Overanalyzing the prospect of 2u2. Help!

cgator14

Since becoming a mom I have become this goofy over analyzing semi-anxious  person. I used to be so laid back! Anyway DH and I are certain we want our kids to be around 2ish yrs apart (if it hopefully is able to work out this way), but I keep worrying about  being able to hold it together as a good mom. Did anybody else know in their heart they want to little ones close in age but your brain kept getting in the way? Haha. Just looking for any advice to help myself go with the flow as we TTC!

dmfan897

Yup, totally overanalyzed it. Honestly it's hard...but two kids is hard PERIOD. We love that our little girls are 2 years apart [exactly] and they are the best of friends. It was a little rough in the beginning but in my opinion i'd rather have them close and get the harder years over with all at once. Of course, we got thrown for a wrench when I accidentally got pregnant with DC3 But even though this little one will be less than two years apart from DD2 [and we'll be getting my tubes tied to make sure that no more babies happen!]. I am so glad that we did 2u2! if in your heart you want two and you want them close [and DH is on board and financially/timewise you can handle it] than I would go for it!

ScoutandRice

Yep, I am in exactly the same position as you, OP.    We have a one year old and are considering #2.  I know in my heart I want another bub, but I keep imagining how hard it will be.  It was just like when we had #1.  

I think in the end we just have to dive head first into it.  You already know what you want, so make it happen and the rest will follow.   

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admico821

I feel the same way but are going to do it regardless of my concerns. I really want them close in age and I know everything will work out. Looking on this board and seeing people post about already having 2u2 has helped me a lot. We are going to go for in in Sept or Oct! 

mplesset23

admico821:

I feel the same way but are going to do it regardless of my concerns. I really want them close in age and I know everything will work out. Looking on this board and seeing people post about already having 2u2 has helped me a lot. We are going to go for in in Sept or Oct! 

We've been talking about it alot.  I would LOVE to have 2u2, but my brain also keeps getting in the way.  We aren't planning on trying till at least September, but it's all I can think about.  I keep thinking how will this work financially and with a toddler running around.  I know financially we won't have any huge changes in our salaries etc. in the next few years so thats not really an issue.  I mean, whether we have one now or have one in 4 years financially we'll be in the same boat.  I know I over analyzed the same things when i was pregnant with DS.

My sister and I are 4 years apart and fought well into our 20s.  I just feel that 2 kids close in age is better for my family, but I'm nervous.  DH doesn't want to be an old dad and doesn't really want to wait a few years for number 2. 

It took me a year and half to get pregnant with DS.  Hopefully, #2 will be much easier and less emotionally draining (I miscarried before #1).

dale5689

I knew I wanted two and because of my age (now 42) knew I had to have #2 shortly after #1.  Had #1 at 40 and when she was one year, got pregnant with #2 so they are 21 months apart.  I stressed my entire pregnancy and sadly because of it I didn't enjoy it the way I did with #1.  I over-analyzed and worried about every possible thing and everyone told me it'd be fine and I'd find a new norm and that is EXACTLY what happened.  Days are busy and some feel longer than others but it has all come together much easier than I ever anticipated.  My girls love each other and really, this age difference is not that difficult.  My now 2 year old is wonderful and independent and a great helper.  My 5 month old is the most amazing baby and maybe that is why it seems easy.  Can't say I have much time for myself but honestly I waited so long for my babies that I want to enjoy every single second I have with them at this age.  It gets easier each day and now that the baby is getting on a more predictable schedule it is manageable.  Hard to get out of the house while trying to respect all napping and feeding needs but that will also get easier.  Truly it is the most amazing thing and I know will be even more amazing as they both get older and they can both appreciate each other.  Don't over-analyze, it will be fine and will all work out.  Not all moments will be perfect or easy but it's so worth it!!!!  I can't imagine life any other way!!!!  Good luck