Uh JellyBean, you got some 'splainin to do!

mrsgaines100

burp

mrsgaines100

burp sorry

kellbelle618

Jellybean902:

delino:

You DD'd without the delete. You are on this board all day and night, often being AWish (you've stated this quite often even in your bling post from this morning eventhough everyone knows these posts are annoying)...you know that it's frowned upon. You are well aware that you've rubbed many the wrong way, so when you do something like this it won't slip by unnoticed. Drama follows you on TB....the only way to stop it is to stop causing it. Think before you type.

It was REQUESTED with good points for the request that it be deleted and I saw Kacy's point as to why. And while Petra did not blatantly request that the posts be deleted, her tone suggested that it might be a good idea. I cannot delete my comments within a thread for some reason. I get a message about exceeding the time limit to do so, or something to that effect. Therefore, editing my words out was the next best thing. As I stated, I did not do this to "save face." Kacy pointed out that having the exchange between me and Wicked in a girls intro post was not a good idea and I understood and agreed. So I did what I could to remove that exchange from the girls intro post. Please do not try and twist it into anything other than it was.  

I am calling BS to the bolded. Petra did not and would not ever suggest, imply, etc that anyone DD their post and I don't appreciate you dragging my dear friend's name in to this and implying that her "tone" suggested you do it. Put on your BGP and take the flames. What you did was wrong, stop trying to put it off on other people.

TruthyAE

kellbelle618:

Jellybean902:

delino:

You DD'd without the delete. You are on this board all day and night, often being AWish (you've stated this quite often even in your bling post from this morning eventhough everyone knows these posts are annoying)...you know that it's frowned upon. You are well aware that you've rubbed many the wrong way, so when you do something like this it won't slip by unnoticed. Drama follows you on TB....the only way to stop it is to stop causing it. Think before you type.

It was REQUESTED with good points for the request that it be deleted and I saw Kacy's point as to why. And while Petra did not blatantly request that the posts be deleted, her tone suggested that it might be a good idea. I cannot delete my comments within a thread for some reason. I get a message about exceeding the time limit to do so, or something to that effect. Therefore, editing my words out was the next best thing. As I stated, I did not do this to "save face." Kacy pointed out that having the exchange between me and Wicked in a girls intro post was not a good idea and I understood and agreed. So I did what I could to remove that exchange from the girls intro post. Please do not try and twist it into anything other than it was.  

I am calling BS to the bolded. Petra did not and would not ever suggest, imply, etc that anyone DD their post and I don't appreciate you dragging my dear friend's name in to this and implying that her "tone" suggested you do it. Put on your BGP and take the flames. What you did was wrong, stop trying to put it off on other people.

Not to defend JB because she is competing with VQ for the AW hall of fame but Petra did ask someone to DD an entire thread last night.  

kellbelle618

TruthyAE:

kellbelle618:

Jellybean902:

delino:

You DD'd without the delete. You are on this board all day and night, often being AWish (you've stated this quite often even in your bling post from this morning eventhough everyone knows these posts are annoying)...you know that it's frowned upon. You are well aware that you've rubbed many the wrong way, so when you do something like this it won't slip by unnoticed. Drama follows you on TB....the only way to stop it is to stop causing it. Think before you type.

It was REQUESTED with good points for the request that it be deleted and I saw Kacy's point as to why. And while Petra did not blatantly request that the posts be deleted, her tone suggested that it might be a good idea. I cannot delete my comments within a thread for some reason. I get a message about exceeding the time limit to do so, or something to that effect. Therefore, editing my words out was the next best thing. As I stated, I did not do this to "save face." Kacy pointed out that having the exchange between me and Wicked in a girls intro post was not a good idea and I understood and agreed. So I did what I could to remove that exchange from the girls intro post. Please do not try and twist it into anything other than it was.  

I am calling BS to the bolded. Petra did not and would not ever suggest, imply, etc that anyone DD their post and I don't appreciate you dragging my dear friend's name in to this and implying that her "tone" suggested you do it. Put on your BGP and take the flames. What you did was wrong, stop trying to put it off on other people.

Not to defend JB because she is competing with VQ for the AW hall of fame but Petra did ask someone to DD an entire thread last night.  

While I can't speak to the thread you are referencing, since I clearly missed that-I do know that Petra would not ask JB to edit her posts in the way that JB is trying to imply that she did.

