miscarriage nightmare!

stello728

Hello everyone,

I'm writing perhaps to get some comfort or to get some honest opinions of my situation. I found out I was pregnant in the beginning of March and with the exception of some brown spotting that I was told was implantation bleeding, everything seemed to progressing smoothly. During my 6th week, I started gushing bright red blood for about 30-40 minutes. I went straight to my doctor. He performed a sonogram and told me that he saw a heartbeat but that I was having a threatened miscarriage and that my chances of having a full miscarriage are over 60%. He sent me home, told me to stay home from work the next few days and gave me progesterone and told me to come in Monday (this was Thursday night). Throughout the weekend the bleeding continued but certainly slowed down from what it was Thursday night. I spent most of my time in bed and my husband and my parents were wonderful with taking care of me and the housework. We remained hopeful that out little baby would be okay. Many friends reached out to me with their own scary moments that resulted in a beautiful, healthy baby, so were optimistic.

Monday came and when my doctor started doing the sonogram he was very quiet, so that already made me feel uneasy. He told he saw three sacs and that I was pregnant with triplets but that all three sacs were empty. I think i was equally shocked that he said that there were no heartbeats and that I was pregnant with 3 little ones! I blurted out are you sure and then gave me a referral to get an outside sonogram to get a second opinion, which i immediately did. i told the  ultrasound technician what happened and what my doctor said he saw and didn't see. When she did her examination, she said that also did not see anything in the sac but she only saw one sac, not three.

I left devastated and confused and went home to mourn with my husband. Here I am 2 days later and I just cannot believe that my little baby is not here anymore. I still feel pregnant, my boobs are still sore, I'm still bloated, I didn't cramp, and I haven't bleed since Sunday night.i called my doctor yesterday and all he says is that there is nothing there and he keeps suggesting I have a d&c.

The more i research this, the more I find stories of women who get told to have a d and c because they ultrasound shows no signs of a viable pregnancy but they go back a week or two later and they can see a heartbeat and a healthy baby.

Is it crazy for me to think that i can be one of these women? He didn't take my blood to measure my HCG and see if they were declining. He didn't schedule another ultrasound to be sure in a week or so.

And what about that the fact that I don't know if I was pregnant with triplets or only one baby?! There is so much confusion going on that I just cannot take anyone's word for it that my baby is gone!

Am I silly to keep on to hope? Am I just setting myself up for more pain? I keep going thought this mourning/ hopeful feeling that isn't healthy for me or my husband. I am not bleeding, I am spotting dark brown a little and I'm not cramping.

I don't know what to do.

zzyyxx

I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I am dealing with a missed miscarriage right now myself. They diagnosed me with an unviable pregancy, but scheduled a follow up ultrasound for a week later. Over the course of that week, a small part of myself convinced myself that they had somehow made a mistake (even though, rationally, I knew they didn't).  I also feel pregnant, have had no additional cramping, spotting nothing.  I went in yesterday and had it re-confirmed and am still waiting to miscarry and figure out what route I want to take (D&C, etc.).  While it was hard to go through the ultrasound process and be told yet again that there was no baby, I'm glad I had that experience. It was hard, but the doubt of not being 100% sure would have been debilitating. Given that you were told triplets, then one baby, I would demand another ultrasound, just for your peace of mind. It may ultimately set you up for further disappointment, but it also might give you more definitive answers that you need to move on. Best of luck to you and so sorry for your loss.

janastep73

I am so sorry for what you're going through.  Since there seems to be so much confusion and differing opinions, I would honestly talk to my doctor and tell him that I wanted to wait a week or two (which I know would be excrutiating to wait) and return for an ultrasound from both of them, and maybe talk to the doctor and see how he came up with 3 sacs (and maybe show that ultrasound to the u/s tech and get another one from her/him).  That way, you can be absolutely sure if there really is or is not something there, and if you are unfortunately going to have a miscarriage, it might start on its own naturally.  Or maybe seek a second opinion from another OB altogether?

When I had my 8 week ultrasound we saw a heartbeat, then returned at 10 weeks and there was none, I asked my doctor if it could be one of those situations where maybe he was overlooking something and I could really end up having a normal pregnancy.  He told me no, that wasn't the case, because he could already seeing the fetus and tissue breaking down.  It was a blunt way to put it but it put me at ease that he/she really was gone. 

Everyone on here is incredibly supportive, but we're not going to have the most optimistic outlook due to our histories.  But, if it was me and there was that much uncertainty, that's what I would do.  I wouldn't go through anything or start anything unless I was completely sure of what was going on.  I hope this helps, good luck!! 

MWoodside

If it was me I'd wait.  Even if your dates are slightly off a HB might not show yet.  Plus with the inconsistancies in the # of babies seen it just seems concerning.  I would find another practice for a true second opinion.

I'm sorry you are going through this and I hope you have a happy ending.

stello728

Thank you for your support. I just made an appointment with a new doctor for Tuesday. Hopefully, that will give me some clear answers. 

baby101010

Well- hopefully you will have a happy ending- I would go to a different dr for another opinion- HOWEVER- ( sorry if this sounds negative) I would also be prepared for the worst case scenario- especially since your dr did see a heartbeat at the first ultrasound- and there is not longer a baby with detectable heartbeat.... SOmetimes what happens when an unviable pregnancy lasts too long is something called hydropic degeneration and when this happens- several sacs similar to gestastional sacs appear--- This happened with me- First ultrasound saw one sac with fetal pole and yolk sac- then next ultrasound saw 3 empty sacs- Dumb @$$ dr ( she is an RE----no longer seeing that dr) said it was triplets and to wait it out-- and  put me on progesterone- which proplonged an unhealthy pregnancy- when I went to my regular OB for second opinion he said - no it was a singleton pregnancy that was sustained too long and that it was not viable.... ( I ended up getting an infection from sustaining teh unhealthy pregnancy too long) Maybe your situation is different- but it still sounds sketchy to me... keep us updated!!! Fingers crossed for a happy ending for you! 

stello728

just wanted to update you guys.

Saw another doctor, was only pregnant with one baby but there was no heartbeat. dont think I'm going to go the D&C route, want to let nature take its course. 

Good luck to all of you. Thanks for the support you have provided.