Update to blighted ovum post from yesterday

kelly321

I started brown spotting last night and had bright red spotting this morning, so it looks like it's starting. Since yesterday there was still a faint hope that we just hadn't been able to see anything on the u/s, I was at first very hesitant to post here. I thank you all for being kind and understanding and not telling me to go away until I had actually miscarried, as I was feeling very vulnerable and didn't know where else to post my question.

As a more official intro, this was my 2nd pregnancy and 1st m/c. Today is DD's 1st birthday, so it's a very bittersweet day for me. I know in the future when I look at the pictures, I'll both be happy for DD's bday and at the same time think with sadness, "that was the day I lost LO2." Since the probable blighted ovum diagnosis, I had been feeling really angry, but now that the m/c has started, I'm just feeling more resigned and also hopeful that we can TTC again soon.

Again, thank you for receiving me kindly yesterday.

Laurakat81

(((hugs)))

Happy Birthday to your DD and Happy Heavenly Birthday to your angel.

dgasu79

I am so sorry for your loss. I find out tomorrow if in fact I have a blighted ovum. I am preparing myself for the worst if that is even possible. 

It's been one horrendous week of wait. I feel your pain.

Happy birthday to your DD!  

MWoodside

I'm sorry for your loss.

JennyP0222

Hey hon, make sure you plan to give yourself a few days of taking it easy now. Every lady is different but when I started my m/c, it took a day or two of just regular bleeding before it got really intense. I had a scary day of really bad cramps and severe bleeding that I was a bit unprepared for. If you can, try and stay home and be in the comfort of your bed/couch and near a restroom. I know that is a little TMI but just keep it in mind. If you have pain relievers, keep them nearby too. Some women cramp mildly and some extremely severely. Pain relievers can be your best friend while you go through this. I wish you the very best.

kelly321

JennyP0222:

Hey hon, make sure you plan to give yourself a few days of taking it easy now. Every lady is different but when I started my m/c, it took a day or two of just regular bleeding before it got really intense. I had a scary day of really bad cramps and severe bleeding that I was a bit unprepared for. If you can, try and stay home and be in the comfort of your bed/couch and near a restroom. I know that is a little TMI but just keep it in mind. If you have pain relievers, keep them nearby too. Some women cramp mildly and some extremely severely. Pain relievers can be your best friend while you go through this. I wish you the very best.

Thanks. I've now started bleeding more heavily and the cramps are manageable so far. I have a prescription for some heavier pain killers (didn't pay attention to what) but haven't gotten them yet. I appreciate the advice, though. 

Septmomtobe

I am so sorry for your loss. 

My first m/c actually occurred during ds#2 bday party and was confirmed the following day on his birthday. The next year I just focused on his birthday and forced myself not to think about that loss. I am going through my third loss and once again it was confirmed (missed m/c) on his birthday. It's tough. But I focus on the joy that the same day brought to me 4 years earlier.