SM's go to court?

KristenFMR

Do those of you who are stepmom go to court with your husband when he has to go or do you stay home.  And why?

DarthNBJenni

KristenFMR:

Do those of you who are stepmom go to court with your husband when he has to go or do you stay home.  And why?

We haven't had to go yet, but I would most certainly go to support my husband. I do know my family court does not allow children, so we'd have a sitter.  

CurlyQ284

The last time DH had the CO modified, we werent married and it was several states away where BM lives so I didnt go. If it was modified again, yes I would go.

hterry85

The last time they went to court DH and I were only dating (it was RIGHT before we got engaged) so I went with, but did not go in. If we have to go back this time I will be there.

rachi1285

The last court date and mediation were before we were married, so I didn't go (I actually stayed home with the kiddos). But now that we're married I would definately be as involved as legally possible. I get that I'm not a part of their divorce issues, but I am and will be a part of his and the kids' lives so IMO I have the right.

CFjo2010

I've gone to all the hearings as well as the mediations.  At first it was just to support my husband, but now it's because I end up having to testify.  BM would would wild allegations about me and my kiddos in her paperwork and at a bogus DVRO Ex Parte, and my husband's attorney called me as a witness.  It happened again at a couple other modification hearings, so now I definitely make sure I'm at every hearing.

PrettyInPearls23

I'm the BM, and when I just recently went to court for a custody motion my XH had filed, my FI came to court with me. My atty wanted him there in case he needed to testify, but he wanted to come anyway. My DS is an important part of his life and he cares about what happens with him.

FutureMrsWittig

I go, but only for emotional support.  I am not allowed in mediation meetings or to go to the podium with H and his attorney.    I sit quietly, take notes and hold all our documentation so that if anything is questioned I can look it up.

Nineoceans

I go when something important is about to happen otherwise I can't miss as much work as we are in court. I wish I could go to all of it because I like to show support but it is what it is

BagelGirl

I've stayed completely out of it everytime they've gone back over anything,  I think my presence only aggravates an already tense situation, plus it really stresses me out as well as BM can be very nasty when it comes to that kind of thing.  Best for me to just steer clear.

wwnbw

I always go to support DH.

simplegirl226

When we were dealing with Child support stuff last summer I went with DH to everyone of the mediations and stuff. We made decisions together and I was moral support. He really appreciated me being there for him. We never went in front of a judge and we were never in the same room as bm. We just spoke to our attorney who then spoke to her's.

Holly_1007

we're awaiting our court date.  As soon as we get it I'm booking a babysitter for DS and I will be going.  I have a MUCH better memory than DH.  I know I will not be allowed to sit with DH and his atty but I want to be supportive of him and be able to call BS on BM when necessary.

karleegirl

When bd and I first went to court his gf came. They had been dating 3 months and she told my child to call her momma (hell no). I couldn't stand that she was there. The judge blocked her from coming in. But if we went to court now I could understand sm coming in. My dh would go with me as well.

Gwenillian

FutureMrsWittig:

I go, but only for emotional support.  I am not allowed in mediation meetings or to go to the podium with H and his attorney.    I sit quietly, take notes and hold all our documentation so that if anything is questioned I can look it up.

This is how it is for my DH & my kids' SM too. I think it's fine that they are there & wouldn't really have a problem with mediation or being at the podium thing but I think those rules were set by the state we live in.

lily_721

The past two court hearings (one for each child) were held out of state and we weren't married yet (engaged), I didn't attend.  If we ever have another court hearing, I would attend. 

I doubt we will go back to court.  The boys are getting too old and she doesn't pay anything.  If she were to ask for anything, she would need to start paying and she is too cheap and selfish for that.

mrssmw

I have went with my husband before for emotional support, bring documentation, etc but after 7 years it has gotten so old (He has full custody and nothing has changed since) that the last 2 years I haven't went with him.  It doesn't matter to him now whether I go or not but if he asks or I need to give testimony I will happily go.

dmndsr4eva

I have court tomorrow and I pray that ex has the good sense not to bring his girlfriend.  As you may recall she is the OW and he started seeing her before I moved out of his house.  I will not bring my boyfriend.  When either of us gets married then I think it would be appropriate to bring them.