When to tell our parents?

NovRain27

I am a little over 4 weeks. Got blood work done yesterday and today they said it came back perfect for where i am currently. I don't plan on telling friends until 3 months but I've read a few things about when to tell your parents. Some say to wait a while and others say to tell them right away because it's a happy time in their life too. Suggestions! Thanks :-)

Vegasbb

I think it depends on how close you are to your parents? I'm very close to my parents (and would want their support and love if I had a m/c). I told them the next time I saw them in person (2 weeks after my BFP, at nearly 6 weeks). My husband isn't as close to his Dad and is waiting until after our NT scan tomorrow if everything goes ok. 

kimjellie

Agree that it depends on your relationship.  We told our parents and DH's sister two days after we found out - we were just at four weeks.  We knew it was early, but if anything happens we'd want them to be there for us (and we figured some extra T&Ps couldn't hurt).  Provided all goes well, we will tell the rest of the family on Mothers' Day when I will be 11w, and then friends will find out once the second trimester starts.

bjgonzales1217

it just depends on what you guys want. There is no guideline.

 My DH and I are very close to our parents and wanted as much support and love from them, so we ended up telling them the day after we found out, which we were 4 weeks then. As far as extended family we are telling on easter.  It all depends on what you want.

Have a H and H 9 months!!

sparkplug06

I told my mum right away. My dad I don't even know if he knows and I personally don't care if he ever does. We told the in laws after the first ultrasound. It all depends on the person and how close you are to your parents.

Ladylec

It is definitely a personal decision, it just depends on your relationships.

I told my mom was the first person I told and I called her a few hours after my BFP to tell her. She knew before DH did lol We told DHs parents this past Sunday. It was easy because they all knew we were already TTC.

cntrygrl123

My parents were told immediately as well as my husbands family and 3 best friends...but this being our second a lot of people have found out much earlier then i would have liked but felt it was harder to hide this time around mainly because everyone knew when we were ttc

jamiemyselfandi

The thing that convinced me to tell my parents early was another poster in the forums who said her mother would be more hurt finding out about a miscarriage afterwards than being told too soon about a pregnancy.

That said, we told our parents and siblings last Saturday - just a little over the five week mark. His mom and sister-in-law have both had miscarriages, so if anything were to happen, their support will be incredibly helpful. Besides family, no one else knows yet, and likely won't know until closer to the second trimester. (Unless my morning sickness gets worse, and I have to let my coworkers know.)

mAnYaSha

Good thread. Last time we told about 7 weeks because my mom put me in a situation where I had to tell or put myself in undesired situation for pregnancy. We told IL the same day.

This time around I am really not looking forward to telling my mom because of her horrible reaction the first time and general attitude. So thus far  only 1 DH's friend, 1 of my friends who knew we were TTC and is due 2 days before us (fun!) birth center personnel, insurance and complete strangers know.

DH just came from Vegas and we were thinking of pretending that he brought something from there and have a pic of DS in his "I am the big brother" Tshirt, but I am not feeling it...  I guess we are waiting until it feels right, we have no choice but to tell or it's obvious. LOL

NovRain27

Thank you everyone! I think we will be telling my parents on Easter and then he wants to wait to tell his parents until after the ultrasound since they live farther and we have no plans to see them for another few weeks.