And FWIW, I think JB is the clear winner in the AW/PW hall of fame, but that is a discussion for another time

EDIT: And why are you still hiding behind your AE? Why don't you come out and play on your normal sn?

mrsgaines100

TruthyAE:

kellbelle618:

Jellybean902:

delino:

You DD'd without the delete. You are on this board all day and night, often being AWish (you've stated this quite often even in your bling post from this morning eventhough everyone knows these posts are annoying)...you know that it's frowned upon. You are well aware that you've rubbed many the wrong way, so when you do something like this it won't slip by unnoticed. Drama follows you on TB....the only way to stop it is to stop causing it. Think before you type.

It was REQUESTED with good points for the request that it be deleted and I saw Kacy's point as to why. And while Petra did not blatantly request that the posts be deleted, her tone suggested that it might be a good idea. I cannot delete my comments within a thread for some reason. I get a message about exceeding the time limit to do so, or something to that effect. Therefore, editing my words out was the next best thing. As I stated, I did not do this to "save face." Kacy pointed out that having the exchange between me and Wicked in a girls intro post was not a good idea and I understood and agreed. So I did what I could to remove that exchange from the girls intro post. Please do not try and twist it into anything other than it was.  

I am calling BS to the bolded. Petra did not and would not ever suggest, imply, etc that anyone DD their post and I don't appreciate you dragging my dear friend's name in to this and implying that her "tone" suggested you do it. Put on your BGP and take the flames. What you did was wrong, stop trying to put it off on other people.

Not to defend JB because she is competing with VQ for the AW hall of fame but Petra did ask someone to DD an entire thread last night.  

You are a douche.  And JB, you need to quit running and hiding behind Petra's legs and others and just man up.

Funnygirl34

QuigleyCat1:

atmidwoodtobe:

Patiently waiting....

No comment really on the original post here, but just wanted to say that's the creepiest picture!  And why does Michael Jackson come to mind?!

It's the eyes... 

KacyChicago

delino:

Jellybean902:

delino:

You DD'd without the delete. You are on this board all day and night, often being AWish (you've stated this quite often even in your bling post from this morning eventhough everyone knows these posts are annoying)...you know that it's frowned upon. You are well aware that you've rubbed many the wrong way, so when you do something like this it won't slip by unnoticed. Drama follows you on TB....the only way to stop it is to stop causing it. Think before you type.

It was REQUESTED with good points for the request that it be deleted and I saw Kacy's point as to why. And while Petra did not blatantly request that the posts be deleted, her tone suggested that it might be a good idea. I cannot delete my comments within a thread for some reason. I get a message about exceeding the time limit to do so, or something to that effect. Therefore, editing my words out was the next best thing. As I stated, I did not do this to "save face." Kacy pointed out that having the exchange between me and Wicked in a girls intro post was not a good idea and I understood and agreed. So I did what I could to remove that exchange from the girls intro post. Please do not try and twist it into anything other than it was.  

What exactly did I "twist"? You just said that you tried to delete them, but couldn't. Tell me where I misspoke. I don't care what Kacy told you to do. Are your a grown woman? Do you make your own decisions? Are you on this board all day long? Are you going to pretend to not realize that deleting is bad?

OK ... I didn't want to get back into this conversation, but actually my initial request was to Petra asking could those posts be deleted, as it wasn't the time or the place. She said no, but the original posters could moderate them as they saw fit. That is what Jellybean DECIDED to do. Not what I ASKED her to do. I could give a crap about "board etiquette" when it overshoots human decency. I took the blame for the original request, but seeing my name in every post on this thread is kind of gross, when those who know me know how much I hate all this drama.

But my only reason for getting involved yesterday was to save the feelings of the original poster WHO WAS SEEKING HELP ON A LOSS BOARD, only to have all this s*** go down.

There are DDs all the time that don't cause this much crap. If y'all want to get down on JellyBean for all of her AWing, go right ahead, as it's warranted. (Along with some of her self-righteous responses.) Even though I don't agree with her actions, Wicked was right to call her out, she just chose the wrong place to do it. Why this current thread was started I will never know.

It amazes me that you all let this stuff feed you like this. We are grown women, hurting because we lost our children, and yet stuff like this remains so important day after day. And, people get flamed for posting real TTCAL questions ... It's just beyond me.

kellbelle618

mrsgaines100:

TruthyAE:

kellbelle618:

Jellybean902:

delino:

You DD'd without the delete. You are on this board all day and night, often being AWish (you've stated this quite often even in your bling post from this morning eventhough everyone knows these posts are annoying)...you know that it's frowned upon. You are well aware that you've rubbed many the wrong way, so when you do something like this it won't slip by unnoticed. Drama follows you on TB....the only way to stop it is to stop causing it. Think before you type.

