC providers to be more specific so you can address the behavior problems at home. But she might just be exhibiting typical toddler behavior, so don't worry about it too much, they will grow out of it

Cheerio B · April 2012

If you're concerned I would call during the day when her normal teachers are there and talk with them about it. See if there are any behaviors you're also seeing at home that you can work on. This could just be an age thing or it could be a reaction to the change in her routine (ie you being taken off of work). Otherwise I wouldn't do anything at home. Like you said, she's too young to have it be effective for you to discuss it with her hours after the fact.

Danielleee · April 2012

I would call and speak to LO's regular teachers and ask them how you can support him at home ie what kind of behavioral strategies are they using that you can duplicate at hOme to stay consistent. It sounds like normal toddler behavior to me so if all of the adults are on the same page, I'm sure your LO will figure it out.

jwthoms1 · April 2012

My DS is 26 months but when he gets bad reports from school I can usually pin-point it to a lack of attention from us. So we cut off the TV and spend more family time. He is better behaved within a few days. It sounds like your daughter has less time with you all now that she is in school longer. I think I would start with more quality time with her when you get home- reading, playing in the bathtub, helping you cook dinner. Whatever you can do that is giving her positive attention. Then see if the negative behaviors decrease.