5th month ttc Getting depressed

mitzidanny

this is my first post here hi to all....

this is our 5th month ttc, so far we've tried ovulation tests, basal temp charting, BDing as much as possible and nothing, i keep reading about fb friends/fam that are getting pregnant left and right and i'm starting to feel depressed... any new ideas?

 

rjade9

If you've only been trying for 5 months you don't belong on 3T yet and hopefully ever.  It can take up to a year for a healthy couple to concieve, most of us have been trying for over a year or have a confirmed diagnoses as to why we are not getting pregnant. 

Ask the ladies on TTC for some advice for now.

TTCaANGEL

DONT get down on yourself

Stay possitive!

5 MONTHS isnt that long! Hang in there!!!!! 

jenjen930

Impatience is not an infertility issue.

rjade9

katyj25:

OH FFS! Are we repeating Tuesday?

I am feeling stabby today. Beware.

BabyDreams711

I know 5 months can seem like forever when you first start TTC, but in reality it isn't. Most couples with NO issues can take a year. Hang in there and as PP said, check out Trying to get pregnant.

pulga131

As pp said 5 months is not a fertility problem yet unless you have a diagnosis.  Don't take this the wrong way, everyone understands what it's like to be there and how hard it is to see those BFN's but you would be better suited in the TTC board not the trouble ttc board since you are not undergoing fertility treatments with an RE yet (and hopefully you won't need to ever do that). GL to you

catT81

Five months definitely feels like it's really hard, but it's also definitely not the end of the world!  Hang in there - you're less than half of the way to a year!  If you don't have an infertility diagnosis, you have no reason to think that anything's wrong based soley on five months of TTC.

 

When we first started ttc, it seemed like EVERYONE I knew said that it happened their first month.  But either they were lying, or I just have a super-fertile set of friends, because that's not normal.  I know it can feel like people are getting pregnant right or left, but you also don't know their story or how long they've been trying or what they needed to do to get there.

 

Wishing you the best, and that you don't ever *really* need to end up on this board.

machole513

jenjen930:

Impatience is not an infertility issue.

Mich1724

You feel depressed?? In May we're going on 3 YEARS of TTC with unexplained infertility..now that's depressing.

 

Keep doing what you're doing. If you get to the year mark and if not pregnant yet then go see your doctor to start all the basic tests. Good luck!

emmypants

I remember 5 months. *dreamy sigh* back when I didn't have a care in the world.

liz4paws

emmypants:

I remember 5 months. *dreamy sigh* back when I didn't have a care in the world.

Me too. When just a glass of POM or Green Tea was all that was standing between me and my BFP. *sigh*

emmypants

liz4paws:

emmypants:

I remember 5 months. *dreamy sigh* back when I didn't have a care in the world.

Me too. When just a glass of POM or Green Tea was all that was standing between me and my BFP. *sigh*

Exactly!

kz's_girlygirl

emmypants:

liz4paws:

emmypants:

I remember 5 months. *dreamy sigh* back when I didn't have a care in the world.

Me too. When just a glass of POM or Green Tea was all that was standing between me and my BFP. *sigh*

Exactly!

  Don't forget about pineapple core

goofyteacher

kz's_girlygirl:

emmypants:

liz4paws:

emmypants:

I remember 5 months. *dreamy sigh* back when I didn't have a care in the world.

Me too. When just a glass of POM or Green Tea was all that was standing between me and my BFP. *sigh*

Exactly!

  Don't forget about pineapple core

So true!  So if you haven't tried all of this stuff and don't forget sex with canola oil then you aren't ready for TTTC.

mitzidanny

sorry to all for posting on the wrong board... it took me a while to actually decide to post, i guess i was looking for something that isn't here...good luck to all... and again im sorry for posting on the wrong board

pulga131

mitzidanny:

sorry to all for posting on the wrong board... it took me a while to actually decide to post, i guess i was looking for something that isn't here...good luck to all... and again im sorry for posting on the wrong board

You will find many people in your same shoes in the trying to conceive board so make sure you check them out. You will benefit from support from people who are experiencing the same things that you are. YKIM?  Again good luck to you 

Shayliz

mitzidanny:

sorry to all for posting on the wrong board... it took me a while to actually decide to post, i guess i was looking for something that isn't here...good luck to all... and again im sorry for posting on the wrong board

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/4236744/ShowForum.aspx

 

katib77

This is a copy of a blog post I made back in October for people like you who come around. Enjoy:

 Five Months of trying? Hmmm, for me that was back in December of 2009!  

