where are all the ttc >35 seniors??

chitwngal2010

it seems like there are a ton of newbies here! not a bad thing, but not a good thing for the ones unfortunetly here.  i kind of miss hearing from the old timers, i know some got their BFP's and moved on but there were still many of us that have been around for over a year and i haven't seen much from you guys. Just checking in to see where everyone is and how things are going?

I am currently on a little break, after my failed IUI in Feb, we are considering another IUI but really should be doing IVF, however SO is not there yet and is resistent to the idea, which is very frustrating, there has been lots of arguments about it so for now we are just taking a break from it all and ttc naturally again, which i feel like is a waste of time but i will go along with SO to keep him happy!

maybe all this new blood will bring in BFP's and everyone will come out of thier exile?

solarflare

Hiya!!!

I am definitely an old timer so I've pretty much moved over to IF while getting ready for IVF. I see a lot of the older board members there as well. Come visit us over there if you like!

Sorry to hear your DH isn't on board just yet. I've found they are about 6 months behind us in moving forward mentally with IF treatments. But I hope he'll come around soon. In the meantime, have fun TTC naturally! 

MelleTX

I'm here. Because of IVF, I have been spending more time on the Infertility Board, but this will always be my home!

I enjoy seeing the posts from new members, but I do miss my old folks!!! 

chitwngal2010

I go onto IF as well never post though, i wasn't sure if i belonged there as i wasn't sure that the rules were for being over there, but since my old friends are there and invited me. maybe i will join, look for me soon!

 

mtlaurel

I'm still lurking. I try to keep tabs on some of the old-timers from here who are posting on IF. I have sort of felt like I don't belong anywhere on TB anymore because there are so many new faces (not just on TTC>35) and because we're not in the midst of a cycle. So, I mostly lurk these days.

chitwingal, I'm sorry your SO is not ready for IVF, but I hope a break helps to get you both on the same page.

Mrs.McIrish

I spend most of my time on IF Vets nowadays. It's just too hard for me to relate to people just starting out or trying for their 3rd child etc when I'm at the end of this journey and don't believe I will ever get a baby.  I still check from time to time for my old timer friends as well but I just don't belong here anymore.. I'm  too negative and that won't help new people.

My update: I had a hysteroscopy and D&C on Monday.  A bunch of polyps were removed.  I am bleeding rather heavily today and just feel yucky.  We are looking at doing IVF#4 in June but I'm really doing it for DH. I don't believe it will work..

As for OP, men take a lot longer to come around. Just keep on him.

Llamamama

I am still here!  Right now I am not doing any herbs or acupuncture..just temping, using OPKs (Got my smile today..) and doing LOT'S of praying that after 31 months I will finally see a BFP. 

I think that dh is coming around to the idea of getting a SA done but for this cycle I am just going on the hope that I might get my miracle. 

owlprof

I'm here too, although maybe I'm one of the younger old-timers?  I started posting on TB around this time last year.  Definitely lots of new faces. I never thought I'd be here this long.  I lurk a lot on IF and TTC, but I feel a bit out of place there since I don't think we will do anything beyond IUIs.  (My lurking was rewarded big time yesterday with Melle's Fresh Prince post on IF (I think) -- I wanted to pop in and respond:  ...they left the keys to the brand new Porsche, should I take it? Well, of course I should.... 

Good luck to all of us, wherever our journeys are heading.

brooklynesque

I'm not sure I qualify as an old-timer but I feel like one.  ;-)

chitwngirl, what are your SO's main concerns about IVF, if you don't mind me asking?  Moral, financial, something else?

brooklynesque

Mrs.McIrish:

My update: I had a hysteroscopy and D&C on Monday.  A bunch of polyps were removed.  I am bleeding rather heavily today and just feel yucky.  We are looking at doing IVF#4 in June but I'm really doing it for DH. I don't believe it will work..

McIrish:  Hugs.  I hope you feel better soon.

solarflare

Awww - it's really nice to see all of these familiar "faces" and hear updates.

 

ForTheLoveOf Pink

Hiya: I have been bumping for many years when I think about it. I guess when I started I didn't post very often and was just soaking up the info. For me I feel like there have been so many come and go. Some days it really is depressing that we started TTC when I was 39 and now I'm 42...still hoping for my own take home baby.

winidpu

I'm still here at well. Have been posting for over a year now but trying for over two years. Our one and only IVF was a fail in January. I thought about doing a couple of IUI's but that seems to be taking a few steps back. My husband just started his testosterone meds again this week so in a couple of months we again won't have sperm so there will be no miracle BFP from me in the near future. We've been trying the good old fashioned way but even that I will have to give up in a couple of months. Thinking about DE but won't even happen until next year. Just lurking from time to time but not much in the way of posting. I have my good days and I have my bad days and I'm sure that's the case for most of you ladies. I have given up going to baby showers for now and stear clear of the baby section in the store and that helps. Seeing a very pregnant women still gets me but all I can do is take it day by day.

