Hoping for a certain gender anyone?

LittlePowderPuff

Let me first and foremost say I feel so blessed to be pregnant and my #1 hope is to have a healthy baby no matter boy or girl.

I've got to admit though my DH and I are both hoping for a girl. We have a girls name already picked out and everytime we walk by a little baby girl in a store or wherever we always smile big at eachother. We are DEFINITELY finding out the sex of our child, but I am terrified for dissapointment/guilt. I know if we have a boy it will be great, but it will make me feel guilty about wanting a girl so bad. And I don't want my DH to feel the same.

It doesn't help too that every female employee who has had a baby at my work in the past 7 years has had a girl. I've had family members even say "I just have that feeling its going to be a girl". Yet my Dad and DH just told me they had dreams about me having a boy.

Anyone else feeling the same way I am? Any now mommies that were hoping for girl and had a boy (or vise versa)? How did you feel when you found out?

srleine

Yes, I also want a healthy baby, no matter what.  I already have a daughter, and I secretly  hope we are having another girl.  My DH surely wants a boy, and I will be happy with a boy too, but secretly, deep down, I would love another little girl!!!!

skibi83

Our first is a girl,and the entire time both my h and i thought it was a boy. We didn't find out, we just thought 50/50 chance and thought our intuition was boy. We were excited either way and when she arrived we were elated anyways. Now with number two, I kind of want a boy because this will be our last, but no matter what we will be excited.

billiencorey

i hope i have a girl but either way i will be soooooooooo happy my fiance wants a boy guess we will just see lol

FrickandFrack

I am hoping for a girl but either way I will be happy.

ChristinaDawn

I hear you.  With our first we both really thought/wanted a girl because DH has a very young nephew that he helped take care of as they were growing up and he felt like he had already experienced having a boy so he wanted a girl.  I had never changed a boy's diaper, I had younger sisters and the only babies I babysat happened to be girls so I was feeling nervous about it being a boy because it was unknown territory for me.  When we had the ultrasound done at 18 weeks we were both very surprised that it was a boy - although any time I referred to the baby I said "he" for some reason so I think I kind of knew but DH was very convinced that it was a girl. 

This time I don't care either way.  Not one bit.  I see the positives to both.  My DH is still hoping for a girl but not as intensely as before because he also thinks it'd be a lot of fun to have two boys so close together.   It goes without saying that we both just hope for a healthy baby

kmdixon

We are hoping for a boy this time. We were also hoping for a boy last time, but I had a gut feeling it was a girl. Sure enough at the gender ultrasound we found out we would have a daughter. Neither one of us felt the first bit of disappointment, well maybe for a millionth of a second, but that was it.  

LadyBirdPgh

of course I will love either but I?m really hoping for a boy. I'm not the girlest of girls so i'm slightly terrified of having to raise one!

tamaratoday

Try not to feel guilty. All my life I've wanted a little girl. I've had her name picked out since I was 15 and I always look at those tiny little girl clothes. I was so certain my first would be a girl that when it turned out to be a boy I had some disappointment. It's natural when you have a big expectation and it doesn't work out the way you want/think it should. I now have two little boys and I wouldn't trade them for anything! Sure, I'm hoping for a girl this time around but I'll be thrilled no matter what it is.

elisabethb29

I have a feeling it's a boy... but I kind of want a girl a little bit more, but then thinking about it more, I'm not sure, so I think I will be really happy with either!!  I think DH wants a girl because he has 2 younger brothers, no sisters, I don't have any sisters either (just an older SIL).  Our friends have a beautiful 4 month girl who DH adores... but I bet he'll be very happy with either also.  It's so exciting to think about, I definitely want to find out the gender.  Are others finding out, or keeping it a surprise?