It was REQUESTED with good points for the request that it be deleted and I saw Kacy's point as to why. And while Petra did not blatantly request that the posts be deleted, her tone suggested that it might be a good idea. I cannot delete my comments within a thread for some reason. I get a message about exceeding the time limit to do so, or something to that effect. Therefore, editing my words out was the next best thing. As I stated, I did not do this to "save face." Kacy pointed out that having the exchange between me and Wicked in a girls intro post was not a good idea and I understood and agreed. So I did what I could to remove that exchange from the girls intro post. Please do not try and twist it into anything other than it was.  

I am calling BS to the bolded. Petra did not and would not ever suggest, imply, etc that anyone DD their post and I don't appreciate you dragging my dear friend's name in to this and implying that her "tone" suggested you do it. Put on your BGP and take the flames. What you did was wrong, stop trying to put it off on other people.

Not to defend JB because she is competing with VQ for the AW hall of fame but Petra did ask someone to DD an entire thread last night.  

You are a douche.  And JB, you need to quit running and hiding behind Petra's legs and others and just man up.

luvmyducks

TruthyAE:

kellbelle618:

Jellybean902:

delino:

You DD'd without the delete. You are on this board all day and night, often being AWish (you've stated this quite often even in your bling post from this morning eventhough everyone knows these posts are annoying)...you know that it's frowned upon. You are well aware that you've rubbed many the wrong way, so when you do something like this it won't slip by unnoticed. Drama follows you on TB....the only way to stop it is to stop causing it. Think before you type.

It was REQUESTED with good points for the request that it be deleted and I saw Kacy's point as to why. And while Petra did not blatantly request that the posts be deleted, her tone suggested that it might be a good idea. I cannot delete my comments within a thread for some reason. I get a message about exceeding the time limit to do so, or something to that effect. Therefore, editing my words out was the next best thing. As I stated, I did not do this to "save face." Kacy pointed out that having the exchange between me and Wicked in a girls intro post was not a good idea and I understood and agreed. So I did what I could to remove that exchange from the girls intro post. Please do not try and twist it into anything other than it was.  

I am calling BS to the bolded. Petra did not and would not ever suggest, imply, etc that anyone DD their post and I don't appreciate you dragging my dear friend's name in to this and implying that her "tone" suggested you do it. Put on your BGP and take the flames. What you did was wrong, stop trying to put it off on other people.

Not to defend JB because she is competing with VQ for the AW hall of fame but Petra did ask someone to DD an entire thread last night.  

If you are just pointing something out why are you still hiding behind your AE? Coward. 

atmidwoodtobe

Funnygirl34:

QuigleyCat1:

atmidwoodtobe:

Patiently waiting....

No comment really on the original post here, but just wanted to say that's the creepiest picture!  And why does Michael Jackson come to mind?!

It's the eyes... 

LOL. Possibly the eye/nose combination?

CheezItSnack

KacyChicago:

. I took the blame for the original request, but seeing my name in every post on this thread is kind of gross, when those who know me know how much I hate all this drama. 

Please correct me if I'm wrong, but the only time you're name has been anywhere was when someone quoted something you said...No one brought you in.... 

atmidwoodtobe

Jellybean902:

delino:

You DD'd without the delete. You are on this board all day and night, often being AWish (you've stated this quite often even in your bling post from this morning eventhough everyone knows these posts are annoying)...you know that it's frowned upon. You are well aware that you've rubbed many the wrong way, so when you do something like this it won't slip by unnoticed. Drama follows you on TB....the only way to stop it is to stop causing it. Think before you type.

It was REQUESTED with good points for the request that it be deleted and I saw Kacy's point as to why. And while Petra did not blatantly request that the posts be deleted, her tone suggested that it might be a good idea. I cannot delete my comments within a thread for some reason. I get a message about exceeding the time limit to do so, or something to that effect. Therefore, editing my words out was the next best thing. As I stated, I did not do this to "save face." Kacy pointed out that having the exchange between me and Wicked in a girls intro post was not a good idea and I understood and agreed. So I did what I could to remove that exchange from the girls intro post. Please do not try and twist it into anything other than it was.  

I'm sensing a pattern here. You seem to do things as YOU see them fit and try to twist other's words to try and back you up. You need to stop this nonsense, put on your BGP and admit that you are wrong and stop the self-righteous, pity party act that you keep playing. It's just annoying.

aliciaf111

It amazes me that you all let this stuff feed you like this. We are grown women, hurting because we lost our children, and yet stuff like this remains so important day after day. And, people get flamed for posting real TTCAL questions ... It's just beyond me.