BeckyP005

Ha...I don't know where I belong...probably off the boards! I'm glad but in a sad way that I'm not the only one that has to wait long to get anything started. I have 5 more months to wait for another mamm then if mock cycle goes well I will be put on the DE waiting list that will likely take up to 6 months   Maybe for my 45 bday next year that will be my present...being PG?  Could only hope! GL girls

It's funny but if I'm not on for few days I feel lost...

chitwngal2010

It's really nice to hear from everyone, Mrs. McIrish, you of all people get to be bitter, you  have had a rough journey! good luck on IVF#4!

as for me, my SO is against IVF i guess because of finances, his religious beliefs and overall he just can't accept as he puts it that our baby will be concieved in a lab. He isn't saying no to it altogether but just isn't ready to go there yet.

While my clock keeps ticking away and i am reminded that i will be 40yrd old in    1 1/2 months!

good luck to all my bumpies, and i guess i will look for you on the IF boards!

oh yeah good luck to the newbies on here as well.  

 

 

tfkre8ive

I'm a bit of an old-timer, on and off the board during this "journey." Started TTC #1 in 2009. I've been taking a break from medicated cycles, trying to lose some weight (lost 13# so far), and exploring adoption. I too feel like I'm at the end and won't ever have a bio baby, so maybe we'll adopt. Maybe we'll be child free. IDK. It's all very emotionally draining for me. I've also been lurking on another site that's devoted to PCOS, because I feel like that's my main problem right now.

It's good to see so many newbs here. Makes me realize I'm not the only one over 35 TTC. Most people I know think I'm crazy. Fortunately, you ladies do not.

I may post more when I go back to the RE later this year, but still lurking and rooting for everyone. Good luck all.

annalisel

Not sure if you consider me an old-timer, but I've been both physically away and feeling mentally separate from the board. I mean, I can't get pregnant so I'm not really TTC, if you know what I mean? We have one more IVF cycle and then we are done. It feels final and not fun and hopeful like the tone of the board. I just can't relate. Let's put it this way - the IF board feels too hopeful at this point.

Re: the decision to do IVF. It's my honest feeling that IVF is really meant for couples where the woman is no older than 37 and that most (though not all) of the BFPs from IVF when the woman is older are in women who probably could have gotten pregnant naturally (with more time, better sperm or unblocked tubes). And, if the prognosis with IVF is bad because of DOR from AMA, IVF isn't going to much increase the odds over conceiving naturally and therefore not a good choice if you are paying OOP. Of course there will be surprise poor prognosis IVF success stories, but unless you are rich, it's probably not worth the $16000 or so to bet that you'll be one of them. Just my controversial opinion :-)

irishgirl0525

I guess I am a senior since I have been posting on this board for just over a year.  I'm glad to see some names I haven't seen in a while.  I wish more of us were gone because we had graduated to Pregnant after 35. I haven't really gone over to the IF board because I feel like this is my home, though I guess I would see some of you over there too.

I'll be 40 at the end of May and if my next IVF cycle goes well, perhaps I'll find out on my birthday that it's good news. If not, I may have to turn the page on this soon.

I've been gearing up to write a post about where I am in my head and where DH and I are on this, but it's a hard one to write so I have been putting it off. 

MelleTX

owlprof:

I'm here too, although maybe I'm one of the younger old-timers?  I started posting on TB around this time last year.  Definitely lots of new faces. I never thought I'd be here this long.  I lurk a lot on IF and TTC, but I feel a bit out of place there since I don't think we will do anything beyond IUIs.  (My lurking was rewarded big time yesterday with Melle's Fresh Prince post on IF (I think) -- I wanted to pop in and respond:  ...they left the keys to the brand new Porsche, should I take it? Well, of course I should.... 

Good luck to all of us, wherever our journeys are heading.

You are welcome in my post anytime!

McIrish, you can be as bitter as you want to be. I still believe there are great things in store for you but I understand why you feel the way you do and there is nothing wrong with how you feel.

Llama, I swear I am tossing a collection cup at your DH.  

XV11Star

I can relate to so much of what everyone here has written!  I found myself knodding my head and thinking, "I will quote that post" and then... "no that one..."  :-P 

I have no idea where I am in the bigger picture of ttc.  I can't get pregnant naturally because I have no tubes, and my RE has given me around 10-15% odds per IVF cycle due to my DOR.  I turned 40 in February.  We are OOP and DE is not an option, nor is adoption.  To add to it, I just had my 13th (thirteenth!!!) HCG draw yesterday post m/c, and it had gone up yet again.  We've done misoprostol, modified endo biopsy and 2 shots of MTX.  I am going to be doing 2 more MTX shots early next week.  The numbers are low enough that there's no concern of trophoblastic disease or something like that, but they are stubborn enough that we don't want to just wait it out because it could be forever.  Not having closure on that is torture.

The longer this drags on, the more I feel like, as Irish said, we are turning the page on this phase of our life... it's been quite a process to wrap my head around.  But it's exausting to think of starting up the IVF drama again, the shots, appts, restrictions, monitoring, financial hits, the hopes and frustrations of that roller coaster.  But it's also really hard to just say "that's it" and walk away.  So I lurk around IF, IFV and sometimes here too. 

Good luck and big hugs to you all ~ I am so grateful to have this outlet for its comraderie and support.