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What I say vs. what I WANT to say

jlcrane78jlcrane78 member
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The former assistant pastor of our former church and his wife are expecting.  They have 2 girls already.  For a long time he didn't know if he wanted to have another child because he didn't know if he could take the "disappointment" of having another girl.  *cue my gagging*

Today he posted a picture of his wife painting his daughter's nails, and it is captioned with the following - "Dear Jesus, Boy please!!!  Amen."

It took everything in me not to go off on him.  Instead, I commented and said "You are blessed with a beautiful family, no matter what their gender."  What I want to say is that he is a jerk who doesn't deserve the precious gift he has been given.  And this dude was a pastor?!?!?!

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  • amethystgrrlamethystgrrl member
    Ugh.... and don't you figure those feelings are palpable to the girls?!
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  • SweetDahliaSweetDahlia
    I'm sorry. He sucks. I would give anything for a baby no matter what the sex was. People just don't understand and it makes me so sad.
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  • Yolanbo9Yolanbo9 member
    UGH! People are so oblivious sometimes!
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  • GregermisGregermis member
    My pastor would have some choice words for him!  What a jerk!!
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  • naybirdnaybird
    Ugh! What a jerk!! I'm sure talking like that makes his little girls feel great.
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  • illinigalillinigal member

    imageSweetDahlia:
    I'm sorry. He sucks. I would give anything for a baby no matter what the sex was. People just don't understand and it makes me so sad.

     

    This! Tell him you'll take the baby if it's a girl. 

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  • BeeBee08BeeBee08 member

    Do you have his email address?  I have a few things to say as well...

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  • katib77katib77 member

    imageamethystgrrl:
    Ugh.... and don't you figure those feelings are palpable to the girls?!

    This!  I would hate growing up feeling my Dad was disappointed in my gender.

    My husband has a friend who went through IUI and IVF to have children with DS as a single woman at age 40, she had boy/girl twins.  They are now two and a half.  She always showers praise on the girl and talks about how fussy, messy, slow etc the boy is.  I feel so bad for him that he'll grow up hearing that!  You'd think someone that went through so much to have any child would "get it" but she clearly favors the girl.  So sad!

    At first I was amazed you were able to hold back,  but realize I've made similar statements to this women too.  Not able yet to fully give her a piece of my mind.


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  • reb259reb259 member
    When his girls are 18 and dancing on a pole looking for a man's approval and asks himself why...he will remember his FB post!  What a loser...
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  • MrkyrainMrkyrain

    imagereb259:
    When his girls are 18 and dancing on a pole looking for a man's approval and asks himself why...he will remember his FB post!  What a loser...

     

    Exactly, so sad but true. 

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