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MsJosie

First off, my ex and I have a court order that he is not to contact me unless it is regarding our LO but he has contacted me twice about other things. Is there anything I can do about it? I sent him a friendly reminder that he is only supposed to contacting me regarding LO. Secondly, whenever my ex refers to our LO he always say "my daughter" it drives me absolutely NUTS, it's rude and disrespectful!!! Is there anything I can do to get him to stop referring to her as "his daughter" and address her by her name? (Some examples would be: When can I see my daughter? And, how is my daughter doing?) I've asked him twice to address her by her name as well and he just ignores everything I say or ask. I am completely frustrated! Any advice would be great! TIA

nikkilyn35

is there a judge or any attorneys involved in your case that can send him a "not so friendly" reminder.

without knowing your background, I'm going to say he has control issues and he's going to see how far he can push you.  I would have him contacted by authorities about his contact outside of your agreement.  and as much as it bugs you for him to say that,don't argue the "my daughter" thing anymore.  sounds to me like he's just saying it because he knows it gets under your skin. 

MsJosie

nikkilyn35:

is there a judge or any attorneys involved in your case that can send him a "not so friendly" reminder.

without knowing your background, I'm going to say he has control issues and he's going to see how far he can push you.  I would have him contacted by authorities about his contact outside of your agreement.  and as much as it bugs you for him to say that,don't argue the "my daughter" thing anymore.  sounds to me like he's just saying it because he knows it gets under your skin. 

What do you mean by having him contacted by authorities? Like call the police or something? The police have called him before warning him about harassing me and he just ignored it and continued contacting me.

nikkilyn35

how does he contact you?  by phone, email, text?  do you respond?  if he calls and you know it's him, I'd ignore the call, let him leave a voicemail, and if it has nothing to do with your daughter, ignore it.  same with emails or texts.  unless they refer to your daughter, don't respond. 

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PrettyInPearls23

Ignore the whole "my daughter" thing. My XH does too, and while it's mildy irritating, I just ignore it. I know that DS is OUR son, despite what XH says.

As far as the additional contact -- ignore that too. Keep a record of all of it and if it becomes excessive (IMO, two times is not excessive) then reach out to your attorney or somebody about it being harassment.

lilhockeygurlMOM

Call the cops after he contacts you when it doesn't involve LO. Its a hard situation so if you have any proof...like saved voicemails, texts, emails, fb messages or recorded calls that's what will help your case. Overall the cops will call your EX to see his side of the story so hopefully that will be a wake up call to him.