Need advice

amarier0911

Had our 30 week appt thursday and did not go very well. My BP was higher than normal 2 week ago and was very high on Thursday. With this happening it was decided that it would be best to be induced at 37 weeks for the saftey of everyone. I'm fine with that.

My MIL and I have a very rocky relationship to say the least (she forgave me in her toast at our wedding for taking her son away). DH and I agree that it is best to not have her at the hospital during L&D for stress reasons.  Here is my issue do I tell her that we are going early. Part of me says no, then the other part feels guilty for not keeping them informed with what is going on. I dont want to leave them out, but I also know what the next 6 weeks could be like if she knows when for sure we are having him.

HELP WHAT DO I DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

alexisandchrisinlove

I have an extremely nosey family and if they find out I'm even starting to have contractions they will be over in seconds. We are only telling my mom, sister, and LO's godmother because they are our support system. Everyone else will not even get a call until LO is born and then they can come visit. 

They will probably be mad but this is our baby and a stress-free environment is only achieved when they are not around.

 

Do what is best for you and baby. The rest wont matter and people will get over it. GL 

khill86

We won't be calling anyone until we're home with the baby. So my gut instinct, if I were in your shoes, would be to not tell anyone about the induction. I'd go in for the appointment, have the baby, get home, and act surprised. You could always say that it wasn't a scheduled induction or that things just progressed so quickly there was no time to make phone calls. Something along those lines. I'd at least keep it mum until you're like a week or two away and see how you feel about it then.

sam19

Don't tell her unnless you plan on telling other people and think it might get back to her somehow.

plummerc1

Totally up to you and DH....  but I agree with PP, don't tell others if you aren't going to tell her, or it could cause some serious problems.   In the end, you need to do what makes you feel comfortable.

Linds1027

Thats a tough one, but if she will cause that much stress then I say keep her out of it. The most important thing is you and baby's health, NOT her feelings. 

Kaiterz

What does your H say?  You need to do what's best for you, your H and your baby.

How will she be over the 6 weeks?

brideofscowboy

I wouldn't say anything and I would also stop stressing about it too.

Pregnancy/L&D is so unpredictable as it is. She doesn't need to know every detail about what's going on with you and how many times per day that you go to the bathroom.

You need to worry about you and bringing that baby into the world...not about the MIL. 

You are the Mom here...not her.

rissa_n

If it were me I would not tell her.  No need to stress yourself out further, especially if you are trying to keep your BP down.

KrissyMiss

Linds1027:

Thats a tough one, but if she will cause that much stress then I say keep her out of it. The most important thing is you and baby's health, NOT her feelings. 

This. You don't need to flat out lie to her, just keep her in the dark for a little longer. After the birth just tell her because of your bp your doc recommended an early induction. She doesn't need specifics.