Talk to me when you've been trying for over two and a half years.  When you've seen friends & co workers have not one baby, but are ready to pop out their second little one.  Talk to me when you are a whole year past "natural" remedies such as herbal teas, POM juice, pineapple cores, BBT charting, CM checking and the like.

Talk to me after you've had several doctors and nurses put a dildo shaped camera thrust into your ute, had a tube of your husband's sperm inserted past your cervix, or had your ovaries get an extra workout from hormones meds & shots in your stomach.  

Talk to me after you've spent a year explaining to people that infertility doesn't mean you are "broken" when family or friends who mean well are telling you to seek adoption or having someone else carry a child for you.  

Talk to me after you've had to save pennies here and there to afford your out of pocket infertility treatments, since most insurance companies feels making a family is a "want" and not medically needed.  (Yet somehow giving a senior aged man an erection is?!)  

Talk to me when you've had to put your treatments on hold due to financial reasons, miscarry, or have cysts that can cause you bodily harm.

Talk to me after you've gone through all of that, and then continue to see negative pregnancy tests for the 15th, 25th, or for me in a few days - the 32nd cycle in a row.  

Talk to me then.  Because until then, if you think we're all just a little nuts?  Well I don't give a rats ass!  And no, I don't need to take a deep breath and relax.  Because you just gave me a therapeutic outlet to rant to all the people in the world who are like you, and think that four months of trying to get pregnant without results is "having trouble".  Honey, you don't know what trouble is yet.  But if God forbid, you have to join our little group some day, talk to me then.  Because I would be pleased to be a sounding board for your rants, a shoulder to cry on in your down times, a cheer leader for when you're going through treatment, a happy supporter when you find success & get pregnant and a sister in this world of IF  hell.  Until then, go to the Trying to get Pregnant board and complain to them!

Jezebell26

katib77:

This is a copy of a blog post I made back in October for people like you who come around. Enjoy:

 Five Months of trying? Hmmm, for me that was back in December of 2009!  

Talk to me when you've been trying for over two and a half years.  When you've seen friends & co workers have not one baby, but are ready to pop out their second little one.  Talk to me when you are a whole year past "natural" remedies such as herbal teas, POM juice, pineapple cores, BBT charting, CM checking and the like.

Talk to me after you've had several doctors and nurses put a dildo shaped camera thrust into your ute, had a tube of your husband's sperm inserted past your cervix, or had your ovaries get an extra workout from hormones meds & shots in your stomach.  

Talk to me after you've spent a year explaining to people that infertility doesn't mean you are "broken" when family or friends who mean well are telling you to seek adoption or having someone else carry a child for you.  

Talk to me after you've had to save pennies here and there to afford your out of pocket infertility treatments, since most insurance companies feels making a family is a "want" and not medically needed.  (Yet somehow giving a senior aged man an erection is?!)  

Talk to me when you've had to put your treatments on hold due to financial reasons, miscarry, or have cysts that can cause you bodily harm.

Talk to me after you've gone through all of that, and then continue to see negative pregnancy tests for the 15th, 25th, or for me in a few days - the 32nd cycle in a row.  

Talk to me then.  Because until then, if you think we're all just a little nuts?  Well I don't give a rats ass!  And no, I don't need to take a deep breath and relax.  Because you just gave me a therapeutic outlet to rant to all the people in the world who are like you, and think that four months of trying to get pregnant without results is "having trouble".  Honey, you don't know what trouble is yet.  But if God forbid, you have to join our little group some day, talk to me then.  Because I would be pleased to be a sounding board for your rants, a shoulder to cry on in your down times, a cheer leader for when you're going through treatment, a happy supporter when you find success & get pregnant and a sister in this world of IF  hell.  Until then, go to the Trying to get Pregnant board and complain to them!

 

Standing ovation for Katib!!!!!!!!!

katib77

Aw, thanks Jezebell!  I actually kind of like when I get to dust that off and throw it up on the board.  Good way to get the frustration out for a minute.