 

From someone with no vested friendship with any of the parties involved, this has been my thoughts exactly.  This has taken over almost 2 full days on the board...and generated 10x more responses then those with legit TTC concerns.   From what i know/read about everyone from this board, I can't understand why everyone feels the need to harp on this and cause pain/anxiety to one another with so many other important things everyone is dealing with.  I used to look forward to my internet "breaks" I took during lunch as I found this board fun, with some TTCAL education mixed in but this week its just brought me down more so then doing work!    Hopefully you guys can work this out and the board can get back to doing what is does best.

KacyChicago

CheezItSnack:

KacyChicago:

. I took the blame for the original request, but seeing my name in every post on this thread is kind of gross, when those who know me know how much I hate all this drama. 

Please correct me if I'm wrong, but the only time you're name has been anywhere was when someone quoted something you said...No one brought you in.... 

I'm sorry ... Should I have been more specific? Seeing my name over and over again in all of JB's responses, and then in subsequent ones back to her has just surprised me, is all.

I don't mean in a "y'all are now picking on me" kind of way, as there's no reason to feel that.

Anyway, I'm out of this, except for my original point, there's a time and place for all of the call-outs, and a intro post is not the place. I'm sorry, again, that I tried to stop it ... I realize now that's fruitless. 

AngnShaun

mrsgaines100:

AngnShaun:

wheres a devils advocate when you need one?

Right heagh!!  Lol

hahah thats awesome. 

JellyTwoPointO

PetraStonegirl:

Jellybean902:

delino:

You DD'd without the delete. You are on this board all day and night, often being AWish (you've stated this quite often even in your bling post from this morning eventhough everyone knows these posts are annoying)...you know that it's frowned upon. You are well aware that you've rubbed many the wrong way, so when you do something like this it won't slip by unnoticed. Drama follows you on TB....the only way to stop it is to stop causing it. Think before you type.

It was REQUESTED with good points for the request that it be deleted and I saw Kacy's point as to why. And while Petra did not blatantly request that the posts be deleted, her tone suggested that it might be a good idea. I cannot delete my comments within a thread for some reason. I get a message about exceeding the time limit to do so, or something to that effect. Therefore, editing my words out was the next best thing. As I stated, I did not do this to "save face." Kacy pointed out that having the exchange between me and Wicked in a girls intro post was not a good idea and I understood and agreed. So I did what I could to remove that exchange from the girls intro post. Please do not try and twist it into anything other than it was.  

Please don't drag me into this.

I told you to put the shutgun down because you were continuing to make a new intro feel like crap after she had gracefully apologized to you. 

When asked if I would please delete the ensuing arguments, I explained that physically I could do it, but I did not think it was my place, and that individual posters could chose to do that on their own. I was not addressing you, and I certainly didn't try to drop a hint that you should do that on your own.

I'm pretty sure over a year of my history here shows how I feel about hiding what you said. The only time I have ever directly asked someone what they thought about deleting a thread of theirs was last night when I asked LaTi about removing the NC thread since it had been taken over by an AE spewing hateful and ignorant opinions about obese women and their rights to reproductive therapies. Also, and this is a very important point, LaTi was not the author of the ignorant and hate-filled statements. 

Then I misunderstood you, Petra, and I am sorry.  

thatlauragirl

PetraStonegirl:

  

Please don't drag me into this.

I told you to put the shutgun down because you were continuing to make a new intro feel like crap after she had gracefully apologized to you. 

When asked if I would please delete the ensuing arguments, I explained that physically I could do it, but I did not think it was my place, and that individual posters could chose to do that on their own. I was not addressing you, and I certainly didn't try to drop a hint that you should do that on your own.

I'm pretty sure over a year of my history here shows how I feel about hiding what you said. The only time I have ever directly asked someone what they thought about deleting a thread of theirs was last night when I asked LaTi about removing the NC thread since it had been taken over by an AE spewing hateful and ignorant opinions about obese women and their rights to reproductive therapies. Also, and this is a very important point, LaTi was not the author of the ignorant and hate-filled statements. 

Whoaaaa. Say what? That's taking hatefulness to a whole new realm. I thank you and LaTi for removing the whole dang thing and I'm glad I went to bed before that started. What is the deal with blatant cruelty??? It blows my mind.

millejj1

jenn0021:

:::I want to insert a picture of someone eating popcorn waiting in suspense but I don't know how, so imagine it::::

I prefer this one. 

