In need of some advice and possibly joining.

nzmum

Hi ladies.

I have a feeling that I may be joining you on this board soon. I have a 12 day old baby boy whom I love more than anything.

 Lately my husband and I have been doing nothing but fight. I know it's expected with a new born but he is absent a lot, drinks more, and he has been getting really nasty with what he says. I have a feeling that things may be over very soon.

I guess I came on here to ask for some advice in how to go about dealing with a breakup (and possible divorce) while I have such a young bub to take care of. 

Roselis

My son was a month old when XH and I separated. The first thing we did was set up a custody plan between the two of us. I focused my time and energy on P, which kept me from thinking about the divorce 24/7. On the days P was with XH, I kept myself busy with my family and friends or with cleaning my house. It made things easier to deal with.

P is now 8 months old, our divorce will be final in less than a month, and I am happy with my life. It takes time.

SemperFiPurpleHeart

Talk to a divorce attorney once you are certain this is what you want to do. Make sure you have a place lined up to go and start getting things together like copies of pictures, original social sec card, birth certificates, anything important he may try and trash (you never know) and give it to a family member.

Remember that material items can be replaced and you and your son come first. You have to be strong because this will not be easy. You can do it though, if it is the choice you would like! Having a strong support system like friends, family, and co-workers helped me out. If I didn't have them I wouldn't have made it far!!

GL and let me know if you have any more questions!