Um, no thanks

nbjenni

My DH has hinted for a while that he wants a third child. I was talking about my 6 week appointment and how I am thinking of Mirena as a bc method. Tonight DH said we should try for a baby in about 8 or 9 months.

WTF??? Seriously?? I always said I only wanted two kids, and we have them. I had the most f*d up pregnancy and really don't think I can handle the emotional roller coaster again. Plus, what if we end up with twins again? Or triplets. I told him I'm totally open to foster care/adopting when the girls hit school age. But another baby? NO THANKS!

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i was never more afraid to get pregnant in my life as i was in the first few months after DS was born. I had a really bad end to my pregnancy (in and out of the hospital for 6w with kidney stones, bed rest, etc).

I got baby fever around DS's 1 y/o bday... but we always knew we wanted at least one more.

give it time- you might want another... either way- you need time!

SportsLover

Wait a few months and ask DH again.  I too wanted another right away, but after going back to work this year (I teach), I realized that we are NOT ready for another at this point.  I'm high energy and we're both still EXHAUSTED 10 months later.

 

kyluvsaj

Yeah, you may change your mind.  I know I wouldn't mind another baby if it didn't come with all the hard stuff.  But because it does, no more babies for us.  I will just love on my sisters newborn.

coffee bean

Def give it some time.  I know my DH wants to try again for a son one day, but we're going to wait awhile.  Like SportsLover said in a previous post, you just never feel like you get a break with multiples.  I want the girls to be three before another baby is born.  Maybe they can't help at that point, but they should be a tad more independent (?) to make things more manageable!  Plus, there's no way I could take leave from my job this quickly after being out for almost 5 months this year.

DramaGirl06

I've joked that I when they do my c-section, I'll get my tubes tied at the same time.  Obviously I won't, but we have been having the whole talk of birth control after the babies are here.  I think I'm just really scared because I don't know what to expect with two babies!  We're also both teachers and I think more than 2 kids will be out of our budget!