Vent: L&D Mentioned (not me!)

Petunia844 · April 2012

Both of my SIL's are very pregnant right now, but one is much closer to me....she's 3 days overdue. Up until now my family was doing a good job of not throwing it my face all the time, if I asked I heard how the pregnancy was going, if not she didn't mention it and neither did anyone else. Well now that she's about to pop everyone thinks I need all the flippin updates all the time and I can't take it! She texts me after her appointments and my mom sends out a group email after all of them. I don't want to her about her dilation, I don't want to hear how perfect everything is. I certainly don't want to hear all this twice every few days!!! They all have said they "know" how hard it must be for me... THEN LEAVE ME OUT OF IT! Yes, I want to hear when baby's born, I want to know everyone is ok, but NO I don't want all of these updates! I'm not magically ok with hearing it all now. I didn't get to have these appointments with my son because he died first... I just can't wait until this baby's born... I can freak out or be happy or react however I will react and then it will be done. Why don't they understand I was a FTM mom too? I should have had these visits too? I don't want to hear it!!!

Ok, thanks for the needed vent. Might go scream into a pillow now.

ffsam31 · April 2012

I am so sorry they are being insenative right now. I am so sorry you are going through this. Wish I could give you a hug and say I understand. I know it is difficult - big hugs - I am thinking of you !

fluttergirlmoonchild79 · April 2012

Scream away. I would. I can totally see wanting to know when the baby is born and that everything is ok. I don't understand why everyone thinks you want to know every little detail leading up to the actual birth. Even worse is that they acknowledge this is a difficult time for you yet continue to do it. {{HUGS}}. Hope everything goes well and the frustration ends for you soon.

jbranden12 · April 2012

I'm so sorry you are having to handle this right now. There is nothing wrong with the way you are feeling. It doesn't mean that you don't care about your SIL or your niece/nephew. It just means you are hurting and they are being insensitive to your needs. scream away!

barrona · April 2012

I am so sorry they are sending you updates constantly. Why don't people understand how much that can hurt sometimes? Scream into a pillow or throw something or whatever works for you. ((Hugs)) to you today and always!

weddedwife · April 2012

That sucks. Is there one person you can gently remind that you can't handle this much? People are stupid.

blessedhope · April 2012

Are your SIL's your husbands sisters? Maybe could your DH tell them it is better not too? If they are your brothers wives could you (or your mom or someone) have the same talk with them? I know it is hard and sometimes it seems family are the least understanding of all. ((hugs))

barbie92 · April 2012

((hugs)) I am so sorry that you have to deal with this right now. If it were me in your situation, I would tell someone to please stop sending me all the updates! It is one thing to know when the baby is born, but all the little updates would be too much! ((hugs again))