"People might be afraid of you"
Says my Mom after a family dinner tonight. I take a breath before responding...."No sh*t, why do you think people don't call often, and I don't do anything social."
My mom then goes on to say that she is confused by my anxiety. She knows I am nervous about what people might say, but she also knows it irks me when people say NOTHING and they know what happened. "So, is there no happy-medium?" she asks. "Ummmmmmm, there is nothing HAPPY about this" I respond. But then I elaborate that nothing is "right". I don't want people to ask questions or say much, but it is also frustrating when people ignore the fact that my baby died.
"Well, the word "die" is prob a lot for people too" my mom says. "Really?!?! Well, it's a lot for me too; but it's what happened!!" I respond.
I guess there is really no point to this. I just feel so angry and hardened lately and I guess my mom was just pointing it out (not that I didn't know). My mom is super supportive, but likes to talk and analyze and I'm just over that.
Re: "People might be afraid of you"
I'm so sorry hun! I know when people were telling me that people would be afraid or wouldn't know what to say - I kept telling people "THEN THEY SHOULD SAY JUST THAT! acknowledge whats going on and what I'm going through and simply say 'I don't know what to say except I'm so sorry...'" Saying that was better than nothing at all, at least to me.
I hope things get better for you soon. Sending (((hugs))) your way... Hopefully your mom will soon understand that everything doesn't need to be complicated. Sometimes simple is easier and better...
I am so sorry. I was always ok with, I don't know what to say.
My reply " neither do I."
Huge hugs.
This. I don't know why it is so hard for people to acknowledge that t they don't know what to say. That just irks me that they avoid or worse, say something stupid rather than just "I am so sorry. I don't know what else to say."
I like pottermommy's response of "Me either!"