QuigleyCat1

So as it turns out I DO have a comment to this thread.  For me personally, I can't "tell" who's who when they're using their AEs.  But here's how I feel...in the very near future (if it hasn't already happened) some people are going to start assuming and "they may think" they know "who" an AE is.  This is only going to cause more undue anger and hurt feelings.  At that point we're going to lose more dedicated TTCALers!  I realize that every now and then a sh!tstorm blows through here and my words are not going to fix or stop any of the drama, but someone or everyone needs to be the first to step up and just stop.  It's heartbreaking to know that the women who are so supportive and caring to each other are now calling each other names. 

mrsgaines100

millejj1:

jenn0021:

:::I want to insert a picture of someone eating popcorn waiting in suspense but I don't know how, so imagine it::::

I prefer this one. 

Dude!  Awesome.  Gets me every time.

kellbelle618

KacyChicago:

CheezItSnack:

KacyChicago:

. I took the blame for the original request, but seeing my name in every post on this thread is kind of gross, when those who know me know how much I hate all this drama. 

Please correct me if I'm wrong, but the only time you're name has been anywhere was when someone quoted something you said...No one brought you in.... 

I'm sorry ... Should I have been more specific? Seeing my name over and over again in all of JB's responses, and then in subsequent ones back to her has just surprised me, is all.

I don't mean in a "y'all are now picking on me" kind of way, as there's no reason to feel that.

Anyway, I'm out of this, except for my original point, there's a time and place for all of the call-outs, and a intro post is not the place. I'm sorry, again, that I tried to stop it ... I realize now that's fruitless. 

I honestly don't think anyone is upset with you. I think your heart was in the right place and I do see your point (although I personally still don't agree with the editting).

I think the frustration is with JB and the fact that instead of owning up to what she did, she decided to throw you and Petra under the bus saying well I did it because they told me I should. Really? Are we in 5th grade? Last I checked we were all grown women who make our own decisions. She decided to delete and twist her comments in a way that makes her look better which is absolutely ridiculous.

minicheezburg

QuigleyCat1:

So as it turns out I DO have a comment to this thread.  For me personally, I can't "tell" who's who when they're using their AEs.  But here's how I feel...in the very near future (if it hasn't already happened) some people are going to start assuming and "they may think" they know "who" an AE is.  This is only going to cause more undue anger and hurt feelings.  At that point we're going to lose more dedicated TTCALers!  I realize that every now and then a sh!tstorm blows through here and my words are not going to fix or stop any of the drama, but someone or everyone needs to be the first to step up and just stop.  It's heartbreaking to know that the women who are so supportive and caring to each other are now calling each other names. 

I love you!

jenn0021

millejj1:

jenn0021:

:::I want to insert a picture of someone eating popcorn waiting in suspense but I don't know how, so imagine it::::

I prefer this one. 

YES! This is the one i was thinking of. I love it!

MrsCisco222

mlal78:

QuigleyCat1:

So as it turns out I DO have a comment to this thread.  For me personally, I can't "tell" who's who when they're using their AEs.  But here's how I feel...in the very near future (if it hasn't already happened) some people are going to start assuming and "they may think" they know "who" an AE is.  This is only going to cause more undue anger and hurt feelings.  At that point we're going to lose more dedicated TTCALers!  I realize that every now and then a sh!tstorm blows through here and my words are not going to fix or stop any of the drama, but someone or everyone needs to be the first to step up and just stop.  It's heartbreaking to know that the women who are so supportive and caring to each other are now calling each other names. 

   There are so many AE's floating around right now I don't know who is real and who is not anymore.

ETA except for the couple of very obvious ones.  I t almost makes me afraid to respond to anything.

I know I'm new here and have no comment about the other things discussed on this board. I don't feel it's my place. However, thank you both for these posts. Curiosity got the best of me, and I've read some of the things posted here. It makes me nervous to respond to things too. I joined this board to feel like I was a part of something great, but instead I'm feeling a little scared.

shanrob

I clearly need this guy, 'cause I gotta tell ya: I have no clue who these cruel AEs are.  Attacking someone's weight?!  I am so glad I didn't see that...

