back to work

jbranden12

I returned to work today. It's too soon. But everyone else in my family had to and I didn't want to sit home alone. It's really tough. It may help a little to have some distraction, but I'm not ready for people to want things from me yet. Some people have told me how sorry they are, some haven't said anything but left me cards. I don't really know how to be.

What do you say when people ask how you are doing? 

JessicaRobb

I found that question hard too because no one wants the real answer. I found myself saying "alright" and since I was on my feet, moving through life, fulfilling my responsibilities I thought that was an adequate response.

Good luck being back at work. It's hard, but routine helps. 

tubbsy32

It depends on the day. Sometimes I just shrug and say "as good as I can be"; other times I just say "ok, I guess"; or I have said "today is a ______ (good, bad, hard) day."

I still haven't gone back to work though. I hope you are doing ok with everyone.

hummingbird80

I just say 'ok' or 'good.'  As acquaintances, I don't give them much more than that as I'm not comfortable sharing the sad details of what I may be thinking, which is what another response may illicit.

weddedwife

For a while I said "as okay as I can be" or something similar. Now, for the most part, people have stopped asking. Except for the usual daily greetings like, "Hi, how are you?" I know it's just a greeting and they don't really want to know how I am. I always just say "OK" or "alright". I do not say good, that would be a lie. I actually hate this question now because I want to scream, "My baby died! How the f* do you think I am??"