TTCAL question

lrichmond86

Hi girls...  I was just wondering if this happened to anyone else out there.  After our loss we talked about TTC again, but with no real timeline.  I didn't really have any desire to get pregnant in a real sense again because I was missing my son so desperately.  Now, at almost 4 months out from our loss, I feel DESPERATE to be pregnant again, like RIGHT NOW!  The desire that I have to be pregnant again is overwhelming.  It's all I can think about.  What I find strange is that it hit me so suddenly.  Has this happened to anyone else?  Just curious.  Always thinking of you all!!

Heatherhah

With us I was the crazy in shock mom who said right after finding out she died when I could get pregnant again. I was in shock but I knew I wasn't done having babies and that I wanted to be pregnant as soon as I was medically allowed. So I am a little different from you but now I am so desperate it is making me nuts!!!

Heather

nuttycoconut

It did happen to me but like heatherhah, that was very soon after my loss instead of 3 months out like you. Now that I'm a few months out the feeling has turned into nervousness and I'm not as much in a rush but definitely still TTC! Good luck to you

dandywarhol

I'm super practical so we started almost immediately because I knew it might take us awhile.  5+ months later and here we are still trying.  

The anxiety and the desperation get to me on occasion, typically during the 2ww when I've cheated, tested early and received a BFN.   

barrona

I am the exact same way. Mine hit a little earlier at about 2 months after our little girl passed, but it has been consuming me ever since! I really try so hard to distract myself with work or other things, but nothing helps at all. It's all I can think about and it drives me crazy. It doesn't help that we have so many friends pregnant either because that's all they talk about. I hope you get your BFP soon!

lrichmond86

I think what's driving me the craziest is that we can't start trying again until at least May.  I need to get the go ahead from my Dr. because of the pre-e with the last pregnancy and the earliest appointment I could get is May 8.  I was really hoping that we would start trying this month.  I guess it's true that you always want what you can't have, right? 

cherrycobbler

I know that even on the way home from the hospital the night that Robin died, we talked about getting pregnant as soon as possible.  My Dr said to wait 1 year if I really wanted to try for the VBAC (which I do), 6m if I was ok with a repeat. We are now at 7m and I have an appt on Fri (just a boring yearly) and I will discuss possible plans.  Just knowing that this could all be happening again soon has me really wanting it so bad within the last few weeks,suddenly.  I also feel a sort of desperation, not to replace Robin obviously, but just to be a mommy to a living child.  You are not alone.

JessicaRobb

Not being pregnant had me feeling literally unproductive. I threw myself into crafts and projects to feel like I was PRODUCING something. I feel like this feeling won't go away until I'm pregnant

blessedhope

I do remember thinking all kinds of craziness immediatly after my loss about getting pregnant right away. We ended up having to wait for quite a while because I couldn't take care of my blood sugar (i have diabetes) during my intense grieving and that would be dangerous to get pregnant with bad blood sugars. After a few months I went through a very long angry stage and I said i never wanted to get pregnant again. (looking back that was really fear, fear of more loss). Now we are trying again. I am scared but ready for another one.