And as for the other stuff, the bottom line is this: if you screw up, own it.  If you say something that later you wish you hadn't, say so.  If you choose to delete, keep, alter a post, don't say it was because someone told you to. Now excuse me while I go spend some time with Mr. Selleck. 

melly918

QuigleyCat1:

So as it turns out I DO have a comment to this thread.  For me personally, I can't "tell" who's who when they're using their AEs.  But here's how I feel...in the very near future (if it hasn't already happened) some people are going to start assuming and "they may think" they know "who" an AE is.  This is only going to cause more undue anger and hurt feelings.  At that point we're going to lose more dedicated TTCALers!  I realize that every now and then a sh!tstorm blows through here and my words are not going to fix or stop any of the drama, but someone or everyone needs to be the first to step up and just stop.  It's heartbreaking to know that the women who are so supportive and caring to each other are now calling each other names. 

This.  Does anyone realize today was the EDD for at least three of us who are on TTCAL?  I feel like this whole board has gone in a whole other direction. Can we just stop right now, take a deep breath, and move on?   We need to focus on TTCAL itself and the ladies who need positive support and not this side chatter of drama that is totally unnecessary and destructive to the morale of this board.

 

::stepping out - to take a long relaxing bath at 2:30 in the afternoon with a good book just because::

TruthyAE

shanrob:

I clearly need this guy, 'cause I gotta tell ya: I have no clue who these cruel AEs are.  Attacking someone's weight?!  I am so glad I didn't see that...

And as for the other stuff, the bottom line is this: if you screw up, own it.  If you say something that later you wish you hadn't, say so.  If you choose to delete, keep, alter a post, don't say it was because someone told you to. Now excuse me while I go spend some time with Mr. Selleck. 

I didn't attack anyones weight. There's no way to know what I said now because unfortunately Petra convinced Lati to delete the entire thread. I stated my opinion that doctors shouldnt be so quick to prescribe treatments to obese patients without first addressing obesity which is a major fertility issue. I also said that people tapdance around the issue of weight here. I didnt say anything about anyones weight in particular or say that anyone miscarried because of their weight because thats not what I was talking about. Because of the deleted thread now people can take things I said out of context and make stuff up. What I said wasnt popular obviously but it was also truthful. Ive already been told by people that the delete was wrong and that some didnt like what I had to say but it wasnt deleteworthy.

QuigleyCat1

melly918:

QuigleyCat1:

So as it turns out I DO have a comment to this thread.  For me personally, I can't "tell" who's who when they're using their AEs.  But here's how I feel...in the very near future (if it hasn't already happened) some people are going to start assuming and "they may think" they know "who" an AE is.  This is only going to cause more undue anger and hurt feelings.  At that point we're going to lose more dedicated TTCALers!  I realize that every now and then a sh!tstorm blows through here and my words are not going to fix or stop any of the drama, but someone or everyone needs to be the first to step up and just stop.  It's heartbreaking to know that the women who are so supportive and caring to each other are now calling each other names. 

This.  Does anyone realize today was the EDD for at least three of us who are on TTCAL?  I feel like this whole board has gone in a whole other direction. Can we just stop right now, take a deep breath, and move on?   We need to focus on TTCAL itself and the ladies who need positive support and not this side chatter of drama that is totally unnecessary and destructive to the morale of this board.

 

::stepping out - to take a long relaxing bath at 2:30 in the afternoon with a good book just because::

Oh Melly I'm so sorry.  This is a sad and emotional day for you sweetie.  I'm so sorry that this is the crap that you're having to see when you should be getting support from us all.  My thoughts are with you today and lots and lots of hugs!

OK people....THIS is what this board is for and is about! 

shanrob

TruthyAE:

shanrob:

I clearly need this guy, 'cause I gotta tell ya: I have no clue who these cruel AEs are.  Attacking someone's weight?!  I am so glad I didn't see that...

And as for the other stuff, the bottom line is this: if you screw up, own it.  If you say something that later you wish you hadn't, say so.  If you choose to delete, keep, alter a post, don't say it was because someone told you to. Now excuse me while I go spend some time with Mr. Selleck. 

I didn't attack anyones weight. There's no way to know what I said now because unfortunately Petra convinced Lati to delete the entire thread. I stated my opinion that doctors shouldnt be so quick to prescribe treatments to obese patients without first addressing obesity which is a major fertility issue. I also said that people tapdance around the issue of weight here. I didnt say anything about anyones weight in particular or say that anyone miscarried because of their weight because thats not what I was talking about. Because of the deleted thread now people can take things I said out of context and make stuff up. What I said wasnt popular obviously but it was also truthful. Ive already been told by people that the delete was wrong and that some didnt like what I had to say but it wasnt deleteworthy.

