WWYD - LO's First Birthday

harlos40

My mom wants my sister and I, and our LOs, to fly to Indiana with her in June to visit our Grandmother (we all live in Oregon).  However, the flight she wants to book leaves on June 16th (LO's first birthday) which would mean we would miss LO's first birthday and father's day with DH (he is not coming, it's a girls trip).  

I feel like this shouldn't be a big deal, but I am having a strong emotional reaction to the thought of being away from DH on LO's first birthday and father's day.  Am I insane?

Ooglybear

It's a big deal to me. I wouldn't go.

justme04

I wouldn't go either.  As much as my DH would brush it off like it wouldn't matter to him I know he would secretly be a little sad not to have that special time with them.

Or maybe I just like to think it would upset him because birthdays are a huge deal to me...I kind of got used to ignoring father's day since my dad passed when I was 13, but I make an effort to remeber for DH.

Telly21182

I wouldn't do it, but that's me!  I would hate for DH to miss Ty's first birthday if avoidable, and his first father's day as well.  Technically last year was his first FD, but since Ty was born on FD it's a completely different thing.

I don't think you're being unreasonable for not wanting to leave that day.  What's so wrong about leaving a day later? 

harlos40

Thank you ladies for making me feel sane!  I think my mom's a little irritated with my decision not to go, since I haven't been to Indiana in years, but I just feel like I'll regret going more than I'll regret staying home and spending two special days with DH and Kaiya.

kimbo1216

I personally wouldn't go unless there was a better reason for the timing.  Why does it have to be the flight on his first birthday and why does it have to be during father's day.  That's not right, imo.  I could see if something significant were going on, but if it's "just because" I'd be out.

ishka338

I wouldn't go and would feel really bad too.  I think MH would be upset if he was away from LO on his bday and father's day too.  I would try to leave that Monday or even the next weekend. 

MrsPBNJ0220

I would not do it.  I think it is important for my DH to spend LO's birthday and Father's day with him.

DaisyJanie

Yeah I definitely wouldn't go unless there was some event or something. Why can't it be a different week?

harlos40

My mom can only go that week because of her work schedule and because she's in school to get her administrator's license.  I'm fine with she and my sister going, because it works for their schedules, it just doesn't work with mine given the important (to me!) events we have going on that week.

aottone

Is this a week long trip? Could you and LO fly out on Monday instead and still spend the rest of the week with them in Indiana?  Just a thought.

cvl105

I don't think I would really care...but it's hard to say before I'm in that position. If your husband doesn't care, I would just do it.

DramaMama06

yeah i wouldn't go. she can't leave on monday? or can you travel monday and meet up with them?

MommaA117

I couldn't take DD away from H on his very 1st Fathers Day...100% for sure on that. I really wouldn't want to on her 1st Birthday either. Your Mom should def understand that....

Dani0701

You would think your mom would be a little more respectful of that fact!  It's not like it's just a normal day and you're saying you don't want to go. It's LO's FIRST bday and DH's FIRST father's day! I'd try to go during the week and meet up.