Husband behavior normal?

happymommy1215

I just got found out last week that I am pregnant; and after I made my first appt, I told my husband I would be having an ultrasound (will be 8 wks) and may hear the heartbeat, etc...he is a teacher and would lose part of a bonus if he takes a day out of work (they don't do half days).  His response was, "well we'll lose $$ if I take a day out,  I guess I don't need to see it."  My husband is usually such a compassionate, amazing man, and this really hurt me.  Is it the hormones or does it make sense that his response upset me? 

Dani9311

My boyfriend and I are very close and when we found out we where pregnant he was very excited.  And he's been very supportive up until the last couple weeks.  I started talking to the baby and interacting with it and it kicks all through out the day.  Since it started kicking my boyfriend thinks its very weird to talk to my belly is this normal or just weird?

kat530_528

This is all too normal.  My husband freaked out and said crazy things like that at first too.  Guys definitely take the news very differently than girls do.  He'll come around especially when he sees those first images.  Just give him time to process.  It will be great!

BabySeaTurtles

Guys just don't react the way we do to pregnancy.  My DH is trying to be supportive and understanding but most of the time I think he is just humoring me.  Girls become moms when we get pregnant.  Guys become dads (in their minds anyway) after the baby is born. 

My advice is to try to schedule ultrasounds for after school hours if at all possible. Or if it isn't, have a friend or other family member their with you to maybe video record it for your husband.  Give him a little more time to adjust the brain to pending fatherhood...

happymommy1215

Thanks so much for the responses.  I'm usually a pretty rational person but this pregnancy thing has really thrown me for a loop (shocker, right? :-).  Everything you all said makes so much sense. 

melissaannbutz

Lor2012:

I just got found out last week that I am pregnant; and after I made my first appt, I told my husband I would be having an ultrasound (will be 8 wks) and may hear the heartbeat, etc...he is a teacher and would lose part of a bonus if he takes a day out of work (they don't do half days).  His response was, "well we'll lose $$ if I take a day out,  I guess I don't need to see it."  My husband is usually such a compassionate, amazing man, and this really hurt me.  Is it the hormones or does it make sense that his response upset me? 

He may be having concerns about money and wants to make sure he is doing everything he can to provide for you and LO. 

laughingpromises

melissaannbutz:

Lor2012:

I just got found out last week that I am pregnant; and after I made my first appt, I told my husband I would be having an ultrasound (will be 8 wks) and may hear the heartbeat, etc...he is a teacher and would lose part of a bonus if he takes a day out of work (they don't do half days).  His response was, "well we'll lose $$ if I take a day out,  I guess I don't need to see it."  My husband is usually such a compassionate, amazing man, and this really hurt me.  Is it the hormones or does it make sense that his response upset me? 

He may be having concerns about money and wants to make sure he is doing everything he can to provide for you and LO. 

This. 

moniquegrc995

melissaannbutz:

Lor2012:

I just got found out last week that I am pregnant; and after I made my first appt, I told my husband I would be having an ultrasound (will be 8 wks) and may hear the heartbeat, etc...he is a teacher and would lose part of a bonus if he takes a day out of work (they don't do half days).  His response was, "well we'll lose $$ if I take a day out,  I guess I don't need to see it."  My husband is usually such a compassionate, amazing man, and this really hurt me.  Is it the hormones or does it make sense that his response upset me? 

He may be having concerns about money and wants to make sure he is doing everything he can to provide for you and LO. 

This exactly. DH is the same way. Sometimes I get upset because he doesn't get excited about baby clothes and ultrasounds like I do. Part is the hormones, part is the way we show our anxiety is different. Men are more practical. I have to remind myself that the way he shows his love for the new baby is all that extra $ he used to spend rebuilding his classic that he's now putting in a savings account he opened just for her.