Fine.  This is a public board and you are entitled to whatever opinion you hold.  My issue is that you don't have confidence and strength enough in whatever belief you hold to stand by it.  You want to come and be supported under your real persona, then announce your unpopular opinions under another.  If you spouted the above, no doubt you would be flamed.  And I may be the first to light the match, because I don't agree with you.  But, I'd respect you that you were a confident woman secure in your opinion.  Now, I think you are an insecure coward who isn't sure of anything.

thatlauragirl

shanrob:

I clearly need this guy, 'cause I gotta tell ya: I have no clue who these cruel AEs are.  Attacking someone's weight?!  I am so glad I didn't see that...

And as for the other stuff, the bottom line is this: if you screw up, own it.  If you say something that later you wish you hadn't, say so.  If you choose to delete, keep, alter a post, don't say it was because someone told you to. Now excuse me while I go spend some time with Mr. Selleck. 

I'm so confused. I'm an outsider who doesn't have a clue who any of these AE's are. I give up trying to figure this out.

BUT, in the midst of my confusion, you post this pic. Which promptly causes the Magnum PI theme song to run through my head repeatedly. This is honestly the best thing that's happened since I've been reading the board today and I thank you!

In case you want to join me, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3CquMO3vJvo . It's epic.

orangegoggles

This is all ridiculous.

shanrob

QuigleyCat1:

melly918:

QuigleyCat1:

So as it turns out I DO have a comment to this thread.  For me personally, I can't "tell" who's who when they're using their AEs.  But here's how I feel...in the very near future (if it hasn't already happened) some people are going to start assuming and "they may think" they know "who" an AE is.  This is only going to cause more undue anger and hurt feelings.  At that point we're going to lose more dedicated TTCALers!  I realize that every now and then a sh!tstorm blows through here and my words are not going to fix or stop any of the drama, but someone or everyone needs to be the first to step up and just stop.  It's heartbreaking to know that the women who are so supportive and caring to each other are now calling each other names. 

This.  Does anyone realize today was the EDD for at least three of us who are on TTCAL?  I feel like this whole board has gone in a whole other direction. Can we just stop right now, take a deep breath, and move on?   We need to focus on TTCAL itself and the ladies who need positive support and not this side chatter of drama that is totally unnecessary and destructive to the morale of this board.

 

::stepping out - to take a long relaxing bath at 2:30 in the afternoon with a good book just because::

Oh Melly I'm so sorry.  This is a sad and emotional day for you sweetie.  I'm so sorry that this is the crap that you're having to see when you should be getting support from us all.  My thoughts are with you today and lots and lots of hugs!

OK people....THIS is what this board is for and is about! 

This.  So sorry Melly.  Enjoy your afternoon bath, and don't come out till you're pruned and relaxed

KacyChicago

QuigleyCat1:

melly918:

This.  Does anyone realize today was the EDD for at least three of us who are on TTCAL?  I feel like this whole board has gone in a whole other direction. Can we just stop right now, take a deep breath, and move on?   We need to focus on TTCAL itself and the ladies who need positive support and not this side chatter of drama that is totally unnecessary and destructive to the morale of this board.

Oh Melly I'm so sorry.  This is a sad and emotional day for you sweetie.  I'm so sorry that this is the crap that you're having to see when you should be getting support from us all.  My thoughts are with you today and lots and lots of hugs!

OK people....THIS is what this board is for and is about! 

I'm sorry that this is all happening today, Melly, and just know that I am honestly thinking about you. I am so sorry for your loss, and that you even have to be here to see any of this. It broke my heart to see your post on this thread, and I hate more energy is going in to all of this than what we signed on here for in the first place.

 

pkaren

I'm also very new here and I know my two cents are probably not worth anything, but I can't help it. This is a free community board. We are internet strangers. I get that we have a sense of community here and this board has been so helpful and supportive to me for the short time I've been here. But all this drama makes me afraid to post the wrong thing. So what if a stranger asked for a chart stalk without ever giving support to anyone? Isn't that what this board is sorta for? Newbies shouldn't be afraid to ask questions. I don't want to take sides (but obvi I am) I think JB was a little self-righteous with her response. Where are people supposed to ask these questions if not here? All of this drama has taken us so far from the point of what this board is.

And if people are offended...so what...this isn't real life. It's the internet. Nobody OWNS this board. Sheesh.

And since I'm on the topic....where the heck is VQ? All this drama pushed HER away. That's sad. This board NEEDS members like her and Petra and LaTi and KaceyChicago and all the so many others that i look up to and respect.

::Slowly backing away now::

luvmyducks

There is a pattern here that maybe everyone isn't seeing.

