Hoping for closure this weekend...

Septmomtobe

My missed m/c was confirmed on 3/29; at my appt the only options presented were waiting to naturally m/c or a d&c. Given the infertility risks with a d&c my dr and I both felt waiting would be my best option. Fast forward a week and while I've been spotting for 2 weeks nothing has passed. I called this morning to see if they would prescribe medication to induce the m/c. I initially thought they wouldn't since it wasnt initially offered as an option. Much to my surprise they agreed to call in the medicine (the one that starts with a c - I forget the name) and some Motrin for pain. I plan on taking it Saturday afternoon (we have obligations in the morning). 

Im sure it sounds weird, but I'm looking forward to hopefully havin closure after this weekend. I've grieved the loss and am ready to move on. Plus since this is my third consecutive m/c my doctors office will be doing testing to see if we can figure out what is causing the losses. Until I actually m/c my body can't begin to return to norm so we can start the tests. 

Anyway, im hoping this works and I can have closure after this weekend and move on. Any advice would be appreciated. I'm not too concerned about the pain and have had 2 natural m/c previously so I know what to expect sort of. My first 2 m/c were around the same time as this one had the m/c occurred when it was supposed to. When I take the medication is when I should have been about 12 weeks. The u/s showed 2 sacs: 1 empty and the other with a membrane but no fetal pole.

Thanks! 

kat530_528

This is probably the worst thing to have to go through.  I am sorry for that.  I wish I had something to say to you but I don't have any experience with this.  The only thing I can do is wish you luck and I hope that you get to feeling better soon.  

chillo6210

Research shows the longer you carry your dead baby the more you're prone to depression.I was told no hb on the 29th of feb and was induced on the 2nd,i was 21 weeks preg,when the doc told me to come in day after tomorrow for induction i was like what???You know as in too early what if he wakes up somehow or whatever.The day i had to spend at home waiting was the longest weirdest day of my life,i mean i was there walking around with a corpse inside me and it was worse to touch my belly and feel nothing where just a few days b4 I would have been kicked or would have felt something.Anyhoo another thing nobody tells ya,if u r having this done at a hospital,the saddest part is leaving with a box with pics and pamphlets  whilst others,as u look on,are leaving with their babies or are heavily pregnant pacing the hallway to make labour progress,that for me was the hardest part i cried in the elevator and i'm not one to cry in front of anyone let alone at a public hospital.Good luck mate,and i hope you will get the closure i got tooo once it was out,i was sad but it was a lifted feeling i had like a new chapter.

hugs and kisses

RovinChick

So sorry for your loss.  Last year, I found I had a missed miscarriage at 16 weeks, but the baby was measuring 13 weeks, and they believed it had passed around that time.  I scheduled a d&c, but ended up miscarrying naturally the night before.  It was not a bad experience, and it gave me a lot of closure.  Dr. followed my betas down to 0 to make sure it was a complete m/c.

However, after 6 months of no success trying to conceive, I had a hysteroscopy, which led to a d&c, because it was discovered that I had a really bad infection of the uterine lining (chronic endometritis).  This infection was likely caused by carrying the fetus for the 3 weeks until my body finally m/c.  I wanted to let you know of this possibility in case you have trouble ttc in the future.  It can be diagnosed by endometrial biopsy and is easily treated with doxycycline.

I'm so sorry you are going through this and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.