re: invitation....OMG!

AMcLaws

We just received an invitation in the mail for a baby shower, and inside was a little note that said "GUEST OF HONOR HAS REQUESTED THAT GIFT RECEIPTS BE INCLUDED IN ALL GIFTS".

 EXCUSE ME??? You're basically saying that whatever I give you isn't good enough and you'll just return it anyway!! Are we the only ones thinking this is just completely rude??? Most people assume to include a gift receipt anyway....but what could we possibly give that the baby couldn't use??? I'm SO FED UP with this dang shower!!!

Natalie3398

Wow that's one I never saw before..some people just think it's ok to say anything these days. Don't worry and ignore them lol

AMcLaws

discobelle:

How tacky.

Are you close with this person?  I'd be annoyed and probably skip it.   

 

YES! One of my best friends, actually. She's also inviting 141 people. o_O

Gismo123

Just to be a biatch I would get something NOT on the registry and NOT include a receipt lol I'm so mean

pugznploons

over 140 people?? that is crazy.  Her registry must be huge, or else she just plans to return all the stuff people buy for cash since they will have to go off-registry when everything gets bought up by the first 50 guests!

jenn6180

That is tacky! 

MCookie816

141 people!!!! That's bigger than my wedding lol! Give her something homemade and thoughtful, with no gift receipt.  

luvlss1

discobelle:

141 people???  What the hell?

My thoughts exactly!! And I am like pp's, I would totally go off registry & NOT include a gift receipt. How tacky.

naybird

Wow! Tacky!!!

CraftyKayla

I would purposely leave out the gift receipt. And 141 people!? WTF is wrong with this woman... gift grabbyyyyy!

AMcLaws

If we buy something, we're not including a gift receipt

cwm11985

Wow.  You should include something totally horrificly ugly in your gift and NO receipt for it  Or, something used.  Or something monogrammed.  Or a bunch of books that you wrote in (include the receipt so she has a hard time trying to return it hehe).  Or get a giftcard, she can't return that!  Or, give her the wrong receipt.  Woops.

srs5624

AMcLaws:

If we buy something, we're not including a gift receipt

And make it personalized.

 

My brother and his wife had a wedding reception (destination wedding) and their baby shower (at only 5 months PG) in one weekend. Both were local to where they live, so it's not like there was odd travel arrangements. Both invitations were in one envelope they included a slip of paper asking for gift cards in lieu of presents.

Some people just have no clue.

orgnlmama

AMcLaws:

discobelle:

How tacky.

Are you close with this person?  I'd be annoyed and probably skip it.   

 

YES! One of my best friends, actually. She's also inviting 141 people. o_O

I would get something horrible and personalized and include the receipt where it says non-returnable. Like a life sized stuff giraffe with the baby's name embroidered down its neck.

MelleTX

141 people invited to a shower? Who agreed to host that shindig?

I realize it is incredibly tacky, but I wouldn't change your buying habits one way or the other for this chick.  

I normally buy off the registry and never include the gift receipt (because I bought off the registry) so that is what I would continue to do for this shower. Or I would not go at all.

Now, if this is a BFF, I would totally call her out on it. But my friends and I are like that.  

EastCoastBride

I find 141 person shower more obnoxious than the gift receipt! 

kjskjs

Completely rude! I would purposely not include a gift receipt, but I'm spiteful like that

ImThisBabysMom

I agree that it IS rude to ask for the gift receipt in advance, but to say that most people give one anyways, in  my case is wrong.

We are first time parents and got tons of gifts, yay and thanks everyone, but NOT ONE gift receipt. We got some duplicate gifts, things we didn't want/need that we did not register for. We have no easy way to return them and feel bad asking for the receipt because yes, it is saying 'we are returning your gift because we didn't like it or didn't want it.'

Nicolewinsbingo

pugznploons:

over 140 people?? that is crazy.  Her registry must be huge, or else she just plans to return all the stuff people buy for cash since they will have to go off-registry when everything gets bought up by the first 50 guests!

 

I am in love with the picture of your pugs in a pile on the couch!!  

 

 

LaurenCase89

That is incredibly tacky and rude! If this was my close friend I would have to say something to her. Also 141 people??? WOW. Gift grabby much?

rhubarb123

That's a new one (IRL).  I probably would NOT include it.  I hang on to receipts but unless it is something I've picked up not on the registry then never include it.  I figure they wanted it so they got it - from me.  If for some reason the MTB gets two of the same thing then I would hand over the reciept...unless I see the other item has a receipt with it already.

RobinSparkles214

Wow. They really have no shame. Sounds like a classy lady ; )

mypreciouscargos

Gismo123:

Just to be a biatch I would get something NOT on the registry and NOT include a receipt lol I'm so mean

 

ha! good one!

prettybird6

Maybe your friend has a specific idea of what she wants her baby to have -specific clothes, specific toys, specific books. It's her baby, so why be spiteful about it? I think the most generous and lady-like thing to do (regardless of your feelings towards the gift receipt request) is to get something you hope she'll like but include the receipt in case she doesn't. Honestly, I'm a bit astonished by the all the catty spiteful posts here. Why waste so much time and energy getting her an ugly or useless gift? It's a waste of money and it would probably end up in a landfill. Either follow the rules of her shower, or don't go, but don't be childish and deliberately sabotage your gift.

RosnyBelinda

prettybird6:

Maybe your friend has a specific idea of what she wants her baby to have -specific clothes, specific toys, specific books. It's her baby, so why be spiteful about it? I think the most generous and lady-like thing to do (regardless of your feelings towards the gift receipt request) is to get something you hope she'll like but include the receipt in case she doesn't. Honestly, I'm a bit astonished by the all the catty spiteful posts here. Why waste so much time and energy getting her an ugly or useless gift? It's a waste of money and it would probably end up in a landfill. Either follow the rules of her shower, or don't go, but don't be childish and deliberately sabotage your gift.

 So I guess you think it's okay for someone to dictate how to spend your money?  I don't see how you don't get why this bothers us.  The thing about a gift is that you don't get to choose it.  The gift giver does.  So if you end up with something you don't like or can't use, you should still be thankful and then give it away or donate it or return it or whatever.  But to specify that a gift receipt is requested just screams ungrateful to me.  

I would be inclined to spend less on her than I may have originally planned and I would most definitely not include a gift receipt.  

Sherbet Lemon

discobelle:

If she's going to be THAT specific ("specific clothes, specific toys, specific books"), maybe she should skip the shower and buy the specific things she wants herself.

Parties shouldn't have "rules" or place demands upon people.  

This.  I really can't believe people see no problem with demanding on an invitation that guests include receipts with their gifts.  Yes, as a gift giver, if you're giving something that could easily be duplicated, it's considerate to include a gift receipt - and I usually do.  Demanding it, however, is a whole different story and incredibly rude.

eebaehr

I would never agree to attend a shower if I knew that many people were invited...and I would never let a shower of mine get that large.  Yes, I would be thankful for the honor of a party for me, but I would be firm that my guests would only resent the amount of time it's going to take. Hell I would resent it.  I mean if she opens presents at the party (which she most certainly should) it's going to take forever..  I'm sorry but I don't give up an entire day to a shower unless I am hosting it.

OP- I agree this is tacky, and for all those who don't understand why, it's tacky to assume anything about gifts period. This sort of message comes off sounding like they are expecting to take gifts back, which is the inner workings of a shower...meaning your guests shouldn't see what goes on behind the curtain.  They should never feel like you are opening their gift already planning to return it.

blondie42107

In that case, you forget to include the gift receipt on purpose!