Hello ~ Please forgive me for rounding up; I am 33; DH is 36, and we are both later in life children who now have a 3yo and #2 on the way. I am hopeful more of you will have parents in our age range and thus may have faced a similar challenge that you've overcome.
My MIL was widowed almost two years ago, is in poor health; and I believe severely depressed (naturally as she lost her husband).
The reality she is no longer in a position to live alone without dedicated care; she's not an invalid, she just isn't up to the daily grind of cooking and cleaning, and she's had some "oopsies" with her medications. Her health is such that an oppsie could kill her.
Thus far thanks to DH's extended family, she has had 80% coverage on her general needs, but the reality is that we need to make a change, her medical and emotional needs just are not being met.
We aren't in a position to live with her or have her move in with us. In addition to space and the stress she would have of a small child and a new baby,in her environment we both work full time, with two kids we'd have even less time to care for her or look after her needs than what she has now.
DH is completely opposed to an assisted living facility He won't look at them or broach the subject with her. We live in the city in Chicago, and alot of these facilities are really nice, they aren't old folks homes, but individual apartments with nurses on duty with meals and 'field trips' provided. ( I've worked with a few of them as a community mgr) You come and go as you please .
They aren't cheap, but I believe is something that we could afford. I just can't seem to come up with any other option and don't know how to get my husband to look into it without feeling like the evil wife trying to put his mama in a home.
How have you handled this?