Mich1724

Oh KatiB, I love your posts! They are always exactly how I'm feeling, I just can't articulate my thoughts as well!

xc1148

I personally think this is really uncalled for. So, she posted on the "wrong" board. So, you have been trying to get pregnant longer than she has. That doesn't make you the supreme court judge on all things fertility nor does it make you the one that can judge others. We all have our issues and she was just looking for support. Try being supportive instead of being the victim and see how that works out. 

 

---also trying for longer than 5 mos... 

JenniatONU

xc1148:

I personally think this is really uncalled for. So, she posted on the "wrong" board. So, you have been trying to get pregnant longer than she has. That doesn't make you the supreme court judge on all things fertility nor does it make you the one that can judge others. We all have our issues and she was just looking for support. Try being supportive instead of being the victim and see how that works out. 

 

---also trying for longer than 5 mos... 

Impatience =/= infertility.

Infertility is already a taboo subject. Fertility treatment is NOT a fad-diet. Not everyone can and should jump on the band wagon because they are impatient to do things the natural way.

People who are only ttc 5 months are still 'normal.' There is no need to raise the red flags yet.  I'd rather have gotten pregnant on my 12th cycle than going through fertility treatment on ANY cycle.

I don't see how this can't rub you the wrong way. It DOES belittle the trouble that infertiles have. 

KRIS10L

Well said xc1148!  Comments like that are what prevented me from participating in these boards for 2 years. ( Is two years of trying long enough to be posting on the TTTC board or should we wait longer?)  I don't understand why people aren't allowed to have feelings of discouragement without being attacked? Surely someone is giving you encouragement, don't you want to give someone else that same support? They may only be trying for 5 mos, but what if there is a real issue there? Wouldn't you want to share your experiences with them in the hopes they may have a positive outcome?

There's a "snarky and TTTC board", perhaps they would be better suited there. TTTC members are supportive of each other.

Shayliz

KRIS10L:

Well said xc1148!  Comments like that are what prevented me from participating in these boards for 2 years. ( Is two years of trying long enough to be posting on the TTTC board or should we wait longer?)  I don't understand why people aren't allowed to have feelings of discouragement without being attacked? Surely someone is giving you encouragement, don't you want to give someone else that same support? They may only be trying for 5 mos, but what if there is a real issue there? Wouldn't you want to share your experiences with them in the hopes they may have a positive outcome?

There's a "snarky and TTTC board", perhaps they would be better suited there. TTTC members are supportive of each other.

No, I don't want to share my experience with someone who has been trying for five months. It can take a healthy couple TWELVE months to conceive. She has seven months left before she even needs to think about having issues. 

There are also Pregnant after IF boards, where it looks like you would be better suited if you're just going to post here about how mean we are.  

knoll

KRIS10L:

Well said xc1148!  Comments like that are what prevented me from participating in these boards for 2 years. ( Is two years of trying long enough to be posting on the TTTC board or should we wait longer?)  I don't understand why people aren't allowed to have feelings of discouragement without being attacked? Surely someone is giving you encouragement, don't you want to give someone else that same support? They may only be trying for 5 mos, but what if there is a real issue there? Wouldn't you want to share your experiences with them in the hopes they may have a positive outcome?

There's a "snarky and TTTC board", perhaps they would be better suited there. TTTC members are supportive of each other.

 

I too have taken things this way that I have read. I more lurk on here than anything else lately because of how busy I am.. I lurk about once a week to catch up..!! Wish I had more time.

I have been trying over a year now but at 4 months knew something was wrong and got a diagnosis! I do not recommend waiting a year. Nowadays we are waiting longer in life to start trying and I say find the issue before you know there is one or you could miss out!!

If I had kept trying and not known there was an issue I would have wasted a year of my marriage and trying!! Seems crazy huh? So when women come on here and are new, we should give them advice and support because I sure do wish I had been given this info or the 8 years I dated my husband I would have checked before WAITING till we were ready to start and then being delayed!!

 I wish everyone on here the results we are all looking for and don't look at anyone as being better or trying harder than anyone else.. We all have our own issues and try to get the same results in different ways even... Lets come together more as 1 and we might all have a little more knowledge!