Being the only one sober...

MaceyLayne

...just plain stinks!

We went to my friends birthday party and I didn't drink (of course!) and my man didn't drink. We were the only ones sober and it was plain awkward when you are the only pregnant/sober person.

Does anyone else miss relaxing with a drink in one hand? Or has recently felt awkward?

svdrummajor07

I know exactly what you mean. My friends were going out to the bar tonight and begged me to go..I felt so awkward being a pregnant woman going into a bar. I wasn't even drinking but I just felt like I was being judged..Needless to say, I didn't stay long...

punkrockabye

I can imagine it's pretty weird... sobriety is why we don't have many friends! DH has never drank, aside from a sip of beer that his older brother forced him to have when he was 12. Literally nothing since then. And I only started drinking for the first time this past summer. So throughout college and after, we had no desire to go to parties, mainly because we didn't know anyone who could sit down with a beer and drink responsibly. We do usually leave things early if everyone is just stupid drunk; there's just no reason for acting like you're 17 and having your first beer when in reality you're in your mid to late 20's.

Cheerilee

When we go home twice a year to see our friends and family, we always meet all of our friends in the same bar that DH and I had our first date in since mutual friends own it.  It's just tradition.  I know we'll all go there in June and I am going to feel SO awkward!  Luckily, it's nonsmoking now so I've got that going for me.

surprise3rd

I used to be a party girl, college and post college until I met DH then we started just hanging out and not really going out.  Our hanging out would mean maybe a bottle of wine with dinner, but that had trickled off now.  Being pregnant i have not had a drink and probably hadn't had a drink for the 6 months before I found out I was pregnant.  Every now and then I crave an icy cold beer and even went so far as to tell DH to get  me a 6 pack of O'douls, that was 2 months ago and I haven't had even one of them. 

So yes, being the only sober person is annoying.  I deal with it a lot even when I am not pregnant.  As I have gotten older I have absolutely NO patience for drunk people.  Could also have to do with supporting my sister go through a nasty divorce from a serious alcoholic and it definately put into perspective how losing control of your body, voice and mind can be a very very dangerous thing.

Embracetheday

I think I found it more awkward during my first pregnancy than I do now actually.  Maybe its because when I'm out now it's a great break from being a mom and responsibility, even if I am sober.  I went out with friends last night and had a great time socializing, none of them were falling down drunk but everyone had drinks except me.  I guess it doesn't bother me as much anymore because I know I can have that wine glass in my hand in a few months

MrsCharlieRN

I went to a wedding a few weeks ago and was the designated driver because I'm obviously not drinking. Everyone was six sheets to the wind but I just sipped on my mug of hot tea and tried to enjoy myself. I didn't feel awkward or anything but driving an hour with a car full of drunks was getting on my last nerve.

sassysally1

Embracetheday:

I think I found it more awkward during my first pregnancy than I do now actually.  Maybe its because when I'm out now it's a great break from being a mom and responsibility, even if I am sober.  I went out with friends last night and had a great time socializing, none of them were falling down drunk but everyone had drinks except me.  I guess it doesn't bother me as much anymore because I know I can have that wine glass in my hand in a few months

This exactly.  Plus as a wedding planner, I've been the only sober person tons and tons of times!  I guess I'm used to it now...only now I don't get hit on all the time by drunks, which is actually kind of nice.

CraftyKayla

I have been so antisocial because everytime I go out, I feel this way.

AnaKat405

I used to be a pretty big party girl, but that didn't mean I was always drinking.  I liked going out and socializing and it was easier to do while sober.  Plus, I could actually remember the who the additional names and phone numbers belonged to in my phone the next day.  lol.  It was also amusing to see some of the drunken antics of others while I was sober.  Since I lived in LA at the time, so being sober meant I could drive home without the cost of a taxi + overnight parking fees / or tickets!

I haven't gone out much now that I'm KU, mostly because I just haven't been in the mood for anything other than my bed at night.  But I think being pregnant would make it obvious why I choose not to imbibe rather than awkward.  I'll soon find out!

jlinville10

We went to my friends wedding last week and I was the only sober one.  Needless to say it wasn't very fun for me.  I really miss having a drink now and then.  Now that it's getting warmer out and all the parties are starting, it's going to be hard. I know the reward will be big at the end of all this.  :-)

MrsPookaLuv

I play on a dart league on Tuesday nights...so, yep being sober every week there has sucked!  lol  And not smoking...needless to say, my dart throwing has gone downhill!  3 more weeks to the season and I can't wait for it to be over!  lol  I will still go hang out but I don't want the stress of throwing, winning/losing and no way to release the tension of being so competitive!  lol

I am lucky though- my DH doesn't really drink and I have a couple of friends who don't really either, so I'm usually not the only sober one!  But boy, do I miss being the drunk one  ;-)  lol

gracie__r

Um, yeah.  Hubs and I just went to a wine tasting event for a school fundraiser.  What a boring night for me!

overtonhayes

I've been alright with it so far, because the whole time DH and I have been together he's driven this deadly truck that is so unsafe he would never let me drive it. We finally got a baby-safe car when we found out I was pregnant, so the novelty of being able to drive and let him drink hasn't worn off yet.

But you know what really sucks? Turning 21, in a college town, when you're pregnant... Or walking past a bar and thinking "oooh, I can drink now! Waaait no I can't"...  Ugh.

overtonhayes

jlinville10:

We went to my friends wedding last week and I was the only sober one. 

Oh God. You've reminded me: how the hell am I going to survive my SIL's redneck-ass wedding SOBER?

LadyNikon

I went to a convention. This weekend and experienced this exact situation.  All the ad convos drunk people had seemed so more inappropriate when drinking hot decaf team.  

Daje12112

My DH has family or friends over just about every weekend, and they always kick back in the garage with drinks to relax.  I feel SUPER left out and miserable being the sober one and having to listen to them be all relaxed and happy.  Being uncomfortable physically in the first place, then being moody on top of it surrounded by laughing, relaxed, tipsy people has gotten on my last nerve and I can't even be outside with them for long anymore.  I didn't drink much before getting pregnant, but my tolerance for being "left out" now that I absolutely cannot drink whatsoever is gone.  GL!  9 months is a small sacrifice for a healthy LO!!