JB causes drama--it follows her because of the crap she spews when she types.  Drama will die down when she does.

With the exception of Truthy's lame, cowardly call-outs, all the drama lately has stemmed from JB.

This isn't to ruin anyone's day.

Any of you ever think what this board would be like if people were DDing and editing their posts all the time and no one said anything?  Anyone wonder what the board would be like if people weren't called out for their douchey-ness?   Here's a hint--check out babygaga.com.  That is what this board would turn into.  For those that haven't been around for a while, this board is the amazing and supportive community it is because of the posters that have been around a while and look out for the well being of the board and it's members.  That blog that everyone loves?  Yeah, created by the women who have been around here for a long time to help protect each other.  A lot of the same women who call out others when something done is not okay. 

Drama will happen--it is a public message board.  Sometimes the drama sucks, but sometimes it is necessary to weed out those people that will hurt us.

You know, the ones that like to make AEs to say hurtful things to others under a cowardly mask.  Or the ones that say something ridiculous, gets flamed, and then tries to come back under a different SN like no one will find it out.  Dishonesty is not okay on a board where women are grieving and are looking for other women to post/talk with to support them.  The women here do not need liars and cowards.  And a lot of you probably don't know this, but there have been "women" here in the past posing as someone completely fake, who stole information and pictures from real grieving women to use on other message boards.  We sometimes share very personal things on this board, even though it is public.  We can't stop things like that from happening, but can sure as hell try.  There are probably "women" here right now who are fake, never had a loss, and get off on our pain.  It's sick.  Us older posters have seen it with our own eyes and it sucks big time and makes us all feel vulnerable.  We are protective for a reason.

Just some food for thought.  

QuigleyCat1

luvmyducks:

There is a pattern here that maybe everyone isn't seeing.

JB causes drama--it follows her because of the crap she spews when she types.  Drama will die down when she does.

With the exception of Truthy's lame, cowardly call-outs, all the drama lately has stemmed from JB.

This isn't to ruin anyone's day.

Any of you ever think what this board would be like if people were DDing and editing their posts all the time and no one said anything?  Anyone wonder what the board would be like if people weren't called out for their douchey-ness?   Here's a hint--check out babygaga.com.  That is what this board would turn into.  For those that haven't been around for a while, this board is the amazing and supportive community it is because of the posters that have been around a while and look out for the well being of the board and it's members.  That blog that everyone loves?  Yeah, created by the women who have been around here for a long time to help protect each other.  A lot of the same women who call out others when something done is not okay. 

Drama will happen--it is a public message board.  Sometimes the drama sucks, but sometimes it is necessary to weed out those people that will hurt us.

You know, the ones that like to make AEs to say hurtful things to others under a cowardly mask.  Or the ones that say something ridiculous, gets flamed, and then tries to come back under a different SN like no one will find it out.  Dishonesty is not okay on a board where women are grieving and are looking for other women to post/talk with to support them.  The women here do not need liars and cowards.  And a lot of you probably don't know this, but there have been "women" here in the past posing as someone completely fake, who stole information and pictures from real grieving women to use on other message boards.  We sometimes share very personal things on this board, even though it is public.  We can't stop things like that from happening, but can sure as hell try.  There are probably "women" here right now who are fake, never had a loss, and get off on our pain.  It's sick.  Us older posters have seen it with our own eyes and it sucks big time and makes us all feel vulnerable.  We are protective for a reason.

Just some food for thought.  

Ugh the bolded part just sickens me.  Thank you for your insight Luvmyducks and hugs!

katharine25

pkaren:

I'm also very new here and I know my two cents are probably not worth anything, but I can't help it. This is a free community board. We are internet strangers. I get that we have a sense of community here and this board has been so helpful and supportive to me for the short time I've been here. But all this drama makes me afraid to post the wrong thing. So what if a stranger asked for a chart stalk without ever giving support to anyone? Isn't that what this board is sorta for? Newbies shouldn't be afraid to ask questions. I don't want to take sides (but obvi I am) I think JB was a little self-righteous with her response. Where are people supposed to ask these questions if not here? All of this drama has taken us so far from the point of what this board is.

And if people are offended...so what...this isn't real life. It's the internet. Nobody OWNS this board. Sheesh.

And since I'm on the topic....where the heck is VQ? All this drama pushed HER away. That's sad. This board NEEDS members like her and Petra and LaTi and KaceyChicago and all the so many others that i look up to and respect.

::Slowly backing away now::

though I think people should have manners not to offend people unnecessarily, because ewe are real people, leading real lives.