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ajc0121

Do you want your children to be "popular"? Why or why not?

gymnst1013

I don't know about popular but I want him to fit in well enough.  I was always so shy as a kid and had trouble making friends.  I always felt like an outsider and was very uncomfortable talking to new people.  I still am to some degree.  I want N to feel comfortable with himself and have an easy time talking to people and making friends. 

Sunidaze

Not necessarily one of the 'popular' kids...but one of those kids that everyone likes, all the different little cliques.  My older brother was one of the popular ones and quite honestly, that's the only way I survived some of the rather tumultous teen years...people looked up to him so spared his sister.  However, I witnessed some downfalls of being part of that popular group.  I envied the kids that everyone, no matter who they were, liked.

RClaffee

It depends on what you mean by "popular." If you mean that they are well liked by their peers and are able to navigate social situations easily and comfortably, then yes. If you mean that they are in the mean girl clique, no. 

ajc0121

I want her to be popular in the sense that she is well liked for having good grades, being involved in her school (student counsel, athletics), and just being kind and friendly with everyone.

justme04

I wasn't in any real click in high school.  I got along with everyone.  DH was the same way.  I'd rather have children who got along with the majority of their classmates then have them fall into a click and look down on other people.

I guess it also depends on what your definition of popular is.  If popular is having lots of friends (and different types of people) then yes.  If popular is who "rules the school" then I don't see the point.

ajc0121

I'm asking from a perspective of how YOU define popular.

Syncronicity09

I don't care if he is popular or not, as long as he is happy. I don't want him to be picked on or bullied, otherwise I will be happy with whatever group he hangs out with or whatever level of coolness he has.

CarlaAndJames

We talk a lot about this bc DH is a teacher so he's around high school world all day. We just really, really hope (and pray, and try to make parenting decisions to guide her in the direction that) that she has high self esteem and is comfortable in her own skin.

Neither DH or I were "popular" if your definition of that is being homecoming king/queen, cheerleaders/jocks/everyone at school knows your name and you're one of the "cool kids." But we both had a lot of friends and really loved high school. I was in colorguard, so I was more of a band geek than anything. DH played hockey but he had good friends from lots of different groups, but he was never close with the "popular kids." We both managed to stay pretty much out of trouble in high school, were never bullied, and had good experiences. That's what we want for her!

ladybug122

I don't care if she is popular, but I want her to be confident and have close friends, and to not have to deal with teasing or bullying. 

pregarella

I don't need her to be popular, nor do I want her to be a complete outcast either.  More importantly, I don't want her to be one of those people who peaked in high school, which many times, the "popular" people are.

CantWait2Be

ajc0121:

I want her to be popular in the sense that she is well liked for having good grades, being involved in her school (student counsel, athletics), and just being kind and friendly with everyone.

This exactly.  

kimbo1216

I want my kid to be well-liked, but not necessarily popular.  More than anything, I want her to find a good group of friends who don't peer pressure her into doing stupid things.  I want her to  make good decisions.

That's how it was for me.  I want the same for her.

amberpro

I want Carter to be the mean jock that torments and bullies all the lesser children.  

Bran_ham

I wasn't popular by any means but I had friends in a lot of different circles. I would hope for that. I want well rounded happy kids, not kids struggling to be cool or popular. I played sports so I think that helped me to feel like I didn't need to be something I wasn't. 

soontobe05

No, I hope they're both a lot like I was. I had my core group of friends and always made a few friends in each of my classes as well. I was never "popular" but I wasn't an outcast by any means. I'm really shy at first but when I get to know people I can talk your ear off. So far I see DD being a lot like me as she is exactly like that as well. We'll see. I just don't want them to be picked on or anything. It really worries me.

Jills83

I hope DS is a lot like my H was.  DH was well-liked, had a solid group of friends, did well in school, and participated in a lot of sports and other things.  I can't think of anyone that didn't like my H in high school.  The teachers loved him too.  He was popular, but not snobby popular...more so one of those people that everyone says hi to. 

CarlaAndJames

amberpro:

I want Carter to be the mean jock that torments and bullies all the lesser children.  

Carter the bulldozer! You're going to have to quit reading to him so much if you want him to be such a neanderthal.

MommaA117

Popular group? I really don't care. I want her to have a good group of well behaved friends. They don't have to necessartily be popular but I would hope she was not in the nerdy group due to being made fun of and stuff...

When I was in H.S there was this group of close knit kids. They were all in student council and choir together. They were not the popular group but everyone knew who they were. They were so well rounded and made good grades. They were all very close and still are to this day. In each others weddings, still getting together every year before Christmas etc. They were the group that all the teachers liked. They turned out to be awesome adults.I wouldn't mind her being in that type of group even though they def werent the "popular" kids. They invited me out a few times but I was more interested in parties. I was friends with a lot of the "cool kids" in HS and knew a lot of people. I went to the good parties but I was not in that mean girl group or considered one of the elite of the school. lol. I was new sophomore year. They all knew each other since they were little kids. In my high school the popular kids were the more wild ones so I wouldn't wish that for F. lol

amberpro

CarlaAndJames:

amberpro:

I want Carter to be the mean jock that torments and bullies all the lesser children.  

Carter the bulldozer! You're going to have to quit reading to him so much if you want him to be such a neanderthal.

Haha  Now Lexi pushed her fare share out of the way yesterday, too, lol.

No- I'll keep reading.  He's going to be the smart bully.  The one that instigates it all then never gets in trouble.  

 

No, I kid, I kid.  Of course I want my kid to be happy and kind.