1st M/C (kind of long..sry)

mumsie28

Hello... I was hoping I would not have to join this board but deep down I knew I would. I had my first u/s at 8wks and I was only measuring at 5 1/2 wks. OB said either my dates were miscalculated (I had the mirena removed in Dec 2011 and only had one cycle prior to conceiving) or the baby was not developing. All she saw was a sac with a yolk sac and no actual baby. She said if developemnt does not continue then I would either miscarry or need a D&C. Went to the ER a few days later for bright red spotting, I freaked out over it. Everything was fine. The u/s tech said I was 6w1d and I saw a heartbeat (yay). Had my next appointment at 9w and I was measuring at 6w and "some days", they wouldn't give me an exact measurement, but the heart beat was slow. Today would have been my 10w appointment.

I started spotting last Friday. I didn't freak this time because it was normal. Then it just continued. Nothing heavy but eventually I started wearing a pad just to protect my clothes. I wouldn't even come close to filling on in a day. So no big worries yet. Then on Sunday the cramps started. Nothing painful, just period like cramps. Still not freaking out (very proud that I was staying btw). On day 3 of cramps I called the nurse. Is this normal? Am I miscarrying? What is going on???

She didn't think I needed immediate attention because I was still able to work and function. The pain and bleeding were both mild. She offered to have me come in for my own peace of mind but I could not get an apointment due to my work schedule. This was Tuesday. Yesterday was Thursday and the pain got slightly worse at work and  then the clotting came. And didn't stop I called the OB and  they fit me in for an emergency apointment. I bled through my clothes at work. I work in the teller line at a bank, and am thankful that most of my staff are women. I was a mess when my husband picked me up.

Went to the OB and I was in the beginning stages of miscarrying. At that point my cervix was still closed but the u/s showed that the little baby fetal pole was headed towards the "exit".

I spent the rest of the day on the couch and finally at 11p I think I passed everything. Not sure what the actual sac should feel like but (TMI sorry!) it felt like something hard dropped out. Gross I know. That was the last of my major bleeding. Today I have had smaller episodes of clotting and am just drained. I can barely walk up a flight of stairs.

Luckily I already had today and saturday off of work and we are closed on sunday. However, my work has been asking when I will return. My OB is not releasing me until my next exam on Tuesday. I am sure work is just thrilled since we already super short staffed, but ask me if I care because right now I don't.

How long did take those who have already recovered to return to work and feel sane? I have been around family today and tomorrow we are having a small party at our house - today is my son's birthday and we already had the party planned. So I am not alone and too depressed. I think that is helping me emotionally.

Thanks for listening. I think just writing this all out has helped some. Now I need to get back to being a happy mama for my 8yr old. Luckily he's engrossed with his new skylands and mario party 9 to notice me not being myself!

Have a good weekend and Happy Easter.

 

eaciambrone

I had my first miscarriage last month, it was pretty much what happened to you but I passed it at the ER, it was an awful experience because as I was bleeding all over the place they made me sit in the waiting room! Then while I was giving them a urine sample it just came out (kinda gross) and I didn't know what to do so I flushed it. When I came out I told the nurse what happened and all she could say to me was " Oh did you save it", I was in utter shock that that was all she said to me, and then ontop of that I sat in the waiting room for another 2 hours until I had my US. But after I passed it all the cramping stopped and my bleeding was very small this happened on a Sunday, I went right to work on the Monday (I felt fine) And what also confused me is that my OB office said I didn't have to come in for a check-up, but as of today I am pretty good Hope everything goes OK

mumsie28

Thank you for sharing your expierences with me. As of right now I am not returning to work until Thursday unless the OB gives me more time at my Tuesday appointment. I am actually seriously considering quitting my job but need to run some budget numbers with my husband. My job is very overwhelming and I don't feel that I am in a good place with it right now; this was starting before the m/c.

I am still not 100%. I am just drained and keep having cramps. I need to take breaks and rest inbetween doing stuff around the house. Hopefully this will end soon.

jackiemary

Thanks for sharing you story. I wasn't as far along as you were but had a miscarriage today at 5 weeks. I am not as fatigued, but I am definitely emotionally drained.

I don't know if I will take any time off work, but today I don't think I could do anything. Hoping to bounce back tomorrow because I am a teacher and my job requires that you be very attentive, alert, and I still have a lot of planning to do.