EverydayMommy09

I know what you mean, we are just looking forward to another healthy baby. With DD, I hoped for a boy. It took several ultrasounds to confirm that she actually was a girl, so for a long time I was still convinced she was a boy. But we were ecstatic that she was a she. This time, I really have no preference. Just a happy healthy baby. A boy would let us raise one of each, but two girls are also something special.

A note to previous poster-- I was nervous having a girl because I am not a girly girl, but it has been wonderful and I couldn't imagine anyone else for my daughter, and she isn't particularly girly. She loves CARS and trains, but also likes to 'wear pretty dresses.' She is definitely her own person, we just give her all kinds of opportunities. Don't worry about having a girl just because you aren't girly. You will enjoy all of it! 

gnomemom

I will be happy to just have a healthy baby, but I am kind of hoping for a girl, if only to avoid the argument about circumcision that would inevitably come with having a boy. DH and I find ourselves on adamantly opposing sides of the issue.

bangos13

If you ask DH, he'd love to have a little boy. But honestly, a healthy baby is our main concern.

ebower18

srleine:

Yes, I also want a healthy baby, no matter what.  I already have a daughter, and I secretly  hope we are having another girl.  My DH surely wants a boy, and I will be happy with a boy too, but secretly, deep down, I would love another little girl!!!!

 

This is exactly how I feel! We don't have a girl's name picked out though, but do have a boys name pretty well set. 

FavJob=Mommy

I truly have no preference either way but my daughter would LOVE to have a sister since we already have two boys. I would however absolutely be thrilled if there was more than one!  Did I really just say that???

GHBEA

I have 3 DDs and this is the first time I am not hoping for a boy.  I am just going to enjoy my pregnancy with out the stress of wanting a boy.

 I just don't have any idea of a girl name and either does DH. 

Deep down I am saying it's a girl because it's all I have. 

Sparkleyshine

I have 2 awesome little boys right now and would love the chance to raise a daughter. 

I joke that I'll either have 'My three sons' or I'll have a spoiled little girl with brothers to dote over her.

Intuition is telling me it's another boy so we'll find out soon enough!

CarolinaGirl82

I would absolutely love to have two girls, just because I grew up with sisters and it is such an amazing relationship and its familiar.  Second choice would be one of each, but even if it's two boys, I will be SO LUCKY if I just have two beautiful, healthy babies.

pooman

I could honestly not care less what these two are.  I'm excited for whatever they are.   A house full of sisters?!  How fun!  Big sister Bea and her two younger brothers?  Great!  One of each?  perfect!

But with DD I did kind of want a girl (now this is after 3 years of infertility treatments so trust me I was THRILLED with any baby).

 Then we had the u/s and the tech said do you want to know what it is?   And at that moment I realized my preference for a girl was gone and I was going to be 100% totally blissfully happy with either. 

I really think when the moment comes to find out you won't feel disappointment.  It's exciting either way.   You immediately start daydreaming about your new future.

Jaqalini

I am hoping for a boy.  Of course any healthy baby is a blessing and I will be over the moon regardless of the sex, but I do hope it's a boy.  I have everything planned out for the boy...name, nursery bedding/color/theme, etc.  I should really get planning on the girl just in case..lol.  I really can't wait to find out the sex.  I feel like these next 10 weeks are gonna be the longest!

 

 

Jena503

With my first, I really really wanted a girl. So much that I was worried about being disappointed if it was a boy. So I pretty much convinced myself it was a boy and got myself to a place where I was good with that. And then it turned out it was a girl and I just got the extra thrill of getting what I wanted.

With my 2nd, I kind of wanted another girl - heck, I had all the clothes already, so it'd be cheapest. And I figured there was more of a chance they'd be involved in similar things and it'd just be easier. But it was a boy and I was in no way disappointed, it just opened up a whole new world to me.

