Is it really that bad???

michnthecity

So just wanted everyone's opinion, has it really been as "bad" as everyone said it would be?  The "sleepless" nights, etc.?  I remember all the warnings from moms who said, "just wait until blah blah blah."  It has its moments, but right now the fact that my dog is sick and could potentially crap all over the place has been WAY more stressful than taking care of LO.  Granted, LO isn't colicky, but everything seems to have worked itself out quite well.  He goes from breast to bottle like a champ, starting to sleep on a schedule....it all seems par for the course.....

Geneboat

No! The sleepless nights are tough, see post below. There are times when things are rough but then he smiles at you and I think this is the best thing ever!

Brit's Luna154

The past four or five weeks have been pretty reasonable for us, but the first 2+ months were pretty intense. LO usually woke up 4x per night for the first 2 months and was usually up for at least an hour each time screaming unconsolably. That has tapered to 2x per night lately and without the screaming - much better. I think that we were experiencing a colicy baby although it was never officially diagnosed. In my case, LO seems to be way more intense than what I was warned about.

mrsacp

My DD for the most part is a great baby. Only cries when she is hungry or has gas but, the first 8 weeks was HARD!!  She woke up every two hours on the dot, and of course if she gets up say at 12, by the time DH or I fed her, tried to get her to burp, changed her diaper and put her back to sleep, about an hour went by and she was going to get up in another. It's better now, she only gets up once at night.

GeekMom

DD has colic and no it isnt as bad to me. But maybe that's because I worked in daycare, so I knew what to expect?

KitKat83

Not at all!! Its been smooth sailing for us, so easy that I was bored so I enrolled in some on line nursing courses, to take some of the load off for when I attend the nursing program next fall.

megaloo27

Honestly it has been worse. Nothing can prepare or warn you to hear your baby screaming in pain day and night. I would get sick to my stomach I was so upset that I couldn't do anything. She had bad reflux. Adding the sleepless nights to that made it awful. I also hate when people would tell me to nap when she naps. She didn't nap and if she did I would take a shower or eat. Thankfully she is way better now and I can see why moms say it is so easy. She is on a great routine and sleeps 7-8 hours at night.

SoonToBeMsP

Not. Even. Close. 

I assumed I had an angel baby since it was never that hard for us. She sleeps well (although not always STTN right now), isn't colicky, no problems with BFing, etc. 

Jess084

*knock on wood*

We are very lucky to have a baby who is compatible with our schedules and is rarely incredibly fussy. He has been sleeping through the night since 7 weeks, even though he is breasted, and I never in a million years imagined that would be the case. Of course, however, I realize that this could change at any moment! 

MrsAMB07

You know you're all jinxing yourselves right noe, right? I've learned not to say it out loud or put it in writing ... ??

masked_rose86

Definitely worse, and getting worse instead of better.  Both because I never dreamed how fussy babies could be; almost inconsolable in our case (not quite colicky since they can be calmed by nursing/sucking if all else fails.  They do not really nap which is also VERY hard since when they do to get them to do it at the same time is very hard.  So I basically never have a break.

Add to that no one gets how hard emotionally being a twin parent is.  I am SO sick of people saying "babies cry" blah blah blah....try being a parent of 2 crying infants and not being able to console either!  

I admit I'm feeling very frustrated right now and wanting SO badly for things to get better like everyone said the fussiness should be by now!!!! 

ETA:  Also I get frustrated with how hard it is to have quality one on one time with each LO to bond.  :-(  I know I will figure out this issue.  And I do have special times with each I need to just focus on the couple of moments I get.  Maybe I should just try to be more positive in spite of their constant crabbiness??  Which is hard since their crabby times definitely are more common than happy!

michnthecity

masked_rose86:

Definitely worse, and getting worse instead of better.  Both because I never dreamed how fussy babies could be; almost inconsolable in our case (not quite colicky since they can be calmed by nursing/sucking if all else fails.  They do not really nap which is also VERY hard since when they do to get them to do it at the same time is very hard.  So I basically never have a break.

Add to that no one gets how hard emotionally being a twin parent is.  I am SO sick of people saying "babies cry" blah blah blah....try being a parent of 2 crying infants and not being able to console either!  

I admit I'm feeling very frustrated right now and wanting SO badly for things to get better like everyone said the fussiness should be by now!!!! 

ETA:  Also I get frustrated with how hard it is to have quality one on one time with each LO to bond.  :-(  I know I will figure out this issue.  And I do have special times with each I need to just focus on the couple of moments I get.  Maybe I should just try to be more positive in spite of their constant crabbiness??  Which is hard since their crabby times definitely are more common than happy!

 

I couldn't imagine having twins or more.....

theladyjess

Lets see...10 days in the NICU, nonstop BFing issues, family emergency and the death of my FIL, and  a greiving husband who's way of dealing with his grief is to be angry at me and pick fights.  So yes, it really has been "that bad" and more.  I don't ever want to go through this again. 

kms34

No, not at all and we've been dealing with viruses, coughs and pink eye in both kids for a few weeks.  DS2 just kind of fit into our family organically.  He's a super laid back kid, rarely cries.  He's not as good of a sleeper as his brother was but he's doing well!  I can honestly say I think I've had 1 or 2 sleepless nights in his 10 weeks of life.

Kristi1971

Well I have two girls, so it's been pretty rough some nights/days.  I can do it well for a couple of nights in a row, but after that, I need some assistance from somewhere.  They are starting to stretch out much better, though, and one is doing 8+ a night, so much better now.  I've just figured it's the life of a MoM.

nothingbuthappy

Never, not with my daughter who had colic and reflux and did.not.sleep (I used to have to track every minute she slept and she averaged between 7-10 hours a DAY as a NEWBORN).  And my son, who also has reflux and who would only sleep ON ME for the first 11 weeks (he now will sleep in the Nap Nanny...TY Nap Nanny!!!) and who wouldn't take a bottle between 5 wks and 9 wks, giving me anxiety about my return to work, and who still at 12 wks won't nap without me.  Somehow, through the tremendous sleep deficit, the things that arise (he had bronchiolitis at 9 wks, a diaper rash that spread to a crease in his leg that still won't clear, and he's had to have his belly button cauterized three times....and I think a fourth is in our near future due to a prominent blood vessel that isn't closing adequately so it's oozing still)...through it all I am happy, I am functioning without any real difficulty (I've had two meltdowns when I needed my husband to chip in more - I am blaming the sleep deficit for my lack of effective communication on the matter, but once he got what I was upset about, problem solved!).  I am in love with my children, I am in love with my husband, I am in love with our life!  ...I just wish I could stay home with him (I was home with my daughter until she was 4, when I went back to work PT...I didn't return to work FT until she was 5 1/2...and I had my son when she was 6 1/2, so I've only been back to work FT for a little over a year and it's going to be HARD for me to go back on Monday having life as a SAHM raising my child in our home day in and day out still so fresh in my mind but, alas...we bought our house a month before we found out I was PG with our LO...we would have bought smaller/less expensive had we known, but we do love our house and our life and we can't have everything, but I'm just so happy to have found a babysitter we trust and who is a true natural with baby care!

VABride2008

I was a little nervous with having 2U2 but so far it's not that bad.  DS has stopped STTN since I went back to work but it's still manageable. This too shall pass.