Is anyone trying on-line dating?

Melicakes · April 2012

I just signed up for a 3 month trial on m.atch.com... It's my third time opening an account on there... Maybe third time is the charm? ( Worked in the case of my daughter, 3rd year, 3rd IUI..)

BTW, It's been a while since I posted here, sorry about that I will try to be a little more active on this board.

FyreFlyeRush · April 2012

I did eharmony. It did NOT work out very well. It matched me with people I had nothing in common with. I didn't want to have more kids, it connected me with men who did. I'm pro gay rights, it connected me with conservatives. I was interested in older men, hooked me up with younger ones. It called me a tricky customer and then went even CRAZIER. ugh.

kjwest5024 · April 2012

I haven't done them, but I strongly caution you. A friend of mine met a guy on eharmony and long story short, she has a restraining order out on him and is going through a divorce with a 6 month old.

newenglandmomm · April 2012

I tried match. Met two guys off there but dont talk to either anymore. I was thinking of trying again in a few months.

Melicakes · April 2012

I think E-harmon.y is an absolute crock.That "assesment" takes like two days to complete. I did it once and after what seemed like hours I finally finished and it said , "no matches" I was like are you freaking kidding me !

I have actually met a few guys from when I did match before.The last one I met was nice but turns out he wasn't looking for a comitted relationship. Sigh...Mind you he's 45. Really, at 45 you still want to play the field? Craziness...

Melicakes · April 2012

kjwest5024:
I haven't done them, but I strongly caution you. A friend of mine met a guy on eharmony and long story short, she has a restraining order out on him and is going through a divorce with a 6 month old.

I feel for your friend, but honestly this could have happened with a man she met IRL not just on-line.

DarthNBJenni · April 2012

I did Match.com and went on a few dates that didn't pan out.

I got tired of paying and signed up for Plenty of Fish. It's free, and you have to do A LOT of weeding. But on the plus side, some of the profiles are so awful it's hilarious. Plus, I noticed a lot of the men from Match were also on there.

I met my current husband on PoF - in fact, he's the only one from there I ever went on a date with. And he's pretty amazing.

Melicakes · April 2012

DarthNBJenni:

I met my current husband on PoF - in fact, he's the only one from there I ever went on a date with. And he's pretty amazing.

That's so sweet. I actually have a few friends who met and eventually married after meeting on-line.

achase123 · April 2012

Just because ONE person had a bad experience on e-harmony doesn't mean that a person should never online date.

I met my bf on match, originally. I had a bit of a complex about online dating but the truth is that our paths would not have crossed otherwise. I'm glad I went on there because otherwise I wouldn't have met him.

achase123 · April 2012

Melicakes:

I just signed up for a 3 month trial on m.atch.com... It's my third time opening an account on there... Maybe third time is the charm? ( Worked in the case of my daughter, 3rd year, 3rd IUI..)

I had to add too, this was the third time I'd activated my profile so maybe third time is a charm. I didn't have HORRIBLE luck like some, but definitely weeding through a lot of matches and ignoring 62 year olds sending me emails. I would always only stay on a month or two tops. I would get burnt out on it VERY quickly.

I also recommend meeting someone sooner rather than later. Otherwise you devise an online penpal/text buddy so to speak and you start building up all of these expectations about them. Then, you meet them and it's like "what????" odds are there won't be a connection so it's best to just meet to find out and not waste time.

Oh and blind dates can be awkward so if there's something there, give it another shot. When I met J our first date was pretty good but I'd also had quite a bit of wine because I was so nervous. our second date was really awkward so I blew him off. It is hard to go from someone being a virtual stranger to thinking of them in that capacity, instantly. We were friends for a few months before I asked him out and we definitely clicked that time. I think it helped to not have the pressure of a blind date and trying to instantly decide if there was something there.

Oh, and one last thing before I get off my online dating soapbox: if their pictures are iffy don't go there. It's really hard to give someone the benefit of the doubt and then find out that they are less attractive in real life. I was really, really attracted to J based on his pics so I at least knew this would carry out into our date, which it did. Too many times though I've walked into a restaurant and, no joke, wanted to turn and leave when I saw who I was meeting there.

FormerlyAK · April 2012

achase123:
Just because ONE person had a bad experience on e-harmony doesn't mean that a person should never online date.

This.

I met my bf on eharmony. We've been together a year and a half, moved in together in January and are talking about getting married next summer. It also turned out that we knew a lot of mutual people, but our paths would probably never have crossed if not for eharmony because our relationships with these people weren't the same (i.e. his neighbor's son is friend with my son from school, so I knew her; a good friend of his from work was friends with my brother growing up).

karleegirl · April 2012

I'm lurking , former single parent. I met my dh on match. We would have never crossed paths otherwise. I knew he was the one within a month.

ellasmommy001 · April 2012

karleegirl:
I'm lurking , former single parent. I met my dh on match. We would have never crossed paths otherwise. I knew he was the one within a month.

lol me too! i met y DH online and had we not met that way our paths would not crossed at all and now we are waiting the arrival of baby #2

Melicakes · April 2012

ellasmommy001:

karleegirl:
I'm lurking , former single parent. I met my dh on match. We would have never crossed paths otherwise. I knew he was the one within a month.

lol me too! i met y DH online and had we not met that way our paths would not crossed at all and now we are waiting the arrival of baby #2

It's reassuring to me that you ladies found succes in love on-line, I really hope it woirks out for me this time...