Tell me about your reward chart/system..

dundasgirl

We are thinking about starting this with the kids.  Can you direct me to a site with some ideas or tell me what you do?

I found some online that seem more geared towards reading/homework, etc.

I am thinking, make your bed, brush your teeth, stay at the table during dinner, and so on.

I would like to make a reusable one.  I wash thinking of making one that I could attach to this big cork board we have, and pin the stars/happy faces to it?

Ideas?  Brainstorm???

Mouseygail

I don't have one yet, but I thought the Melissa and Doug one looked nice when I saw it a while ago

that supernanny show had a ton of different reward methods that I thought seemed pretty cool...I can't remember them now though...but they were more for general behavior and not specific tasks.  

 

dundasgirl

That looks pretty good.  It also gives me ideas of what to make my little sections say...you know aside from the whining, hitting, throwing food!  Little hellions!!  LOL

Actually they are pretty good, but I need them to focus more on making the right decision in the heat of the moment when they are swiping toys or pushing each other out of the way to get somewhere first (like onto my lap!).

brideinOC

I would put your head together with DH and narrow your list to a few things that are musts.  My DH's ex-wife made one for the kids a few years ago that listed every single thing they were supposed to do in the morning.  I think the only thing that she left off was to inhale and exhale, repeat, repeat.  Seriously, there were close to 20 things they had to do.  She couldn't keep up with checking everything off.  It lasted maybe two mornings.  My daycare mom has a hand for each child, each child has the opportunity to get a star on each finger.  If you get 4 or more stars by Friday, you get a treat from the treasure chest.  I have read to let the kids put the stickers or pins on each thing they do, so they learn how to self evaluate.  Also, use pictures of teeth brushing, bed, etc. 

GypsyEsq

I like brideinOC's suggestion, we've only used a sticker/reward chart for potty training and we just drew a lot of boxes on a big sheet of white paper and posted it right in front of the potty.  It so happened that DD had also seen a commercial for a game (Uno Moo) that she kept asking for, so we told her when the sticker chart was full she could have the game.  By the time she filled the chart she'd forgotten about the game (we still did give it to her) because the sticker placement was so exciting to her.  She's young though.  I think we'll continue stickers as rewards for "good" behavior as long as the allure of stickers seems to remain.

 But I don't know if that's "right" or not.  I will follow this post though.

brideinOC

For my stepdaughter's behavior, we were encouraged to ask her what her goal reward was but made it an activity (not candy or toy).  She picked ice skating one time and a movie one time. 

Also, we made a box for a bonus if we saw her helping someone or doing something without asking (that wasn't on her chart).  That encourages them to do kind things.  "Penny gets a glittery sticker because she helped Reed pick up his toys."  something like that.