slightly frustrated ....

HisChamaoleGirl

When discussing summer visitation late last year DH gave BM a heads up that we would be moving across the country. The reason this effects her is bc SS is to come to DH 7 days after the last day of school. This year DH has to report (military family here!) by a specific date and it is 5 days after SS gets out of school. In November we let BM know and she was on board with SS coming to us 2 days earlier than the date specified so SS could accompany DH on our move.

FF to the beginning of this year. BM sent an email saying "Nevermind. Lets just stick to what the CO outlines for summer visitation." The problem with that is once we get to our new unit we arent guarenteed leave again to go and pick SS up for the summer. BM knows that not allowing SS to come 2 days earlier than what the CO states he may miss out on seeing his father this summer.

DH has decided to go and visit SS before the move. The only downfall is SS will still be in school so DH time with him will be limited. BM did agree to let DH pick SS up from school which is outside of the CO so he is thankful for that.

 I just wish there was something else we could do, but I feel as if we've hit a wall with getting the most out of this summer's visitation.

FutureMrsWittig

How old is SS?  Could he come on a plane by himself?  Usually a flight attendent can get him on the plane and then escort him to where you are afterwards?

kmartinez80

Is your DH the only one that can pick up SS?  I know that going to Guam is a lot to ask of someone, but is there any way that you guys could send someone else to accompany SS?

HisChamaoleGirl

FutureMrsWittig:

How old is SS?  Could he come on a plane by himself?  Usually a flight attendent can get him on the plane and then escort him to where you are afterwards?

SS is 8 and the CO specifically says that SS cannot fly alone. We are wanting to change this when he gets older, but for now it's not an option.

 

HisChamaoleGirl

kmartinez80:

Is your DH the only one that can pick up SS?  I know that going to Guam is a lot to ask of someone, but is there any way that you guys could send someone else to accompany SS?

The CO states that MIL or DH are to escort SS to and from visitation. Having MIL do it in the past has caused many complications and we would prefer not to use her again. I am not sure if anyone else remembers last summers visitation but we ended up having to pay over $5K on new tickets after the original $2K we had spent due to MIL changes. 

I am half tempted to ask BM if she would escort SS while we fund the transportation costs just so we can see him, but I am worried that would cause other issues. Thoughts? 

Jessys_Girl

*HiS ChAmAoLe GiRL*:

kmartinez80:

Is your DH the only one that can pick up SS?  I know that going to Guam is a lot to ask of someone, but is there any way that you guys could send someone else to accompany SS?

The CO states that MIL or DH are to escort SS to and from visitation. Having MIL do it in the past has caused many complications and we would prefer not to use her again. I am not sure if anyone else remembers last summers visitation but we ended up having to pay over $5K on new tickets after the original $2K we had spent due to MIL changes. 

I am half tempted to ask BM if she would escort SS while we fund the transportation costs just so we can see him, but I am worried that would cause other issues. Thoughts? 

What other issues would it cause?  I think having BM Escort him might be a nice compromise, she gets to stick to the court order, y'all get to see SS.

Is DH Going to be able to get leave to take SS BACK when the time comes?  Or will BM need to come back to get him?

Holly_1007

*HiS ChAmAoLe GiRL*:

kmartinez80:

Is your DH the only one that can pick up SS?  I know that going to Guam is a lot to ask of someone, but is there any way that you guys could send someone else to accompany SS?

The CO states that MIL or DH are to escort SS to and from visitation. Having MIL do it in the past has caused many complications and we would prefer not to use her again. I am not sure if anyone else remembers last summers visitation but we ended up having to pay over $5K on new tickets after the original $2K we had spent due to MIL changes. 

I am half tempted to ask BM if she would escort SS while we fund the transportation costs just so we can see him, but I am worried that would cause other issues. Thoughts? 

the things you need to consider in this situation (for BM to escort) is not only the cost of plane tickets, but also parking at the airport, if she doesn't turn around and get right on a plane she will need a hotel for the night. 

also if shes going to miss work she might *** about vacation days. If she has any other children to look after this could pose a problem as well (paying for childcare for the other children) etc...  I can see this easily getting as expensive as last summers MIL escort

just things I would consider before asking her