kinda freaking out (long but i need help)

sweetiestar

I had a D&C weeks ago i have my follow up appt tomorrow and i have so many questions because things just dont add up to me, i could be grasping at straws here but i just need answers... this is what happened, when i was pg with my son i was on progesterone so when i found out i was pregnant this time i insisted on blood work and it came back low progesterone (i it was 8 this was about 4-5 weeks) they put me on progesterone once a day taken by mouth. went in for my 8 week appt  at 8.5 weeks (my doctors office doesnt let you be seen till you are 8 weeks) and surprise its twins, we were beyond excited. they looked great both measured 8.5 weeks heartrates were great one 188 one 192 they were mono/di twins.... fast forward 2 weeks go to my sister appt with her they let me get a sneak peek at the babies and they were gone, no heartbeats. I had a D&C the following morning.

My questions are...

if my progesterone was low when they thought it was one baby was it really low for twins? it was never retested, they never checked anything when we found out it was twins

should i have been sent to a specialist bc it was twins and my last pregnancy was considered "high risk" because of the hyperemesis, the gestetional diabetes that was really bad (2 shots a day), maybe if i went to a perinatologist things would have turned out different 

i was terrible sick with my first pregnancy, home iv's hospital visits on a regular basis, when i voiced my concern that i wasnt as sick they said i should be grateful but was this a sign that something was wrong   

I dont know how they go from being great, looking prefect to not being at all. i am not looking to place blame but could it have been prevented. i want future children and i want to make sure this is the right place for me. thanks for the input and for the support 

elplocho

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Sadly I don't really have any answers to your questions. I can't imagine what you're going through.

Actingdiva09

The only thing I can really address in your questions is that each pregnancy can be completely different... I've known women who had horridly nauseating pregnancies, then one that was only mildly bad. However, I have also known women who knew there was something wrong with their pregnancy when they weren't as sick. Most of the time there's nothing the doctors can even do, so please don't stress yourself out over the "what-if's" of how things went... I know how dangerous it can be to think that way, and I've made myself sick stressing out over it... I think it would be good to ask the doctors about the progesterone for your knowledge. Also, what kind of u/s did they do at your sister's appointment? Was it a transvaginal? I'm kind of shocked they had you get the D&C the next morning... Was that your choice, or did they pressure you into it? Just curious...

 

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this... I'll be praying that you get some peace in all of this!!