I Stood Up for IFers tonite

Mrs.McIrish

I went with DH tonite to his friend's party. Background, I don't like this friend. He is obnoxious and every other word from his mouth is "F". Anyway, his wife is PG and due in early July. He already has a son from a prior GF. He started shooting his mouth off that he "only makes boys". They do not know the sex of the baby but he kept insisting that he only wanted a boy. I was fuming but did not want to make a scene as we were at a bar in public., I said I would gladly take the baby if it was a girl. Fast forward a few hours later and he started again about how it had to be a boy. I snapped. I called him over to not say it in front of everyone and said how he should just be happy for a healthy baby as not everyone could have one. I had tears falling and he knew I wasn't joking. He did apologize and later on his wife apologized saying she would have stopped him if she knew he was spouting off. The thing is that my DH told him months ago we could not get PG. I know he will never "get" it but I stood up for "us". I had to say something even if it falled on deaf ears. And DH wonders why I prefer to just stay home....

reb259

Sorry McI, my eyes started tearing up when I read you started to cry.  I hate you had to be put in that situation and be reminded by some a.ss.hole what we deal have to deal with everyday.

From one IFer to another I am proud you have the the courage to stick up for us...if we don't have each others backs who will?

Edwina.McDunnough

reb259:

Sorry McI, my eyes started tearing up when I read you started to cry.  I hate you had to be put in that situation and be reminded by some a.ss.hole what we deal have to deal with everyday.

From one IFer to another I am proud you have the the courage to stick up for us...if we don't have each others backs who will?

Exactly. HUGE hugs ! 

Aegis2005

Edwina.McDunnough:

reb259:

Sorry McI, my eyes started tearing up when I read you started to cry.  I hate you had to be put in that situation and be reminded by some a.ss.hole what we deal have to deal with everyday.

From one IFer to another I am proud you have the the courage to stick up for us...if we don't have each others backs who will?

Exactly. HUGE hugs ! 

Even more (((hugs))).  Some people are so clueless.

psychmusetls

::hugs:: i'm so sorry you were put in that situation but i'm so proud of you for speaking up

illinigal

Hugs.  I'm glad you said something on behalf of all IFers..... Some people don't know how lucky they are.

jillychris

Oh sweetie, I have tears just reading this. What a jerk! So sorry you had to deal with him, but so proud of you for saying something!!!! We all need to say something more often, maybe more awareness of this awful struggle is what we need!

eponine7682

So sorry you had to go through that McIrish. It's INFURIATING when people say sh!t like that..whether they are around an infertile or not...it's like they are putting down their own baby before it's even here. Disgusting in my opinion.

Anyways, I am glad you said something. I have no problem with telling people off, but it's harder with DH around since he doesn't like to talk about it with other people. However, if alcohol were involved I would have probably handled it poorly (threw a drink in his face or something, lol). So I think you handled great, but I am sorry you had to "handle" anything at all. 

AmCheri

Wow. How insensitive. Fueled by alcohol perhaps?  You did a great job sweetie. I'm sorry he was such a jackass and that he upset you. Big jerk. 

In a similar vein, our best friends are having their third child. The husband has been adamant that he doesn't want a boy -- you know, because it's more than he could handle. We're godparents to his other sweet little boy.  Breaks our heart every time he says that the third just can't be a boy. People just don't understand. 

theworms

((HUGS))

i'm sorry you had to endure that.  i'm glad you spoke up, i hope he stops acting like an asss

abvernon

bellalou32:

I'm so sorry about that.  Some people just don't appreciate what they have.  Good for you for standing up to him for us and most importantly, yourself.  

My thoughts exactly. Some people are just clueless and should really think before they speak.

vanessagorc

reb259:

Sorry McI, my eyes started tearing up when I read you started to cry.  I hate you had to be put in that situation and be reminded by some a.ss.hole what we deal have to deal with everyday.

From one IFer to another I am proud you have the the courage to stick up for us...if we don't have each others backs who will?

ditto.  Glad u stood up for urself and all of us!

NMscubagirl

Good job. Thank you for standing up for us. That must have been horrible!! ((hugs))

Mrkyrain

Ugh! People like this make me so mad.  Good for you for saying something.

Gregermis

Good for you!!  ((hugs)). What a jack@ss!!!

lynn0926

Good for you! I am so sorry you had to deal with that jack a$$! People can be so rude, unbelievable!

Roxie5739

bellalou32:

I'm so sorry about that.  Some people just don't appreciate what they have.  Good for you for standing up to him for us and most importantly, yourself.  

This exactly. I am off to a dinner tonight with DH bachelor friends and only one has a girlfriend. I have to put up with that sort of cr.ap all the time from these ignorants of the world and I get really stressed before I go out as I know that at some time during the night I need to defend myself. I am sorry.

naybird

Big big hugs. Good for you for saying something. I hope you were able to get through to him and maybe he will think before speaking a little more now.

LaLe09

I'm sorry. Thanks for reminding others on the gift that they truly have been given. It's so disheartening to realize that most people are completely unaware of that.

mdluv21

Good for you sweetie.  I am sorry you had to deal with that though.  ((hugs))

Rachael07.07.07

(((hugs)))

I hate how stupid people can be. I'm sorry you had to deal with that jerk. 

Yellow_Daisy

theworms:

((HUGS))

i'm sorry you had to endure that.  i'm glad you spoke up, i hope he stops acting like an asss

This!  And more (((hugs)))