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FutureMrsWittig
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Letters/Vents/FFCs?
FutureMrsWittig
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Me first:
Dear BM,
As per SDs counselor's suggestion, I am done making excuses for you. Even if that means holding our crying little girl in my arms because you "forgot" to come to her tumbling class, and refused 2 additional opportunities to spend time with her. Keep digging this grave, as I will gladly take the additional time and the ever-stronger bond with her.
I know you will be angry when you recieve the letter from DHs lawyer stating that you must pay your debts. The thing that pisses me off most is that you will be angry because that means you cannot go out for your birthday and get drunk. You are a 27 year old woman with four children. Get over it.
Sincerely,
SM
Dear ILs,
I will have no contact with you whatsoever until SILs student loans are refinanced with YOU as cosigners and not my husband. How selfish of you to put him in this position simply because you were so irresponsible with your money. I understand that you are shocked and stunned that SIL has been using your money to party rather than to pay her loans. But that is not my problem. My problem is the big blemish on our credit report.
Yes, I know life is about family and not about money. But my family needs money to have a home, a car, and a life. Kiss my butt, all of you.
Sincerely,
DIL
Mama of 2: one who grew in my womb, both who grow in my heart.
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Re: Letters/Vents/FFCs?
Dear Self,
Why did you marry a man who has full custody of one of his children and you knew BM was a POS? I could slap you because this is hard....like really hard.
Dear BM,
I know that you'd mentioned you had another "business trip" coming up, but I would have appreciated more than four days notice. I was looking forward to our "off" weekend (without the kids) as we've been so busy lately. We had them the last two days and will now have them again tomorrow night to Thurs morning. I love the kids but notice is nice, and I hate that DH won't ever tell you no, so you think you own us. You don't.
The one you refer to as "your wife" (when speaking to DH)
Dear DH,
I realize that you want to spend every minute possible with your kids, but I think we need to teach BM that she can't use us like this! We both have doubts that this is even a work trip, seeing as how she has a new boyfriend and has been quick to give up her time with the kids lately. Just once I'd like to tell her no! I hate how you still cave to her! Well in preparation of a now busy weekend again, I will be spending the night watching movies and drinking wine alone while you're working late. So at least I have that!
Love you, but...
Dear BM,
I hate you
sincerely
"the new wife"
Dear BM,
I hope to someday forget entirely that you ever existed. You are making it fairly easy right now.
Thanks,
The Lucky Mom to your former children
Dear BM,
I don't know if you realize this, but you're on the SAME path you were on when you lost custody of your children to the state. It began with one drink, then two, then a night on the town. Next, you were cheating on yet another boyfriend. Down the line, you'll be on the drugs again, dating abusers, and losing your children. The state won't be as lenient for you again. They gave you 2 years to get it together. Next time, they won't give you that long. I was actually proud of your progress. I'm leery now. Please get it together for your children and yourself. Their worth it. You're worth it.
Signed,
The one your oldest calls Mom
P.S. Oh, and it is NOT appropriate to ask why MY DH never gave you a girl. He gave you a boy who you never call. It's probably best that you never had a girl... She'd be beautiful, of course, but look at what you did with YOUR beauty. You're not meant to be a role model to a little girl, honey.
Dear DH,
You're a real jerk lately. Cut it off and grow up. Life does not revolve around you. Oh, and the nursery bedding you picked out is hideous. Stop pouting. I'm absolutely NOT going with it!
You're wife.
Dear Bm,
Please explain how SS qualifies for all this free state assistance (lunches, Medicaid, daycare) when you make $30,000 a year per your taxes and live in a half a million dollar home with your parents per our court ordered home study and up until this month received $700 per month in child support
I feel so sad for you that no one in your life ever told you you were worth more than being someone's "baby mama" and that you are teaching SS that it's ok to quit a job when child support re-evaluation time comes or that a career is secondary to drugs and having a good time with friends.
I've always been on your side but I'm done. Grow the f&$( up and be a parent to the three children you created. Support yourself. Support your kids. Ss doesn't need the latest and greatest shoes or to go camping or shopping every weekend. he needs a mom to show him what a strong independent woman looks like. Get off of welfare or I'm adding you to our office's adopt a family Christmas list. Thanks.
-Ss's stepmom
Dear Bm's Mom,
You are so full of crap. Stop talking about your tireless efforts to end poverty and donate to the poor. You need to donate to your daughter or teach her that living off men and the system is a dang shame. Oh well except I forgot you are a professional moocher too. I cant wait until SS sees you for what you are and what you did to his mom- let her kill herself with drugs while you "maintained appearances" you are a pathetic excuse for a mother. All of your kids are a complete mess and dh said in high school everyone hung at your house because you allowed everyone to drink and have sex wherever and whenever. The terrible mom thing must be a genetic link.
-SS's stepmom
Dear SIL,
I have no idea what you and dh are fighting about but don't put me in the middle. Work it out with him. My baby will come out looking super crazy if I stress over this any more. Mom to a stressed fetus
Dear BD,
You are a piece of crap. You canceled DS insurance, with out telling me. I didn't know until I took him to the doctor last week. I mean really, I let you have everything in the divorce, you pay me no child support, yet I could have taken you for 1K a month. You hate me, fine, Eff with my son, we will make your life hell. If DS comes home one more weekend and tells me something you "don't like him to do" or which ever ho bag & her kids you have had him with over the weekend, I'm going to scream. You need to get over the fact DH is way more of a father than you could ever be. DS is a person, your child, yet you use him a pawn & a token to improve your appearance.
The hateful *** that left your pathetic a$$
The way it is written is who ever can reasonably afford insurance through their employer will carry the insurance for him, every thing else, deductibles, prescriptions, vision, dental will be split half & half. That is a good idea to amend the decree. I will call them next week. Thanks friend!
I have a lot (also first time I've ever done this!)
Dear BM,
I'm so glad that we all are getting along now & that we all can stay up to date on SS and what's going on in his life. It's really great!
-SM
Dear MIL/SIL,
I'm thankful that we are going in to this year in a much better place & hoping it's all up hill from here. I can't blame you for being hesitant seeing DH's record LOL.
-DIL/SIL
Dear DH,
It's been one crazy year; but if the first year is the worst, we are doing good & I look forward to 50+
-Wife!
Dear DS,
Please, can you slow down and not act 5 all of the time. I appreciate your independence and all, but I miss my cute toddler. And, I really don't want to spend every paycheck on shoes & clothes because yours don't fit. Also, please stop asking so many questions. You are TOO young for that!
-Mom