Not enough.

+j+k+

I don't have enough for a restraining order. Apparently in her opinion, SD was not threatening enough. She suggested I unblock SD and give SD enough rope to hang herself  but I'm not going to. 

If she contacts DH and I again, I will save everything and when I have enough, I'll file.

My lawyer however suggests that she send a letter with her letterhead stating that I, her client, is requesting that she cease and desist from any further contact or there will be a restraining order.  In which case, if SD does respond - and she will - we'll have enough really quick.

I'll be honest. I'm really not worried SD will physically harm me or DD. I really don't. She's crazy, but she's not stupid enough to take it as far as that. She is however stupid enough to keep talking and talking and talking to try and hurt me or make me mad. She likes to strike out verbally. Never has she had enough guts to physically lay her hands on me or really do anything serious.

My lawyer thinks she's crazy and that I should do all I can to protect DD.  SD said in her email,  "I used to like you until you had Megan and decided you and her were above SS and I."  This is how whacked she is.  Yes, you are right SD. I DO think I am better than you because I don't want my child around unwed women who think it's perfectly okay to get pregnant on purpose to trap a man (and an abusive one at that) and drop out of college, and do and sell drugs. You're right. Yes. I AM BETTER. And I have every right to want better for my child. She will have better and any decent person should want that for her as well regardless - especially her own sister.

I so wish I could say this to her.  But I refrain. 

Littlejen22

I hope you are right about her. Just remember she is not the 19yp that left home, she is an adult that has been out of the house for years, a Mom in an abusive relationship who has a baby sister that she believes replaced her. She is different and mentally I'll and unstable, hopefully still not dangerous but that could change. 

xmaryrickx

I so sorry you are dealing with this. I really can't believe how similar our SD's are. It's terrifying.

socloudy99

Littlejen22:

I hope you are right about her. Just remember she is not the 19yp that left home, she is an adult that has been out of the house for years, a Mom in an abusive relationship who has a baby sister that she believes replaced her. She is different and mentally I'll and unstable, hopefully still not dangerous but that could change. 

It is scary to me how often I find myself 100% in agreement with Littlejen. All of the above is the 1st thing I thought reading your post.

Littlejen22

socloudy99:

Littlejen22:

I hope you are right about her. Just remember she is not the 19yp that left home, she is an adult that has been out of the house for years, a Mom in an abusive relationship who has a baby sister that she believes replaced her. She is different and mentally I'll and unstable, hopefully still not dangerous but that could change. 

It is scary to me how often I find myself 100% in agreement with Littlejen. All of the above is the 1st thing I thought reading your post.

Excuse my iPhone typing. And Socloudy, is that good or bad, lol.  

socloudy99

Littlejen22:

socloudy99:

Littlejen22:

I hope you are right about her. Just remember she is not the 19yp that left home, she is an adult that has been out of the house for years, a Mom in an abusive relationship who has a baby sister that she believes replaced her. She is different and mentally I'll and unstable, hopefully still not dangerous but that could change. 

It is scary to me how often I find myself 100% in agreement with Littlejen. All of the above is the 1st thing I thought reading your post.

Excuse my iPhone typing. And Socloudy, is that good or bad, lol.  

It seem like me in the past (under my old screen name) we were not usually on the same page. It is interesting that for the last several months I usually agree with you 100%. So not good or bad just a little change I noticed.

Karma1969

A letter from an attorney is going to make her angry and will hold little meaning to someone who is unstable.  This is a no win situation for you. You need to develop a saftey plan for you and your DD.

RealFloF9

Karma1969:

A letter from an attorney is going to make her angry and will hold little meaning to someone who is unstable.  This is a no win situation for you. You need to develop a saftey plan for you and your DD.

This.  You're still treating her like she's "normal" which you know she's not.

karatechrissy

RealFloF9:

Karma1969:

A letter from an attorney is going to make her angry and will hold little meaning to someone who is unstable.  This is a no win situation for you. You need to develop a saftey plan for you and your DD.

This.  You're still treating her like she's "normal" which you know she's not.

This. I agree with LittleJen. There is no telling what mentally unstable people are capable of.  

Wahoo

I would not write her.  She is looking for a response from you - ANY response.  If you contact her, or even have a lawyer contact her, it will teach her "if you do X, you will get a response from your dad or stepmom."  Disengage (I know it's hard!).

I would also block her on facebook, block her on the business facebook, and block her calls and emails.  You should have done this long ago.  It will make it easier for you to dump the whole relationship with SD where it belongs - in your husband's lap.