Now with this little suprise... I don't know what I want! Another girl to dress up would be fun and keep things more balanced (I have a SS who will be 18 when this one is born, so technically it'd be 2 boys, 2 girls... but not really since he'll be off to college before the baby is really anything but baby). But since I gave away all those girl baby clothes when I was "done" after #2, now having a boy would be the cheaper option!

chamommy

As the mom of 3 boys....I'd be lying through my teeth if I said I wasn't hoping for this surprise blessing to be a girl...however, I am fully expecting a boy and even if the US were to by chance show a girl..I still wouldn't believe it or buy a single dress until I saw it for my own eyes and boy #4 would be just fine with me. Honestly, as nice as it would be to have a daughter, it would be easier in so many ways if it were a boy, and like I said, I'm sure it will be!  With #3 we decided to make a big deal of finding out the sex, so at the US we had the tech put the gender in a sealed envelope and not tell us. WE took it to a bakery and told them to make use food coloring to make a blue cake with white frosting if it were a boy, and pink coloring with white frosting if it were a girl, and then invited all our friends and family to a gender party where we planned to cut the cake and learn the sex at the same time. Well, my 2 year old got ahold of the cake the night before and spoiled the surprise for me, and i am glad he did b/c I had my "moment' of sobbing at the sight of blue cake. I was glad I had a heads up so I had time for it to sink in before I cut it in front of our families. I didn't expect to react that way. I had told myself it didnt' matter, but deep down I guess it did. I got over it and could not be more thrilled to be the mommy to 3 perfect (and messy and rowdy and lovable and hilarious) boys. The guilt passes!

RachelEric

We're both hoping for a girl, and I might be upset for a second if I find out it's a boy, but ultimately of course I will love my child no matter what gender as long as it's healthy and happy.

jmk1180

My husband and I both really want a boy, although we would be happy either way. He wants a son, and I want him to have a son. He's going to be an amazing father no matter what. Also, we're doing a penguin themed nursery - real penguins and Pittsburgh Penguins (hockey team) - we're big hockey fans. So, I'm hoping it's a boy this time and a girl next so we can do a frilly, girly nursery next time. LOL Again, either way, we'll be happy, but I'm a little worried we'll be disappointed if the ultrasound tech says "It's a GIRL!"

Also, has anyone noticed how many cute boy clothes they have these days?? OMG. I can't wait to find out (either way) so I can start shopping. LOL My mom is like, you need to shop for yourself (I haven't bought any maternity clothes, yet. I'm in denial about gaining weight because I'm already overweight)! But, I'd rather go into baby stores and look.

Potatertot

This is our first baby, and hubby and I are each hoping for the opposite! I'm really hoping for a boy while he really wants a little girl. We'll be happy either way, but still! The plan is for 3 kids total, and I just think that having an oldest boy would be the coolest, while hubby wants a daddy's girl. It's so adorable seeing him get so excited about the possibility!

 We've both had several dreams though that it's a boy, so we'll see! Don't know if it's wishful thinking on my part or what though  

emikat

I'm with you and want a healthy baby boy or girl.  If I could choose, I would choose a girl.  My friends and family that know also keep saying girl, so I have convinced myself it's a boy.    That way when we find out if it's a boy I won't be too disappointed and if it's a girl I can be pleasantly wrong.  

LovinLife0710

We will be absolutely thrilled with either or, but DH so so wants a boy first. At least we have a name picked out for both!

tahrna

Hoping for a boy because we are really outdoorsy people and love camping, hiking etc....but a gilr would be awesome as well. Just a healthy beautiful baby!

sunshine0210

I am hoping for a boy!  I have two sisters, DH has two sisters, one of which has two daughters.  We are surrounded by girls!  But, I see the way DH is with his nieces and it melts my heart.  So while I would LOVE a boy, I would also love a girl to see my DH with his own little girl.

JasonKristen

I will be happy with whatever sex the baby is, but I am really pulling for a little girl again.  We already have a girl and I have 2 sisters myself and I know how great it is to have a sister.  DH also wants another little girl for this reason, but I am sure if LO is a boy he will not be disappointed.