just found out I will have two under 2 - worried!

dee&bee

Our son is 10 months old, we just started really getting into the groove of things and somehow got it into our crazy heads that we should have our second close together (all these romantic notions of the two being very close together, getting diapers over with ...etc etc ). It took quite some time to conceive our first, and we hardly tried this time, and bam - pregnant!!!! 

we loved our freedom before & thought if we had them closer together we could get the baby stage over with sooner and begin traveling and doing more things as af amily sooner - and since we started just a few years later than most of our friends who already have their second now ...we thought it was the right thing for us. But now it is REAL ! And I didn't exaclty have the easiest time with my first in the beginning .

SO now of course I am having a bit of an anxiety attack ? Now I feel like I am reading everywhere how HARD it is .. 

Too soon? Too costly ? etc etc

Would really love to hear other mom's perspective and hopefully good experiences!

I know I just need to enjoy the ride - but I am such a worrier! 

rosesandpeonies

okay I found out very similar to you.  I needed the assitance of a RE to get pregnant with my oldest and one time resulted in my youngest.  I found out when my oldest was 10 months also.

It isn't easy but it isn't horrible either.  Slowly you figure out routines and I promise that you will eventually get out of the house.

I have three autoimmune diseases so my fatigue level hasn't gotten much better, but Im still fine and my girls love each other.

By the way you are far from alone.  

It will be fine!! 

Qmommy

Congrats!  I'm in the bay area too!    

My girls are 18 months apart and I laugh at myself for thinking DD1 was hard as an infant.  I still think DD1  is more challenging than DD2 but that's simply because she's mobile and active.  I was surprised that the transition from 0-1 kiddo was much more difficult than the transition from 1-2 kiddos.  

You can do it!   

Cilley

It is hard in the beginning! Trying to get used to 2 took a few months, but after 7 mos it isn't that bad. Just planning to take a little extra time to get ready helps. For me, if I have to leave the house at 10am I start planning the night before that we have to be ready to go by 930a. 9 times out of 10 we are on time.

It is great because my 2 are 14 mos apart and they adore each other.
Baby sister has to watch everything her older brother does. Big brother is so helpful giving his sister toys and showing her how to use them. Then again he can take things away from her. It is so fun to see them together!

#3 will be 12 mo younger than #2, so I hope that they will grow up to be close, as I hope that my first 2 will.

It may be expensive to have 2, but it also is expensive to buy new baby things after your baby grows out of things, you get rid of them, and then get pregnant again.  Anyway, I think it is totally worth it!

Bexter347

I could have written your post myself a yr ago. My two kids are 14 months apart, and we had them close for the same reasons as you. our first had reflux when he was a baby, constant crying, both him and me! And all I could think of was I just wanted to get the baby stage over with, and I was pregnant with our second when he was six months old. Then I was crying to my husband after my daughter was born, and swore I would never want to have another. Fast forward to today, I want another, lol. I think it's really the sleep deprivation and just time to adjust. This response is getting long - but now they are 2 and 1, and having them so close together really is getting easier. They both take naps at the same time, and from what other people have told me, when they are older, they can ride the same rides/do the same things. Just focus on getting through the first year of having two. You will be so happy it ended up this way.

DisneyFreeek

My girls couldn't be any closer in age I don't think...11 and a half months exactly! I mean we barely were over with the 8 weeks after DD1 was born and I was pregnant LOL. So I can tell you this, you will need help. There is no way that you can go at it alone. Luckily here in California, the state gives a man baby bonding time, so DH was able to be home for 6 weeks after DD2 was born. So thankful for this because I had a C sec with 2 and couldn't even pick 1 up for like a month. So make sure you have support from friends, grandmas, etc. Now at 7 months and DD2 is finally starting to sleep for 7 hours, things are getting much better in the sleep department lol. But you will not sleep for a while. I have no idea why we are expected to be able to recover, sleep, take care of babies and a house. Sorry seperate issues lol. But as I type, they are both napping since I synced them up. In different rooms still but once DD2 can sleep at least 9-10 without waking, I will be moving them in together. I am pretty sure they are already working on their secret language, because they babble and giggle at stuff and I just watch and giggle myself lol. After all the BS comes the super cuteness of when DD1 wakes up she says "Shishy" which means sissy. She wants to know where she is. Same if she cries, "shishy?" Big sis helps little sis with her baba, and even spoon fed her a few days ago. It's really adorable and I now wouldn't change it for the world. But no way will I have another LOL.

fallsbride

I have four kids.  3 of which are 3.5 and under   There is always an adjustment period but if you stay organized and let things roll off your back it can be such a blessing.  I have a white board w/ our schedule on it and have all the daily reminders of who has what activity going on in my phone.  The white board is great b/c when others are helping you when the new baby comes home they can stick to the schedule.  I don't stress about how to make things work b/c it always turns out fine. I highly suggest a good double stroller (we have the Kolcraft Contours Optima).  I also suggest a very comfy front pack or sling as it is so important to have two hands free when you have a new baby and a toddler running around.  My 3.5 year old and 2 year old play together a lot it is wonderful and they both are really good at making their 4.5 month old sister laugh.  My 6 year old is an amazing big brother and helps me out all the time which has been a wonderful example.

Oh one other suggestion I have, 2-3 times a week make a double batch of dinner and freeze one.  Sometimes we get so crazy around here it is nice to grab something out of the freezer and pop it in the oven.  This option of having dinner already made on any given day is wonderful when adjusting to life (or anytime really) w/ little ones!