Separate baby shower???

mbmkbaby

So im a soon to be single mommy, but I'm still on good terms with the dad. He wants to have an active role in LO's life. My mom and my best friend are in charge of planning my baby shower (gifts for the nursery in my home) ... The question came up... Should the dad have a separate baby shower? And if so should I be there? Is that weird to have a shower without the baby/mommy being there? I know he could use supplies too... But the baby will be primarily with me (especially because I'm breast feeding. What are your thoughts???

CnAnA

IMO, the showers are kind of like part of the gift. As the mother, you shouldn't dictate or expect or arrange for a shower for your baby at all. That's JMO. So if his side of the family wants to throw him a shower for atuff to keep at his house, great. If not, that's not for you to worry about.

Sillygirl85

mrs.ike:

IMO, the showers are kind of like part of the gift. As the mother, you shouldn't dictate or expect or arrange for a shower for your baby at all. That's JMO. So if his side of the family wants to throw him a shower for atuff to keep at his house, great. If not, that's not for you to worry about.

I agree

sassenma

mrs.ike:

IMO, the showers are kind of like part of the gift. As the mother, you shouldn't dictate or expect or arrange for a shower for your baby at all. That's JMO. So if his side of the family wants to throw him a shower for atuff to keep at his house, great. If not, that's not for you to worry about.

I read-and-dashed before because I wasn't sure what my position was, but this sounds good to me.

Mrs.G123

If someone wants to throw him one, I think it is completely outside of your realm -- meaning I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. That said, I can't imagine a man wanting a "shower" but maybe getting presents from family.

DesMomma

I agree thats up to his family if they want to throw him one and who is on the guest list, if he is not invited to yours you can't really be offended if your not invited to his. JMO.

Kalye

mrs.ike:

IMO, the showers are kind of like part of the gift. As the mother, you shouldn't dictate or expect or arrange for a shower for your baby at all. That's JMO. So if his side of the family wants to throw him a shower for atuff to keep at his house, great. If not, that's not for you to worry about.

 

Agreed!

Kalye

mrs.ike:

IMO, the showers are kind of like part of the gift. As the mother, you shouldn't dictate or expect or arrange for a shower for your baby at all. That's JMO. So if his side of the family wants to throw him a shower for atuff to keep at his house, great. If not, that's not for you to worry about.

 

Agreed!

mizjodi

I'm just going to throw in my "I agree!" Showers are up to those who initiate and plan, not up to who they're for!