What to ask OB at follow-up visit

April!

On Tuesday I'm seeing my OB for the first time since my miscarriage. (I induced a missed MC with misoprostol 3 weeks ago.) Does anyone have any advice about what I should ask him?

My husband and I want to TTC as soon as possible, so I want to ask about that, but I'm also wondering if there is anything we could or should do to prevent another MC. I know they usually don't bother with that unless you have had multiple, and this is "only" my first, but I'm wondering if there is anything I should ask about.

sweetiestar

i am wondering the same thing, i lost my twins last week, i had a D&C however. My mother suggested that i write all my questions down so when i get there i don't get upset and forget something i wanted to ask. I am going to ask when we can start trying again. i also had low progesterone when i was first pregnant, so it must have been really low for twins and i want to know if that could have caused it. But other than that i have no idea what to ask.  

SweetPea1002

I also have my follow up tomorrow and I have lots of questions. My DH and I have been going through IVF, so I want to know when I can we start another cycle. I like to do it as soon as possible. Also, when I had the D&C my OB wanted me to go on birth control, why? The way I look at it is, if my body is ready to have another baby then let it. I really don't want to go on birth control. Also, when should I expect my next AF, will I ovulate this month. Is it safe to resume all activities, even through we already have. Get an idea of what my blood work was prior to finding out I had a  mc, was there anything in the blood work that didn't look right?

Are any of you having your DH coming with you to the appt? My DH asked me if I wanted him to go, I said no, but now I'm thinking I may need him there for emotional support. I really hope I don't get the same room as I did when I found out I lost the baby in.

 

janastep73

I have my followup appointment in a few weeks and have been thinking of things I want to ask.  I originally told my husband I didn't think he needed to come, unless he had some questions he wanted to ask, and he said he couldn't think of any but he would come if I needed emotional support. 

He wasn't there when I had the ultrasound and found out our baby didn't have a heartbeat anymore, so he may be feeling guilty or want to be there for me since he wasn't there when it actually happened--either way I'm fine with him going.  I try so often to be strong and take care of myself and my family but I think this is a time where I want him to be there to take care of me. I have to go in for an ultrasound either during my followup or a few weeks after and I know I'm going to be in the same room.  As far as I know my OB's office only has one ultrasound tech and one ultrasound room. 

April!

I had my appointment a few days ago, and it was kind of crappy. It was a different OB than the one who prescribed the miso, and she was just not very kind. I asked if there was anything I could or should do to prevent another MC, and she said not really, they don't intervene until after 2 or 3 MC's, and that I should try again soon since I'm 33. I was like, um, thanks. WTF? Then she chided me for not exercising!

Do you have to have another ultrasound? They were going to make me have one but I questioned it because I hadn't had any spotting or anything for about a week, so they said I didn't have to. Sitting in that room again and having to deal with the wand was something I didn't want to put myself through! I too was alone for the ultrasound when we found out the baby wasn't developing. I don't ever want to be alone for an ultrasound again!